Guest Posted May 8, 2007 Posted May 8, 2007 My bf and I have been in a semi-ldr since we started dating in august (separated by only 100 miles, but those 100 feel like 1000 since our school and work schedules conflict). My question is, does being in an LDR make anyone else want more signs of commitment? We've been together for less than a year, but lately I've noticed myself getting the marriage bug, wanting a commitment for our future, etc. Specifically, I want to know whether to press the issue of me committing to his city when I finish up my masters degree in December...is it too soon?
catrocks Posted May 12, 2007 Posted May 12, 2007 I don't think it's too soon - for some people it might be but others it might not if you see what I mean, so it depends on you. If you feel ready then maybe you could try bringing up the subject to see how he feels - you don't have to say "so, when are you gonna propose?" but maybe asking him what he sees happening once you've finished your Masters. It helps to know how he feels before you really start thinking about your options though. I definitely don't think it's too soon, but it really depends on how open he is to marriage and long term commitment. The only way you can know is to ask him - it's the perfect time to move, see what he thinks
dazz187s Posted May 17, 2007 Posted May 17, 2007 Now, if your enjoying the relationship and things are working out with this LDR, then just try to relax and let things be(just my opinion as a guy, again i could be wrong) I with someone for almost 7 years and thing were great in both our parts. Just that her stress about her life isn't doing wonders, so things ended so that she can go find out what she wants out of life(trust me...long story and yes, it is still hard to let her go) But thats the thing, no pressure and enjoy these moments and i know guys who are afraid of marriage but there are other guys (like yours truly) who wouldn't mind spending their lives with someone they can relate and trust.
thatmatt Posted May 17, 2007 Posted May 17, 2007 I think it depends on the situation, but for me(an 18 month relationship, 6 LDR), I needed signs of committment when it came to a point where I was about to make a big sacrafice. I was planning on moving closer to her (we were on separate sides of the country) to go to college, a large reason was to be closer to her, to help our relationship. In the end i've realized that she doesn't, and didn't at the time, really know what she wanted, the signs were all there. It was too big of a risk for me to take not knowing what my place was in her life. If you are considering moving to his city once you finish school, I think you are entitled to know where he stands.
thats_so_not_cool Posted May 27, 2007 Posted May 27, 2007 dude, if you finish your masters, go live your life! it would only be a mistake if you were sacrificing/jeopardizing your education. also, if you're a young woman with a your masters-why would you wanna get married anyway!!?? life is only starting for you
norajane Posted May 27, 2007 Posted May 27, 2007 We've been together for less than a year, but lately I've noticed myself getting the marriage bug, wanting a commitment for our future, etc. Specifically, I want to know whether to press the issue of me committing to his city when I finish up my masters degree in December...is it too soon? Less than a year, and all of it long distance...yes, it may be too soon to press for marriage! However, it's not too soon to consider where you will move after finishing your degree. What are the job prospects in his city? How expensive is it to live there, and would you be able to afford a place of your own? Is he talking about how he's looking forward to your graduation so you might move closer to him, or has he not mentioned it at all? You might want to start talking with him about all the options you have for after you get your degree, and ask him what his thoughts are so you can get a feel for his view on your relationship and what he hopes for the future.
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