Ladies do you feel that the quiet guys are intimidating

[Nice Guy21]

Hello everone well it seems that all through my high school years I've had chances with girls that I didn't know about until recent and one girl told me she was intimidated to approach me cause I was quiet and always had a stricltly buisness look to so she said. I'm a people person and I'll talk to anyone but a lot of times I know for myself I'm very goal oriented and very determined if theres something I want to accomplish. Now I'm 22 single and have a pretty decent job and would like to have someone special but it seems as though the women my age aren't interested I've also been told I was to nice but I believe in treating women with respect I've got 2 older sisters and I'm very close to my sisters and mom. I know I don't go out a whole hell of a lot but a lot of my friends are into just getting drunk and actin a damn fool every weekend and I'm the opposite so is it that guys like me are to boring for women my age. I guess I'm just a lil frustrated my ex cheated on me twice before I cut her a loose and she said it was my fault she cheated. Sorry if it looks like I'm carrying on just venting.

[Trialbyfire]

Don't worry. You're getting close to the age when life likes to turn things around. A guy with your drive will be financially secure at 30 and the guys out partying and getting the chicks will be calling you "Sir"...

[amaysngrace]

I agree with trial by fire. You have ambition and can see how your friends act stupid. I don't think that makes you weirdo at all. I think the right girl is going to just love this about you.

 

Just make sure you make time for fun.

[kepners]

funfunfun till daddy put the t-bird away.

 

well you want to know what intemdating.... ME! 6'9 of monster! You try getting a woman when ur my size! its not easy at all! you will not believe how hard it is. i get these phrases all the time

 

1 - wow ur so tall and big you scare me

2 - wow ur so strong you scare me

3 - i bet ur a teddy bear really...

4 - my friends are all scared of you...

5 - your so fit... i bet u fight women off (older women only...)

 

when in truth, i dont, i get nothing... but going out and having fun and chatting is the key, cuz u dont get anywhere at home on your own!

 

mate you have sisters! you must be so relaxed around women!!! come on!

[Nice Guy21]

I'm 6'1 215lbs and I don't think I'm that big but I sometimes hear : you.re a big boy.

[monkey00]

Im in a similar boat also, but I dont consider myself quiet/shy, more like introvert since I dont always have the energy to be a social chameleon but Im always open to people talking to me...whether or not they realize it, and I regularly socialize when I have the energy.

 

Anyway the point is, sometimes silence can be intimidating. So are facial demanors. When I meet people they think Im always busy or have lots going on in my life (or more on my mind). And the less people talk to me, the more of a mystery I remain - again which leads back to intimidating. The less you know about someone, the more of a stranger they are to you.

 

The way people are who have the energy to socialize a lot, often do have the approachable vibe (dont forget that smile!). And the more people know about them, the less intimidating they become. Of course that doesnt mean that shy people wont find the socializers intimidating!

 

What you can start doing is greet people with a smile when you see them, at least it shows you're friendly which is a great start.