Chamari Posted May 8, 2007 Posted May 8, 2007 I think I have finally realized what an odd relationship I have with my bf. Technically we broke up for the summer (we're both college students) since we would be in different states and I knew that if we were still a couple I'd feel awkward hanging out with people since he'd be gone and such, and also thought that I needed some space to figure myself out, but as far as I can tell we still talk as much as we would have had we not "broken up", so, yeah. It's a bit odd. Very nice I'll admit as the break had nothing to do with my feelings for him--we've both made it clear that we love each other and still do--but odd. The really odd part is that we had an amazing talk last night about a number of things, part of it about our break up and my reasons for it--since I was the once to initiate it. By the end of the discussion, he'd told me that I have to at least go on a date with two people I think I would be interested in relationshipwise before he'd ask me out again. Logically it does kind of make sense because part of the reason I wanted a break was because he's the only guy I've really dated and it felt like things were moving too fast too soon for me given my lack of experience with dating. Even so, I'm not sure he realizes exactly what he's just gotten himself into. I don't know if I'm picky or what but I meet a very small number of guys that I think I could actually like. Sure, there are lots of good-looking guys and there are a number that I think would be fun to get to know/ hang out with/ go on a date or two, but just not that many that I'm actually interested in romantically. So finding two of them and getting them to ask me out could take a long time. Anyways, sorry I got side tracked. I guess the thing that sruck me as incredibly odd about this entire thing is, how weird is it to be getting dating advice from an "ex" that loves you?
directx Posted May 8, 2007 Posted May 8, 2007 Sounds odd. Go date and tell him all the details how great your dates were. Then cut him out of your life unless you want to discuss your relationships with him from here on out. And most likely any guy you date wants your ex involved in this way. This looks like trouble.
Shizz Posted May 18, 2007 Posted May 18, 2007 LOL. It may be that he is mature enough that he wants you to actually go and do the reason why you broke up in the first place. To meet other people, and decide. If after going out with said romantic interests you still feel the same way about him, then you can get back together. In a sense he's being very noble and clever at the same time. Noble in the fact that he wants you to date other people, and is understanding enough to let you, and clever by the fact that if you do get back together its through choice, and not because he was the only guy you ever dated.
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