neowulf Posted May 9, 2007 Posted May 9, 2007 After almost 5 1/2 years, I've come to the soul crushing decision that as badly as I want to, I just don't see myself marrying or having a family with my girlfriend. I've wrestled with my gut feelings on this for well over a year now. Paid hundreds of dollars to Psychologists and relationship counsellors to try and work through the issues. I've finally reached the point where deep down inside myself, I know it's what I have to do. It hurts so bad I want to die. I'm filled with remorse, with anger and grief. I tried everything to feel different. Tried to get back our love. Tried to feel better about things. Ignore it. Focus on other things. But I can't do it anymore... I have to let her go. So why post here? Because it's a lot less quiet than screaming at the top of my lungs. Quieter than crying out over and over again about how unfair life can be and how cheated I feel that after all this time, my feelings have betrayed me. She was wonderful in every way I thought mattered. And now she's gone. God have mercy on me.
Guest Posted May 9, 2007 Posted May 9, 2007 i do not understand you no longer have feelings for her or what? You need to give yourself time away from her to realise what you want. Time is important to everyone give yourself space yu may find yourself
loveratud Posted May 9, 2007 Posted May 9, 2007 Generally when you're world as you know it ends, you aren't the direct cause of it. I find it odd that you just felt things couldn't work out. What reasons did you use to justify the end of the relationship to yourself?
Megakurth Posted May 9, 2007 Posted May 9, 2007 sorry to hear man, some things.. just can't work. You can only try so hard before you come to the conclusion that you need to make that decision. My relationship wasn't as long, but my girlfriend made the decision that she just couldn't make things work anymore and had to do it for herself. You made the decision, it was most likely the right one, you need to do whats right for you and that other person. That feeling is a horrible feeling, but over time it will subside. Just hang in there. The feelings you have are normal. No matter what, its loss. Many may not, but it can be compared to losing the loss of one to death. Its still a loss of a loved one and you have to grieve in a similar way. Only in a way its so much harder, because you know that persons not dead, theyre just not with you. Thats some advice the counselor gave me in just trying to cope. Hope maybe it helped a little. Good luck, hang in there
funkify Posted May 9, 2007 Posted May 9, 2007 Think of it this way, if you really care her the best thing you can do for her is let her go. By holding onto a relationship that has no future you are doing both of you an injustice. Would you like your partner to be with you even if they really didn't love you? Likewise, wouldn't you want to be with someone you truly adore and look forward to spending the rest of your life with. I've gone through the same thing. Just ended a 6 year struggle with a man I probably fell out of love with about 3 years ago. But I convinced myself I couldn't live without him out of loneliness and fear. Now, it's all backfired and I'm a mess even though I know deep down I never really wanted to marry him in the first place. I understand your position completely. Feel free to PM me
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