turtle32 Posted May 8, 2007 Posted May 8, 2007 Ok here it is i met this lady and she is very beautiful we have been seeing each other for 5 months i love everything about her and she seems to really like me alot I live in kentucky and she live sin chicago i know i live in a rural area and she knows how it is people are conservative as well as i am , But here is my problem she is a very attractive lady she is beautiful with a very nice body and she wears really tight cloths and this makes me uncomfortable every man that walks by her looks even my friends have made comments about how tight her jeans are , now i am a christian man and dont feel woman should dress like that and i wonder what her motives is why she wears such tight jeans and tops i feel really uncomfortable about it and i am afraid if i tell her it may cause her to not want to be with me why do woman wear cloths so tight does she want to draw attention to herself wanting other men to look at her i wonder how she would like if i put on jeans everyday so tight that everywoman could see how big i was anyways i really dont know how to ask her or tell her how i feel i just know it will ruin it:(
polywog Posted May 8, 2007 Posted May 8, 2007 Turtle, maybe she hasn't given it much thought. And since she lives in the city, maybe that's just how she is used to dressing. If it's really bugging you, perhaps you could bring it up in a very diplomatic and non-confrontational way. In a way that's open to hearing her side, not making her feel bad. She's from a different culture (city) than yours (rural). Maybe you two will come to understand each other better. Don't let your unhappiness fester without talking to her. And give her a chance to understand your concerns. Good Luck.
Guest Posted May 8, 2007 Posted May 8, 2007 Yeah that is what i want to do but i know from past experience that most of the time woman get offended or think i ma trying to be controlling and im not it just really bothers me that a woman wants to dress like that i mean when i se woman that dress like that i think or have red flags pop up im just trying to understand why and has she thought how it makes me feel and if she would like to be in my shoes i really dont know i just ahve this gut feeling if i say it she will run i dont know.
sweetbutcheeky Posted May 8, 2007 Posted May 8, 2007 Was the way she dressed one of the things that first caught your eye when you met? Maybe now it makes you uncomfortable because it makes you wonder if other guys think she is still on the market since she is still advertising? Though I have a question, are you two a couple? I would say maybe wait to say anything until your a couple. I was dating a guy and he asked me to make changes and we had only been dating a month. I though it was kinda strange to ask me to take out some of my ear rings (I have four in each ear) or not wear on pair of running shoes (too chunky, not lady like lol - they are sketchers!). I was thinking your asking me to change things I wear and I'm not even your girlfriend? Maybe say something like you know that woman dress differently in the city but explain how her tight or revealing the clothes are make you uncomfortable. Don't mention that you don't like how she looks in them or anything like that. (do I look fat in these jeans? lol dangerous area)
Enema Posted May 9, 2007 Posted May 9, 2007 She's proud of what she's got and enjoys looking good, your description of her clothes doesn't sound inappropriate at all. Who cares if people look? She's with you! Don't become "that" controlling guy, you'll lose her respect instantly. You have no right to tell her how to dress.
Shizz Posted May 18, 2007 Posted May 18, 2007 Lol, sexy jeans aren't so bad. As long as she isn't popping about in mini skirts. (I swear this is a method used by women to cause car accidents As long as she isn't bouncing around looking like a complete tart then I wouldn't worry.
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