LoveLace Posted May 8, 2007 Posted May 8, 2007 For the most part the popular opinion is that men do not like to discuss marriage, or at least get uncomfortable when their girlfriends bring it up. Some of you might already know the sitch with my roommate; I can see us growing old together, even though we are not "together", nor are we sleeping together, but I love him very much. Years ago we used to joke that we would end up married or living together. At a friend's wedding 8 yrs. ago, it was time to catch the bouquet, and at 1st I didn't care to participate. My roommate/friend at the time said, "Come on, ****, it could be me and you!" and of course we laughed. Here we are now as roommates, I care for him so deeply and think he would be a wonderful husband...but there are issues there...anyway, when we 1st moved in 9 mos ago we were having a discussion about marriages...I said I just hope I get "my day" one day. Then he said, "I'll marry you, ****" but again we laughed and joked about it being a fake wedding since we're not really together! Even though he's always supposedly joking...could it be that it all really means something?
Touche Posted May 8, 2007 Posted May 8, 2007 The only way to know is to stop joking about it and flat out ask one day. But I don't know..if he's too chicken shyt to be serious about it (if he really does have a think for you) then I don't know...Could it be that he's waitng for YOU to make the first move?
allina Posted May 8, 2007 Posted May 8, 2007 Well he's not your bf and you guys date other people so i would not tell him you want to marry him. The last thing you need is an awkward situation with your roomie, who you're in love with. I think it may be one of those situations where one day he realizes that "the one" has been right under his nose this whole time.
Author LoveLace Posted May 8, 2007 Author Posted May 8, 2007 Well he's not your bf and you guys date other people so i would not tell him you want to marry him. The last thing you need is an awkward situation with your roomie, who you're in love with. I think it may be one of those situations where one day he realizes that "the one" has been right under his nose this whole time. Well I wasn't planning on telling him I want to marry him, actually I've never even had the nerve to tell him how I feel, much less that I want to marry him. Our situation is already a bit awkward though, not in a bad way but... we've decided not to live together past the lease expiring...it was a decision made during a time of jealousy & misunderstandings that happened between us. But ever since we said "f888 this!", our relationship has a different feel to it...like we're being extremely nice to each other; almost like niether of us will admit that we wish it could have worked out better...my question is, what exactly were we hoping would "work out"? In the beginning of our roommate journey he suggested we get a house when the lease is up...we've known each other for years, but lost touch for a a couple of them, I didn't get why he'd want a house with someone who isn't his SO. I kept blowing off the topic so he dropped it. But now that we're splitting, he still intends to find a house...I don't think he wanted to do it alone. But did he think he could just use somebody for that, without dating them? His Ex-fiance left him just a couple years ago, for another guy, and they had plans to get a house and get married. He knew I loved him once years ago..at times I wonder if he started to regret not doing anything about it...I'm pretty confused these days...I'm posting all over this darn web site probably driving everyone crazy because I have yet to really talk to him about all that's happened over the last 9 mos, and about us.
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