darkspace Posted May 8, 2007 Posted May 8, 2007 I was doing so well, im now one week in from the breakup, one week in from NC, i thought i was doing well, sad, but forcing myself out, keeping busy with work..but today her name was mentioned by somebody and she was asking over me...and now ive gone 38 steps backwards I keep thinking of our memories, all the lifechanging events we shared, the things we did, and i cant stop imagining her sleeping with somebody else and things, my mind is just racing...i dont know what to do I know we werent a good match, and i was hurt time and time again, but those times get overshadowed by these memories and fantastic things, i realy miss her being around and having somebody I just want to jump straight into dating again, i know i know its a bad idea, i need to be happy by myself again before doing anything like that...or do i? Its been a damn hard day :-( Sorry for the rant!
cecil brown Posted May 8, 2007 Posted May 8, 2007 I feel your pain. I'm back at square one myself. I went 25 days NC until the racing thoughts got the best of me and I contacted her last week and have since seen her twice and talked to her as recently as today. Nothing good has come from me contacting her; she still doesn't want me, and I still feel like crap. I too am still flooded with the good memories and can't stand the thought of her with someone else. And I also miss the companionship. But what can we do? We can't control them, only ourselves. The pain sucks, but life has to go on. How is beating ourselves up over them going to help us? All we can do is work on ourselves and hope for the best.
randuff Posted May 8, 2007 Posted May 8, 2007 All 3 of us are in the same situation (except I am on day 2 of NC) and we need to stay the course. I use this forum as my release and feel better about things that have happened. Why we pine over someone who has hurt us and who we know isn't right for us is beyond me. I personally think it is the whole fact that we want something we can't have. We don't want them to be with someone else because we aren't. Don't get me wrong now, I think about her ALL the time but I try to remind myself that I will be fine and time heals all wounds. Heck she still hasn't changed her myspace from "in a relationship" to "single." I know how I will feel once she does but I will get over it. I don't know about you guys but posting on this website helps me out tremendously and I will continue to do so until I over well over her and beyond to help others that are in our situation down the road.
Salicious Crumb Posted May 8, 2007 Posted May 8, 2007 I just want to jump straight into dating again, i know i know its a bad idea, i need to be happy by myself again before doing anything like that...or do i?! Nah...you get out there and date. You don't have to commit to the first girl you hook up with....play the field a little. The best way to forget about someone is to find someone else...you just don't have to get engaged to someone within the first few months of dating.
Author darkspace Posted May 9, 2007 Author Posted May 9, 2007 tHANKs for the replies, i think you are right, we just love the idea of what we could have had, or something along those lines, even if they werent right for us, its still a loss, seeing somebody and them being part of your life, and then not, its like ripping off an arm or something, how do i cope with just one!? Feeling a bit better today, maybe reality is finaly sinking in a week later, i want to cry, but i cant..maybe i should make myself, look at photos one last time and let it all out?
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