ahhh i dont know

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Hello all,

So about two weeks ago my boyfriend (ex now), broke up w/me. Here's a little background of what led to the breakup. We were dating for about 10 months and about 4/10 months in a long distance relationship because we go to diferent colleges. He ended up joining a fraternity and I knew things had changed between us because he had started calling me less, not great about answering my calls or responding to texts. He made me contemplate our relationship but I told him earlier (the same day he broke up w/me) that i was willing to work out our relationship and how I couldn't wait for the summer and he agreed and told me he felt the same way. Well later that night at about 3am I get a call telling me that he thinks our relationship failed and he no longer wants to be with me. It kind of caught me off guard because he was just telling me how he wanted to work things out. He then started talking about how he has this "dance" coming up in his fraternity out of state but he is the only one without a date, and 3 girls asked him but he turned them down. Like what was his point in telling me that? If he wanted I would have gone with him. I would have made a way. So then after we are broken up he tells me that he has no ill feelings towards me, he still loves me, we just can't be together because long distance relationships don't work. Now, this is coming from a man who used to think people were crazy for ending long distance relationships. I dont know where any o this is coming from. He even asked if we could be friends. At first I wasn't too keen on being friends with him because how am I supposed to get over him if I am friends with him? I think that makes it harder. I love this boy soo much and I feel like he hurt me and it doesn't seem like he is affected by any of this. He told me he wasn't affected because "he knows its something he can't change so he deals with it". I don't get it. I don't know if I should continue to be his friend? I think it hurts more than anything because if he hooks up with girls I don't wanna know about that, I can't take it. The more I think about this situation it makes me want to hate him. I can't hate him because I still love him. I am confused...if anyone could give me their opinion it would be greatly appreciated. Thanks.