lisabsmith Posted May 9, 2007 Posted May 9, 2007 Me and what i thought was the "love of my life" broke up about a YEAR ago... long story but worst break up in history,, well ever since .. every single time i get into a relationship or try to date another man it goes well the first mth or so then when things start getting serious i bail. i find SOMEthing wrong and i bail out of the relationship. i really do more than anything want to move foward and find someone to be with but after a mth or so im just like nah... and even if its the most perfect guy in the world i bail on him.. i should be over this ex of a year ago by now and sometimes i feel like i am and other times i just have a feeling like we are ment to be and im in some kind of bad dream or something.. i was hurt so deeply i dont know if i can ever let myself fall again . and in the meantime i feel like im hurting people who are truely good guys. or missing out on someone that could be really great because of my "wall". Whats wrong with me !!?
Lizzie60 Posted May 9, 2007 Posted May 9, 2007 nothing wrong with you... i guess some people need more time to heal. You just haven't met anyone yet that will make you forget the last ex. Just relax and give it some time... Enjoy your single life, take care of yourself, pamper yourself, indulge in small pleasures. Just take it easy, don't try so hard. Good luck!
Shadowdog36 Posted May 9, 2007 Posted May 9, 2007 Let me know if you ever figure out why you act this way. I'd love some insight into the inner workings of the damaged female mind. Regardless of what you say about not being willing to allow yourself to fall again, if you aren't willing to take that plunge, you'll never be able to completely be over the last guy that you allowed that with. Be willing to accept that type of relationship from others, and be willing to be hurt again, or else, you're chasing a dream, and, like the girl that brought me here originally, you'll end up alone, well past when you should be.
Megakurth Posted May 9, 2007 Posted May 9, 2007 how long before you got into another relationship after your ex? The one thing you need to do is take time to heal. Everyone heals differently, some it takes longer, some it takes less time. If it comes to it, don't go into relationships for now, casual dating might be your way to go until you feel comfortable. Breakups suck regardless, but either way its loss of a loved one. Let yourself find someone you are comfortable with before you go into something that turns into a relationship. Unfortunately, when people get dumped sometimes, they feel they did something wrong (I know I did). If you start seeing someone, honesty might be the best way of getting over it. Maybe just a simple "listen, unfortunately I went through a bad breakup this year and im going to take things slow, are you willing to go that route with me?". Also if you feel like you can't get through it alone, counseling might help you out, whether as advice or a way of helping you cope and help to find out why exactly you feel nothing can get serious again. Hope this helped.
socialight Posted May 9, 2007 Posted May 9, 2007 you need to seriously ask yourself if you want a real relationship, and if so, make sure you can envison the pros and cons that go along with it. My guess is you don't, atleast, not yet.
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