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Posted

Questionaire :

 

How much alcohol do you drink daily ?

 

His answer : A little...

Real answer : 12 pack

 

How do you discipline the child ?

His answer : Time out

Real answer : Coat hangers , switches

 

Meaning this guy could falsify your questionaire. Even if you spoke to him you might get the same result.

 

If it were my child I would be concern with something far worse . Pervert molesters . Happens more than you know.

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I opt for a background check asap.

  • 4 weeks later...
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Your post strikes me a little close to home. Of course I understand the desire to protect your children and to worry that the people they're around are decent.

 

But on the OTHER hand, the mother of my boyfriend's child is something of an intolerant drama queen, and while I am in reality an extremely loving and responsible person, she has apparently come to the opinion that our differing ideologies must mean there's something seriously wrong with me and has no only tried to be controlling of me, but at one point refused to let my boyfriend's daughter see him because of some innocuous musing on barbies I made in a blog. (She somehow extrapolated that I was calling her a skank and criticizing her parenting from a short dialogue I had with her daughter about not every woman looking like barbie)

 

So really, at this point, your heart may be entirely in the right place, but I'd be inclined to say that it's never appropriate for an adult to try and control another adult, and that being a parent doesn't give you the right to interfere in your exes choices in life. You go out on a limb when you have a child with another person, and you give up some of your control over that child to that person.

 

As a non parent, I admit I might not be the best person to listen to. But, well - that's my two cents.

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