smily Posted May 8, 2007 Posted May 8, 2007 Ive been married for just over a year now and I have this terrible feeling my spouse is cheating on me. I've been noticing different behavior from him. He wont talk on his cell phone if im in the room. Whenever it rings he takes it outside or into the bathroom with him. Lately when he is on the computer if I walk into a room he drops windows down. I've caught him doing this and it really disturbs me. SHould I go through his computer? I cant look at his cell phone bill since it is a company phone (he uses for personal use as well) and I dont have acccess to the bill. I also noticed that whenever a certain female friend of his calls all of a sudden within two hours he will leave to go somewhere and he wont answer calls or texts from me. Am i just being overly suspicious? Do I follow him? Check up on where he says he is going?
33chris Posted May 11, 2007 Posted May 11, 2007 I think you should talk with your husband before beginning to go through his computer and cell phone records. I still believe that (despite being burned before) there has to be trust in a marriage for it to work. That said, I dont think you are being overly suspicious. My wife exhibited very very similar behavior and it turned out that she was cheating on me. At the time, I did ask her if she was seeing someone else and she denied it. I felt like a fool, and went on trusting her completely only to find out years later that she lied to me and was indeed seeing someone else.
azianpride143 Posted May 11, 2007 Posted May 11, 2007 Most of the time when you notice weird behaviour like this it is usually correct. I would take caution before confronting him. I would gather information and investigate further just to be sure. If you confront him now he may deny it and become overly cautious. Then you'll never know. Imagine I had concrete proof and my STBXW still denied the affair. Good luck.
mum2three Posted May 11, 2007 Posted May 11, 2007 I think it would be natural to seek answers. I do not feel it is betrayal to check his computer & cell records. If you approach him first, he may deny it and get rid of the evidence. If you find nothing, you should still talk to him to understand why he is acting different or if he has any issues with the marriage that you can solve together in counseling. If you suspect anything, it's probably a feeling that you can't shake off. Looking isn't going to harm anyone. You may find the answers to confirm your suspicions or nothing at all and it'll give you some peace. Either way, there must be something distance in your relationship with your husband to make you feel this way that needs attention.
mammax3 Posted May 11, 2007 Posted May 11, 2007 I agree with looking around before you say anything. I'd also check out the website marriagebuilders.com they've got lots of interesting info on there. Good luck. If you're sensing something wrong and noticing patterns that you describe, it's something fishy!
Unforgetable77 Posted May 11, 2007 Posted May 11, 2007 Smily try re-posting this in infidelity forum where lots of people are in similar situ's other than that IMO this sounds like typical cheating behaviour ''Theres NO smoke without fire''
Lizzie60 Posted May 11, 2007 Posted May 11, 2007 I think you already know the answer. It is quite obvious!
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