hrtbroken99 Posted May 5, 2007 Posted May 5, 2007 I am such a loser My ex who left meof 2.5 yrs, contacted me a week ago. the past months i have done nc with him He left a voice msg I didnt want to call him and just sent an email hello, got your voice msg. I am doing well. Hope things are good with you...and that was it. Anyways, so yesterday I dont know whyyyyy I called him, he didnt answer and i just left a msg, but i didnt say anytning in the msg like call me or anything. I am so mad at myself for calling him. I should have just ended at the email I dont want him to think that I am crazy about him. and i bet he does since i emailed and called him i was doing so good i messed up can anyone help me feel better:mad:
kepners Posted May 5, 2007 Posted May 5, 2007 babe be grateful your ex contacted you! i lost my ex yesterday shes dumped me from her life totally. i feel rudderless.... either way, we brokeup and i NC her first then i contacted her... we got real close then it crashed and burned 2weeks ago... tried sorting it this week then it exploded yesterday.... he likes you and wants you back thats why he's contacting you. if its not what you want then it dont matter what he thinks does it! think about that, you dont care what any other of your ex's think... so he's no different.
bchlvr Posted May 6, 2007 Posted May 6, 2007 Heartbroken- IMHO, I think you did great! I understand wanting to maintain no contact. Sometimes in the process of moving on, we do a little back and forthing. After months of nc, I also understand the urge to make contact if the opportunity arises. And here you had the opportunity. Maybe all this means is that you are still letting go of a lingering attachment and there's a little ambivalence about moving on and holding on. Based on what you said in your e-mail, it sounds like you gave him the message that you doing fine. That's all. You were mature and polite. Most importantly, you did not go into anything or give him a reason to think that you wish to have ongoing communication with him or that anything has changed in the way of not having contact right now. Even the phone call does not change anything. There is nothing here that suggests that you are still crazy about your ex. It all sounds relatively benign. The boundaries you have set are still there. Just go back to nc. Think about why you felt the need to call him, but be gentle and patient with yourself.
AriaIncognito Posted May 6, 2007 Posted May 6, 2007 I agree with bchlvr. I don't see that anything about either contact implied needing him or wanting him. You merely responded to his phone call. If I tried to reply back to someones phone call, using an alternate method, and didnt hear back, i too would probably make the call, because maybe they dont check their email. Heck, he could have you filtered out for all you know. Either way, don't beat yourself up over it. You didn't do anything wrong that I can see. If you don't want to send him the wrong signals, then make sure you wait for him to return your call now, otherwise then I'd say you're getting into the weird zone, but right now, you're fine. :-)
Author hrtbroken99 Posted May 6, 2007 Author Posted May 6, 2007 thanks for all of your responses I will continue with my NC now I guess because I emailed and called I didnt want him to think I desperately want him or something I must admit I do still love him but I know that he doesnt deserve me...yes the heart still aches for him anyways, thanks again everyone! I appreciate your words!
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