Rewind Posted May 6, 2007 Posted May 6, 2007 I am soo sick of my one friends constantely flaking out whenever we have plans. I know she does it on spite. The girl has issues..always has..mainly with her weight..so she overcompensates for it by always saying how she knows so many people, or how she knows she looks good, etc. So I know she's never really been one into the clubs well bc she has nothing to wear. So as we've gotten older..now in our 20s we have pretty much nothing in common anymore and we've become like phone friends where I listen to her complain about guys or her imaginary bf's..I mean she really has nothing other going on it her life. So we'll make plans here and there to go out on a weekend to get drinks or something then everytime the night of she'll suddenly get sick, or get tired or fall asleep..and I'm stuck sitting at home. She did it again tonight after asking me on wed to go out. I literally wanted to hang the phone up when she decided to call me back 4 hrs after I called. I said to her "wow u always seem to get sick on a sat night when we have plans" then told her I was busy and I had to go. We have zilch in common and unfortunately I pretty much have to somehow make new friends bc the friendship with her just isn't worth it and I'm sick or sitting home bc other people back out on plans. Am I wrong here? Sorry but I needed to vent.
AlyssaDoll Posted May 9, 2007 Posted May 9, 2007 I don't think you're wrong. I think you should get out and meet new people. You're right it's not fair. I know I wouldn't want to be sitting at home bored either. If you consider her any type of friend I think I'd just come right out and tell her how you feel and what you're doing. Good luck! =)
Star Gazer Posted May 9, 2007 Posted May 9, 2007 The girl has issues..always has..mainly with her weight... So I know she's never really been one into the clubs well bc she has nothing to wear... So as we've gotten older..now in our 20s we have pretty much nothing in common anymore and we've become like phone friends where I listen to her complain about guys or her imaginary bf's... I mean she really has nothing other going on it her life." Honestly, if you had the same catty things to say about me, I'd probably be flaking on you too. Sounds like misery loves company. Maybe she's looking for better company?
Verona007 Posted May 10, 2007 Posted May 10, 2007 I wonder if we know the same person. I know a girl who's just like this! Its like pulling teeth to get her out of her own apartment, to try something new, or drive more than 2 miles away from her place to do anything. She lives close to our Uni. and I live on the other side of town. If I was at home, and called her to my side of town, to hang out I doubt she would do it. But I've driven all the way to where she lives, past the Uni to hang out with her many times. We were supposed to move in together at one point, and now I don't think I want to anymore, because she would just bring my mood way down. She only wants what's convenient and comfortable, and frankly that's sad.
Author Rewind Posted May 12, 2007 Author Posted May 12, 2007 Honestly, if you had the same catty things to say about me, I'd probably be flaking on you too. Sounds like misery loves company. Maybe she's looking for better company? catty? u must not know what the word means. This is plain description of her. And obviously no one tells the girl she has issues to her face.
Author Rewind Posted May 12, 2007 Author Posted May 12, 2007 I wonder if we know the same person. I know a girl who's just like this! Its like pulling teeth to get her out of her own apartment, to try something new, or drive more than 2 miles away from her place to do anything. She lives close to our Uni. and I live on the other side of town. If I was at home, and called her to my side of town, to hang out I doubt she would do it. But I've driven all the way to where she lives, past the Uni to hang out with her many times. We were supposed to move in together at one point, and now I don't think I want to anymore, because she would just bring my mood way down. She only wants what's convenient and comfortable, and frankly that's sad. exactly how she is...she likes sitting in her basement on the weekends. Or she'll call me up when she happens to be around my neighborhood on a week night and see if she can come over. Sorry in the evenings I have things to do when I get in from work and having people just drop by unexpectdly I don't call that us having plans to hang out.
Verona007 Posted May 25, 2007 Posted May 25, 2007 Yea, that's definitely not what I would call making plans either. That's just inconsiderate. The thing is, she's probably not a horrible person, she's just got this really lazy side to her personality. It's like she really only wants what's given to her on a platter, she only wants what she doesnt really have to work for. Unfortunately you guys may have to stop being friends, because as you get older, its only going to become more apparent how much you don't have in common. Im probably going to stop being friends with this girl Im having problems with too, she only wants what's convenient. Im not saying she's got to go to grand measures to prove she wants to me my friend, but she needs to make some sort of an effort!
Star Gazer Posted May 25, 2007 Posted May 25, 2007 catty? u must not know what the word means. This is plain description of her. And obviously no one tells the girl she has issues to her face. I know the meaning of the word. The mean-spirited things you said about your 'friend' were catty. Talking about her weight, she doesn't have anything good enough to wear to go out, thinking she has imaginary BFs, that she has nothing going for her...these are MEAN and CATTY things to say about someone, particularly someone you would label with the term FRIEND. So sad, so sad. Why doesn't anyone discuss what YOU perceive to be her 'issues' with her?? When a FRIEND sees another FRIEND is having a hard time, they reach out to that FRIEND and try to HELP them, CONSOLE them, HELP them. Talking about her behind her back isn't going to help her with the things YOU believe are her "issues." Like the saying goes, "With friends like you, who needs enemies?"
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