lindya Posted May 7, 2007 Posted May 7, 2007 Good for him... the last part was funny... and I bet you wish it was true.. LOL Haha. I think life will present other chances for me to silently bond with an excellent human being in shared contempt for public yowlings. Or perhaps I should take a more tolerant stance. Next time I'll just make eye contact with some stud and announce "Isn't this very passionate? I don't know about you, but my loins stir to the sound of drunks incoherently yelling out their pent up, petty complaints against eachother. Let's shag at once."
alphamale Posted May 7, 2007 Posted May 7, 2007 I'll do anything to avoid public fights. I've never fought with any of my exes in public. . I never fight in public with a SO. I have never fought with my current SO People who don't fight in public at least once a while are weak and pathetic. You folks obviously care way too much what others think of you and your behavior. You're all afraid of being embarassed. If something came up and I felt strongly about it I would have no qualms putting someone in their place if front of others. You should try it, its quite empowering. But don't do it just for fun or to get kicks, do it when someone has really really pissed you off or committed a huge faux pas.
Trialbyfire Posted May 7, 2007 Posted May 7, 2007 People who don't fight in public at least once a while are weak and pathetic. You folks obviously care way too much what others think of you and your behavior. You're all afraid of being embarassed. If something came up and I felt strongly about it I would have no qualms putting someone in their place if front of others. You should try it, its quite empowering. But don't do it just for fun or to get kicks, do it when someone has really really pissed you off or committed a huge faux pas. There's a difference between debating issues, therefore taking a stance on something you believe in, and airing dirty laundry in public. It's not what others think, more like, why subject them to our personal issues?
allina Posted May 7, 2007 Posted May 7, 2007 People who don't fight in public at least once a while are weak and pathetic. You folks obviously care way too much what others think of you and your behavior. You're all afraid of being embarassed. If something came up and I felt strongly about it I would have no qualms putting someone in their place if front of others. You should try it, its quite empowering. But don't do it just for fun or to get kicks, do it when someone has really really pissed you off or committed a huge faux pas. I have been with my SO for a bit under one year, sorry buddy but in this time we have not pissed each other off in a way that would lead to a fight. When we disagree about things it is made clear by normal conversation.
My Fair Katie Posted May 7, 2007 Posted May 7, 2007 People who don't fight in public at least once a while are weak and pathetic. You folks obviously care way too much what others think of you and your behavior. You're all afraid of being embarassed. If something came up and I felt strongly about it I would have no qualms putting someone in their place if front of others. I don't like airing my dirty laundry for other's to hear. Yes, it's embarrassing. My DH fights dirty, he brings up things that have no bearing on an argument to be hurtful. I don't want other people seeing him do that to me. The one and only time I got into an argument with him in public (and yes it involved alcohol--on my part, not his, he was the designated) we were at a bar and I was about to graduate from college. At the time I hadn't yet got a job and he made the joke that I didn't need one because I got what I needed out of college, my "MRS degree." He shocked all my friends with that and I saw red. We almost broke up on the spot, but my friends convinced me it was just a bad joke and I was being a wee bit sensitive.
Trialbyfire Posted May 7, 2007 Posted May 7, 2007 Really....no one needs to know that he doesn't always put his laundry into the laundry hamper... So trivial, so silly and such unnecessary sharing of information. TMI...
alphamale Posted May 7, 2007 Posted May 7, 2007 It's not what others think, more like, why subject them to our personal issues? Look, everyone is allowed to have a good public fight on occasion. I've been subjected to them by others so I have a right to do it if I want. I've seen couples go at it in front of everyone and its really no big deal. Its actually good entertainment. There's nothing wrong with it as long as it doesn't get out of hand and there's no physicial violence. I mean if the cops are called then it may have gone too far.
allina Posted May 7, 2007 Posted May 7, 2007 Look, everyone is allowed to have a good public fight on occasion. I've been subjected to them by others so I have a right to do it if I want. I've seen couples go at it in front of everyone and its really no big deal. Its actually good entertainment. There's nothing wrong with it as long as it doesn't get out of hand and there's no physicial violence. I mean if the cops are called then it may have gone too far. For me it's not so much about others it's about me. I am a reasonable, mentally healthy adult, so if my bf. I hold myself to a higher standard than to snap at the man I love for no reason and go ape sh*t on him.
Author IpAncA Posted May 8, 2007 Author Posted May 8, 2007 For me it's not so much about others it's about me. I am a reasonable, mentally healthy adult, so if my bf. I hold myself to a higher standard than to snap at the man I love for no reason and go ape sh*t on him. You don't have to. Just wait until you have a good enough reason in YOUR mind. There willl be something you or him can't take anymore. Give it time. Better yet wait until your married. I'm sure one will pop in there.
Trialbyfire Posted May 8, 2007 Posted May 8, 2007 Look, everyone is allowed to have a good public fight on occasion. I've been subjected to them by others so I have a right to do it if I want. I've seen couples go at it in front of everyone and its really no big deal. Its actually good entertainment. There's nothing wrong with it as long as it doesn't get out of hand and there's no physicial violence. I mean if the cops are called then it may have gone too far. Perhaps that's the difference. I cringe and will exit if people are fighting. Since it bothers me to watch it, this is probably why I don't subject anyone else to it. I also don't watch Reality TV for the exact same reason. I mostly find it embarrassing and at the same time, very fake. Give me a documentary any day.
Pyro Posted May 8, 2007 Posted May 8, 2007 Perhaps that's the difference. I cringe and will exit if people are fighting. Since it bothers me to watch it, this is probably why I don't subject anyone else to it. I also don't watch Reality TV for the exact same reason. I mostly find it embarrassing and at the same time, very fake. Give me a documentary any day. Exactly. If I want to see any sort of public stupidity, then I will watch Springer or something. Alpha really cracks me up sometimes.
Trialbyfire Posted May 8, 2007 Posted May 8, 2007 Exactly. If I want to see any sort of public stupidity, then I will watch Springer or something. Jerry, Jerry, Jerry... I watched that show...once...
Pyro Posted May 8, 2007 Posted May 8, 2007 Jerry, Jerry, Jerry... I watched that show...once... I couldn't even make it though one show. I like watching Cheaters and see the reactions of those people that get caught cheating.
Trialbyfire Posted May 8, 2007 Posted May 8, 2007 I couldn't even make it though one show. I like watching Cheaters and see the reactions of those people that get caught cheating. To clarify, neither did I. I think I lasted about 15 minutes. I didn't even know a show like that existed. Considering my background, I might enjoy it too. "Hey, I recognize that look and that one, and that one"...
Pyro Posted May 8, 2007 Posted May 8, 2007 To clarify, neither did I. I think I lasted about 15 minutes. I didn't even know a show like that existed. Considering my background, I might enjoy it too. "Hey, I recognize that look and that one, and that one"... Check your tv guide. Its on about five days a week around here. They have private detectives follow the suspected cheater around with cameras for a few weeks, show the BS the footage and then they all go and confront the person while they are with the OM/OW and its all on tape. It is very comical. If you are interested, you can always read up about it online.
Woggle Posted May 8, 2007 Posted May 8, 2007 Has anybody here lived next door to a couple that fought all the time? My wife was telling about how she used to live in an apartment next door to one of these couples. The guy used to get pissed all the time and smash up the place and one night he got so mad that he kicked a whole in the wall between her apartment and theirs.
Pyro Posted May 8, 2007 Posted May 8, 2007 Has anybody here lived next door to a couple that fought all the time? My wife was telling about how she used to live in an apartment next door to one of these couples. The guy used to get pissed all the time and smash up the place and one night he got so mad that he kicked a whole in the wall between her apartment and theirs. Two of my ex-friends fought all the time, especially when they had alcohol in them. They had to get the lock fixed on their apt. twice and the pantry door came off the hinges a few times and even the closet door had the same results. Their fights were very white trash and immature. I still don't understand those who think that it is acceptable to argue in public, even if its kept clean. I am not interested in hearing about someone elses problems unless they are a friend and they come to me for advice.
alphamale Posted May 8, 2007 Posted May 8, 2007 Has anybody here lived next door to a couple that fought all the time? My wife was telling about how she used to live in an apartment next door to one of these couples. The guy used to get pissed all the time and smash up the place and one night he got so mad that he kicked a whole in the wall between her apartment and theirs. well thats not classified as public fighting....unless your wife stuck her head thru the hole and watched.
This_Too_Shall_Pass Posted May 9, 2007 Posted May 9, 2007 I remember sitting in a train and being subjected to one side of a very noisy lovers' tiff. This woman was shrieking on her phone to the hapless bloke who had, apparently, moved in with her quite recently. One second she would screech down the phone, and the next she would roll her eyes with frustration to other passengers...as though a single one of us gave a gnat's turd about her tedious household drama. I found myself exchanging increasingly irate eye contact with a man sitting close to her. Eventually he got up, walked over to her seat, tapped her on the shoulder and said "Nobody cares. Switch the bloody thing off." Then he and I jumped off the train, rushed back to my place and had some very jolly "well done, sir - that taught that self-important chav tart a much needed lesson in manners..." sex. All right, I made that last part up. Lindya, thank you for posting the posts you post. Make my LS visits much more fun.
This_Too_Shall_Pass Posted May 9, 2007 Posted May 9, 2007 I couldn't even make it though one show. I like watching Cheaters and see the reactions of those people that get caught cheating. Are you serious, Rid? My opinion is the polar opposite in this case. That has to be one of the most sadistic shows on TV! Worse than the bachelor-ette series. I've watched a couple of episodes of "Cheaters". In my opinion, all they do is pay someone to uncover their private life, then roll in all the mud, confront the "cheating SO"....and all the while, the "Cheaters" crew is zooming in on their reactions with video cams. They record all the unpleasant details, all the screaming and fighting. And the host of the show has the impunity to ask, "Do you think what you did was wrong? Did you know that your BF / GF would be upset?" It's perverted...voyeuristic (that's the best term I can find). I'm not going to watch it again.
Woggle Posted May 9, 2007 Posted May 9, 2007 well thats not classified as public fighting....unless your wife stuck her head thru the hole and watched. She sure heard it every night.
Pyro Posted May 9, 2007 Posted May 9, 2007 Are you serious, Rid? My opinion is the polar opposite in this case. That has to be one of the most sadistic shows on TV! Worse than the bachelor-ette series. I've watched a couple of episodes of "Cheaters". In my opinion, all they do is pay someone to uncover their private life, then roll in all the mud, confront the "cheating SO"....and all the while, the "Cheaters" crew is zooming in on their reactions with video cams. They record all the unpleasant details, all the screaming and fighting. And the host of the show has the impunity to ask, "Do you think what you did was wrong? Did you know that your BF / GF would be upset?" It's perverted...voyeuristic (that's the best term I can find). I'm not going to watch it again. Keep it mind too TTSP that both sides agree to let the footage be shown on television before it occurs. But the person being cheated on deserves to know the truth of what is happening and if they can't get that from their SO, then who can they get it from? I agree that they do like to zoom in on the dramatic aspect of what is happening, but like I said, everyone deserves to know the truth. Therefore, you don't have to waste anymore of your time in a relationship that the other person clearly is not interested in.
nicki Posted May 10, 2007 Posted May 10, 2007 I've watched Cheaters. Cheap show, but I also think the "cheatees" have the right to know what's going on. And the cheaters have the right to be caught (and they do have to agree to have the show aired.) As for fighting in public, If something subtle pisses me off while we are out, I will quietly seethe until we get home. Only with him, though. I'll be nice to everyone else. A smart SO knows when his SO is mad. If he asks about it while out, I quietly tell him what it is about. We can talk about it later. On with the fun, as long as he notices I'm upset and tries to smooth things over. But, if my guy had said the "mrs degree" comment, I would have felt the need to verbally spar. Maybe to say something witty and biting back....(don't know what that would have been, just something brilliant!) If bitten, I tend to bite back right away. I suppose I should work on that, but why? Now, if someone is just generally pissed and arguing about taking the trash out or relationship issues, then stay home and work things out. Don't go out mad. I find it very low class to hear people argue like that in public.
alphamale Posted May 10, 2007 Posted May 10, 2007 I think men would get into public confrontations more than women would. Women tend to worry too much about what others will think and being "embarrassed".
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