pricillia Posted May 5, 2007 Posted May 5, 2007 I have a friend who set her sights on someone that she is attracted to... He works with us and has been there for about two months, came in with about 5 other new hires. She is pretty outgoing when it comes to the guys, she pulls them in to her world and flirts a lot. She makes it a point to seek him out and I am pretty sure that she makes the first move as far as talking goes. I can see that he is attracted to her but not sure what the deal is. They spent time together as she met some of his family and spent the night and all they did was cuddle... The next day he was distant and did not really pay attention to her. She asks me for advice on this matter and I am not sure what to tell her... Does anyone have any insight?
kepners Posted May 5, 2007 Posted May 5, 2007 bloke hey! if its not for you, ur then jealous of her HAHA - but the fact he's gone cold, tell her to back off! and not be so heavy... or confront him in a blunt-force-truma-way tell her to tell you the truth of what actually happened that evening then you will know the answer.
Author pricillia Posted May 5, 2007 Author Posted May 5, 2007 bloke hey! if its not for you, ur then jealous of her HAHA - but the fact he's gone cold, tell her to back off! and not be so heavy... or confront him in a blunt-force-truma-way tell her to tell you the truth of what actually happened that evening then you will know the answer. I am not jealous of her at all... she is my friend, and I do not get jealous that is childish... so to ad to this I am asking because she always asks for advice and I am trying to get other opinions. She feels like she ruins relationships with guys that she really likes and that this is a pattern for her. I am not sure why he went cold.. maybe she came on to strong... or as a guy if you see a girl that seems to be interersted in you as well flirting with other guys would you try harder or get cold. That is the only reason why I think he may have gotten cold... she is a beatifull smart fun girl to be around... not flaky ect ect...
kepners Posted May 5, 2007 Posted May 5, 2007 not childish... its human nature! :S well, for me to go cold, means that shes not allowed me to be the man and not let me chase her. i mean what a bloke wants its signals all the time that they are doingg a good job and to carry on. not being told what to do. its a tiny difference but a massive one. you want her to say ur doing a good job and to carry on... and little nudges in the right direction and little signs saying 'hey more of that' not billboards say i want this... that wont work. certainly for me, i like to think i am incharge until she says NO. like i want to think shes a virgin not the actual truth
Author pricillia Posted May 5, 2007 Author Posted May 5, 2007 Thanks for the reply... I can see your point! But what about them being in bed together and then nothing he did not even kiss her... then he started ignoring her. She was trying to come up with reasons.. This is what she came up with: 1. Shy 2. Has a girlfriend 3. Just not that into her 4. STD But I am still perplexed by me trying to help her and asking a question as to you thinking I am jealous...
kepners Posted May 5, 2007 Posted May 5, 2007 dont sweat it, i was teasing, its just the most obvious thing to say. well as for ur mate, basically he isnt interested in her...basically her coming on to strong,but i still think something else is going on! i bet the had coversation that shes not saying to you. he could be gay!
Author pricillia Posted May 5, 2007 Author Posted May 5, 2007 dont sweat it, i was teasing, its just the most obvious thing to say. well as for ur mate, basically he isnt interested in her...basically her coming on to strong,but i still think something else is going on! i bet the had coversation that shes not saying to you. he could be gay! could be gay... I knew there was a 5th thing that I did not list. ok so you think that it is friend status...and he is not interested... even if I tell her this she will not listen... she has a mind of her own, but at the same time I do not want her to think that it is her because she is putting the blame on herself.
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