I haven't had sex in 5 years and I feel like I'm going to burst

[Trewsx11]

I moved here to the DC area a few years ago from California after graduating college, I work for the federal government, and I guess the biggest mistake I ever made was moving to an area where I don't know anybody. It seems all I ever do lately is wake up, go to work, come home, and then repeat the process all over again the next day. I think I've reached an impasse. I'm 27 and the people I work with are all old and married and if you know anything about the federal governemt, its very stale and workers don't really socialize after work.

 

i feel like I'm going to explode. suggestions?

[Reckless]

Well someone has to state the obvious...

 

If you want to have sex you will have to have it with another person.

 

This person is unlikely to be a complete stranger that stops you on the street and asks you to have sex with them.

 

It is also unlikely that, sitting in your house one day, someone will break your door down and demand intercourse.

 

You will therefore have to take some kind of action.

 

This action does not involve going to work, coming home and waiting for the 'door breaking-sex demanding total stranger'

 

Get of your frustrated butt and meet people!

 

• Take up a hobby: a group sport, join a cinema club
  
• Go to the bookstore, ask a girl/boy/whatever you fancy out.
  
• go speed dating
  
• go wine tasting
  
• go clubbing
  
• go to the local bar
  
• Go to church
  
• Go to the evening classes
  
• Book one of those group (Club Med) style holidays
  
• Say hello to the cute girl in the video rental shop

 

I have had guys ask me out in the supermarket/on the metro/on a bus/on charity runs... endless places (I always said "no" but hey.. just kidding, I gave my number once to a cute guy that stopped his car and asked me out for coffee...)

 

Just get out there, take risks...

 

Oh and ask your crusty old collegues if they have any non-crusty nieces or cousins.

 

That or pay for it...

 

R

[amerikajin]

I moved here to the DC area a few years ago from California after graduating college, I work for the federal government, and I guess the biggest mistake I ever made was moving to an area where I don't know anybody. It seems all I ever do lately is wake up, go to work, come home, and then repeat the process all over again the next day. I think I've reached an impasse. I'm 27 and the people I work with are all old and married and if you know anything about the federal governemt, its very stale and workers don't really socialize after work.

 

i feel like I'm going to explode. suggestions?

 

I think you have to work on building a social life first. Maybe join some sort of organization that allows you to do volunteer work or something on the weekends. Don't be nervous about it, just go out and meet people. If you have to, maybe you can try one of those dating sites for shytes and giggles.

[Lizzie60]

very well said... LOL

 

No one will come knocking at your door... you got to go for it!

 

In some rare cases some women (like me LOL) will give you a piece of paper with their cell phone number... but don't wait for that.

 

Go... try it...good luck!

[alextop30]

The best thing to do when you are in that cituation is do one of the following:

 

a) Grab a gallon of votka and a gallon of tomato juice and start drnking until one of them is finished - THAN YOU KNOW YOU HAD ENOUGH LOL

 

b) Go and start partying - Go hit the clubs find 2/3 friends and just go party you ass off.

 

c) move out of washington LOL

[upsetnhurt]

Trrew,

 

No worries....I am also in the DC area and it has nothing to do with the locale. I too have been sexless for over a year now since my breakup. It just takes re-establishing a core group of friends and meeting folks. Then it will all fall into place for you. If you work lots, join the company softball team.....join a gym, etc. Best of luck.

[Tangerina]

I wish I had 2/3 of a friend.

[kepners]

straight up its very very hard to do what your all saying. i live miles away from my friends... i am stuck her on my todd...i go swimming everyday just so i do something... its not easy to just make conversation with people who are there to do something...

this is whny speed dating is good. i am going to one this week.

 

evening classes are good. i am thinking about doing something like this over the summer. u need to get ONE friend to go out with, get slightly drunk and chat to loads of ur fellow sex and make friends then everything will go from there. but dont forget who was ur first friend was...

 

i know it hard... infact it becomes depressing and you get caught in a cycle... it was only when i turn 30 that i woke up... its sad... i went for years without having sex because of this... then i have gone and changed my life because of this... and put myself back in a similar situation... but atleast i will be an architect when i finish.

[alextop30]

I wish I had 2/3 of a friend.

 

 

If you are making fun I did not mean two thirds of a friend I ment two, three friends. Either 2 or three or four or how ever more that would acutally be good to go to bars with .

[Prise]

Reckless's advice is pretty darn good!

[Quinch]

Does anyone actually know anyone who met someone in a bookshop?

[Quinch]

If you just want to get laid you should hang out around the Adult section of your local video shop. That's where all the horny people are.

[IpAncA]

Well someone has to state the obvious...

 

If you want to have sex you will have to have it with another person.

 

This person is unlikely to be a complete stranger that stops you on the street and asks you to have sex with them.

 

It is also unlikely that, sitting in your house one day, someone will break your door down and demand intercourse.

 

You will therefore have to take some kind of action.

 

This action does not involve going to work, coming home and waiting for the 'door breaking-sex demanding total stranger'

 

Get of your frustrated butt and meet people!

 

• Take up a hobby: a group sport, join a cinema club
  
• Go to the bookstore, ask a girl/boy/whatever you fancy out.
  
• go speed dating
  
• go wine tasting
  
• go clubbing
  
• go to the local bar
  
• Go to church
  
• Go to the evening classes
  
• Book one of those group (Club Med) style holidays
  
• Say hello to the cute girl in the video rental shop

 

I have had guys ask me out in the supermarket/on the metro/on a bus/on charity runs... endless places (I always said "no" but hey.. just kidding, I gave my number once to a cute guy that stopped his car and asked me out for coffee...)

 

Just get out there, take risks...

 

Oh and ask your crusty old collegues if they have any non-crusty nieces or cousins.

 

That or pay for it...

 

R

I agree. Make an effort.

[Guest]

Take the MSF class, buy a motorcycle, and then ride - you'll meet tons of people - lots of relationships grow out of riding. I would know

 

 

 

I moved here to the DC area a few years ago from California after graduating college, I work for the federal government, and I guess the biggest mistake I ever made was moving to an area where I don't know anybody. It seems all I ever do lately is wake up, go to work, come home, and then repeat the process all over again the next day. I think I've reached an impasse. I'm 27 and the people I work with are all old and married and if you know anything about the federal governemt, its very stale and workers don't really socialize after work.

 

i feel like I'm going to explode. suggestions?

[Shizz]

I haven't sex in 20 years and I haven't exploded yet, lmao.

 

Still if its social satisfaction your looking for my friend you aren't going to manage it sitting at home. Take up something, do a hobbie, start dancing, there are loads of venues in which you can meet nice people.

Take an art class at the local college, or something like that, go swimming at the local pool.

I'm an actor, and meet loads of lovely young ladies that way, if you haven't the skills or the looks, take up photography.

Anything, anything, except for just sitting at home.