dorky328 Posted May 6, 2007 Posted May 6, 2007 a month and a year ago my ex broke up with me .. our LTR was about 3 years .. almost got engaged .. she made me fly to her hometown and meet her parents .. blah blah .. nevertheless .. she simply walked out one day .. no comprehensible reason given .. all i could deduce was that she fell out of love or wanted to explore the greener grass .. whatever (i know for sure she was not seeing anyone at the time she broke up so it wasn't another person) I did LC and then NC for the best part of 6 months and then we had 1/2 liner emails around my b'day and then her b'day .. started to become LC with occassional 5 mins chats on IM etc etc ... out of the blue (unsolicitated by me) she starts telling me how she had time to reflect on our relationship .. how much she learned .. blah blah blah .. i'm reading that with 0 emotions, perhaps a touch of pity for her. i was depressed for 6 mos after the breakup .. didn't go out, socialize anything.. and then i started dating v. frequently and although none of those dates have developed into anything significant, they have helped me totally get over this girl who ... at this time last year i used to think ruined my life! LOL! her msgs keep getting increasingly needy and wanting to meet etc etc .. i can't help but feel in so much a position of power now .. a good one year after the break up .. so bottom line you people .. mourn your relationship .. be sad pathetic and whatever else but after a while just get your sorry asses out there and force yourself to get back into the GAME .. even though you may not find the love of your life .. it will SO help you get over that evil EX from what will seem a lifetime ago
norajane Posted May 7, 2007 Posted May 7, 2007 Good for you - proof that living well is really the best revenge. Live well and you won't even care what the ex is doing!
CaliGuy Posted May 7, 2007 Posted May 7, 2007 Great advice. Easy to give, hard to take sometimes. Sometimes we won't move on for fear we will lose something that essentially we've already lost (or Ex's). I'm dating now. It's fun Get to meet some really cool people, I love the compliments (great for my self esteem) and I am learning a ton. Even the bad dates can be made fun.
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