weary Posted May 4, 2007 Posted May 4, 2007 I will admit i had an affair, it ended april 2003, lasted a year.Ialso admitted to my H had,had abt 7 ,1 night stands.Then in april 2006 his ow phoned to tell me abt them.OK i know pay back time , but what really hurts, is that he gave her oral sex ,he stopped with me abt 20 plus years ago because he didnt like it.He said i did it because she pulled my head down and it was over in abt 10 secs. i asked why he had done it again, he said i didnt think she would want it ,after the first time of it being practically non-existant.He said i would never have done it voluntarily.Help me understand .
Darth Vader Posted May 5, 2007 Posted May 5, 2007 It just looks like revenge affairs to me, why are you two staying together if all you two do is cheat on each other?
LakesideDream Posted May 5, 2007 Posted May 5, 2007 Absolutely Darth! It's just a "gotcha" that worked. All it took was a little carpet munching to destroy the wifes self confidence, and self esteem. Gotta wonder how the husband felt imagining his wife with her legs in the air being penetrated by the postman? It's all BS. This couple needs to either stop playing games, and work on their relationship, or just go ahead and get the divorce.
whichwayisup Posted May 6, 2007 Posted May 6, 2007 You have bigger fish to fry than worrying and wondering why he went down on another woman and not you. HELLO...You two have some serious marital issues to sort out. DO you love him? Is this marriage worth saving? Do you two have children? Do you plan on going to marriage counselling or is it time to call it quits? You cheated, and have a series of one night stands. Why? He cheated on you, either a revenge affair or he felt unloved and chose to cheat on you...Two wrongs do NOT a make right. What do you want to happen now?
Pink Amulet Posted May 6, 2007 Posted May 6, 2007 As WWIU pointed it out, it sounds like you have your priorities all mixed up here. It sounds like you need to attend some marriage counselling if you believe this currently revolting marital situation is work salvaging.
Author weary Posted May 7, 2007 Author Posted May 7, 2007 I do love him, yes, we have 4 daughters.Why did i cheat. I was always mentally abused , and never felt loved or appreciated.It is no excuse, but i was always under the influence of alcohol when i cheated.
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