socialight Posted May 9, 2007 Posted May 9, 2007 I dated this girl for about a month. After an all day event we had sex for the first time. We had dinner the next week, and she was a little edgy, although she blamed it on work issues. The next week she breaks it off via email. So far so good. This is the wacky part -- a week later she sends this unsolicited email, i swear, 2,500+ words, I mean must have taken over 30 minutes to write, where she basically "lays out all my issues", most of which is just improper impressions she formed on little information. This is obviously over but what would drive someone to send such an email? Clearly I had an impact upon her of some kind. Ladies?
daisydo Posted May 9, 2007 Posted May 9, 2007 I dated this girl for about a month. After an all day event we had sex for the first time. We had dinner the next week, and she was a little edgy, although she blamed it on work issues. The next week she breaks it off via email. So far so good. This is the wacky part -- a week later she sends this unsolicited email, i swear, 2,500+ words, I mean must have taken over 30 minutes to write, where she basically "lays out all my issues", most of which is just improper impressions she formed on little information. This is obviously over but what would drive someone to send such an email? Clearly I had an impact upon her of some kind. Ladies? She wrote the email about your issues?
Author socialight Posted May 9, 2007 Author Posted May 9, 2007 she was writing about problems she saw in me or my behaviour. She had a few valid points but 95% of it was just pure unadulterated garbage.
daisydo Posted May 9, 2007 Posted May 9, 2007 she was writing about problems she saw in me or my behaviour. She had a few valid points but 95% of it was just pure unadulterated garbage. Well if it was all garbage.. My guess is that she is trying to get a reaction from you. I assume you were in NC after she broke up with you via email. This probably bruised her ego - maybe she thought you were going to call and beg and plead for her to reconsider. I guess she had to retaliate to make herself feel better. If it didn't work out, it didn't work out.. She would have just left you alone and not really cared enough to write a huge email. She was using you for an ego boost is my guess.. and wanted you to beg to be with her. She probably thinks she is better than you as well and can only assume that you would die to be with a woman as great as her. This is my guess. She showed her cards.. now keep yours hidden and you've got the upper hand in this one. I would continue NC and do not even respond to the email at all.. but my guess is you were going to do that anyways!
Author socialight Posted May 9, 2007 Author Posted May 9, 2007 i did write her back and apologize for the 5% that was actually valid, and make an offer to make amends. never heard from her (it's been about a week now), so I guess you are right, that was what she was after. My guess is she just really, really, had misgivings about giving it up.
Author socialight Posted May 9, 2007 Author Posted May 9, 2007 I am not that dumb, besides, I doubt it would fit into an entire post!
honeybees28 Posted May 10, 2007 Posted May 10, 2007 sounds to me like a girl who didnt like herself and wanted to bring down someone who she let get close to her. she was also probably trying to validate her "leaving you" ..or whatever she did. but in reality, she is someone with anger and probably thinks really crappily of herself. no worries.
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