littlebopeep Posted May 8, 2007 Posted May 8, 2007 Its been 9 months since we broke up (he ended it ).Ive been through the tears,the hurt,the anger and after 4.5 years with him have learned that i can be ok on my own. I did the n/c but on a couple of occasions he text or rang me to see how i was and another couple of times to wish me luck for driving test and then to congratulate me when i passed.I was polite and friendly but each time he contacted me it reminded me that it was over and it put me back a little. However i got on with my life and even had a couple of dates which were nice but i didnt want anything else.My 1st love even asked for my new number that was something i never ever thought would happen as he was so stubborn.He broke my heart too but meeting my current ex made me realise i could love again. Just recently it was my birthday and i received lots of texts and cards.My ex had sent a text wishing me a lovely day and he hoped i had received his card.The post hadnt been but a card came from his parents and 1 from him saying he was sorry he couldnt deliver it by hand because he couldnt get home but to have a fantastic time. Why cant exs just leave us alone to get on with our lives?Im currently seeing some1 who is really nice but taking things slowly.I couldnt take my ex back,i would never trust him to not walk away with no warning again but apart from that he treat me good so i had no reason to really hate him. The fact that hes still been so caring since we broke up makes it so hard to resent him and im too soft anyway to harbour grudges.I just wish he had hated me or treat me bad when he ended it and i wouldnt be so confused. What would you people prefer?To have youe ex keep in contact or to cut you off completely.
funkify Posted May 8, 2007 Posted May 8, 2007 Well I guess those who have been dumped would like for the ex to keep in contact because you think if you were still in their lives there might be a chance somewhere that you two will get back together. BUT...as harsh as it may seem, NC is probably best as it gives both people space and the dumpee chance to move onto something better. It seems kind of futile to be in contact with an ex if one person still loves the other, like a stab in the heart every time you hear something from them or even about them from someone else. It's putting yourself through torture.
Lizzie60 Posted May 8, 2007 Posted May 8, 2007 Why cant exs just leave us alone to get on with our lives? This is simple... tell him to leave you alone once and for all! I stayed friend with all my exes... (2 LT and all the others) My first one is the father of my son... so we always kept it civil... I am still seeing my last ex from time to time... he is getting married this summer. They're all sweet.
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