LiPS Posted May 4, 2007 Posted May 4, 2007 Hello.first of all i want to apologize my english.. im portuguese. so.. After 3 years of pure love my girlfriend broke up with me about a month. she was starting acting weird. Prior to all this she and I had an almost perfect relationship, hardly ever getting in fights or disagreeing on anything. Then she began to act as though something was wrong, at first I thought it was maybe something she was going through,school or something,and I was concerned. Then I noticed she was only acting this way towards me... I asked what she had and she told me that she didn't feel the same about me.. After 2 weeks i made her a love prove (dont know how you call it) and we reconsider... we were again together.. bue a week ago she went over me and told me that she cant feel the same thing again about me.. i cried... =( i asked her lots of questions to know the reason bue she never told me the real reason, i felt it. so i went to vodafone site and saw the short messages that she had send, and it was to a boy from her class.. (i know that i never should done this) the boy likes her, bue she dont like him. i dont it over her friends. its going to make 3 days that i dont say nothing to her.. but i keeping hard to be quiet.. all my body is messed up.. i want to know if she is alright but dont know nothing... i have installed a plug in in messenger to see who opens my conversation window.. she opens my window lots of time but dont say nothing and put in her nick something like this "Life upside down" but in portuguese of course. i dont know what to do... should i forget her?? she lives in my street and im always thinking about her.. its hard as hell should i wait that she talks to me?? she wont talk to me even if its the most thing that she want.. i know her. should i talk to her?? should i fight?? and try to conquer her again?? really dont know what to do... can anyone help me? I really love her! now i have 20years old and she has 17... it might help thks for reading this enormous text.
Author LiPS Posted May 4, 2007 Author Posted May 4, 2007 i remember something... i trying to do the no contact thing for about 3 days... bue she can fall in love with the other guy.. =( what should i do? i want her back ='( she is making me the same thing.. no contact at all...
Davis Posted May 4, 2007 Posted May 4, 2007 Hey bro. You guys are VERY young, especially her. This is not what you want to hear, but I would not hold out a lot of hope on her coming back or this working out with you, particularly since she's so young .... she will be one of many, many of your gfs over the years. I would say continue NC permanently. This is the best way for you to get over her and move on. I know it sucks. Get out with your friends, get very busy, go exercise and so on. If you stick to NC it will get easier much, much faster. Good luck!
Author LiPS Posted May 4, 2007 Author Posted May 4, 2007 i understand your point of view... but i really love her.. im deeply in pain..
Davis Posted May 4, 2007 Posted May 4, 2007 I understand and I do empathize with you since I've been there. You should be doing NC even if your goal is to try to get her back. That's your only chance at all. However, IMO, she likely will not come back to you and if she did I believe you would be in the same position with her later, with a lot more time spent and a lot more hurt. I still think your best course of action is NC and to move on with your life. You will get over the hurt and you will get over it much sooner if you do NC. Again, not what you want to hear and not very comforting, but I can promise you that you will feel better and even though it's tough to imagine now, there will be other great girls in your future that you will love too.
Author LiPS Posted May 4, 2007 Author Posted May 4, 2007 you are right! must forget her... my problem is that she lives in the same street.. im going to see her all days... =( well must be strong... and raise my head! =) thks for the help... i apreciate more opinions =)
Author LiPS Posted May 5, 2007 Author Posted May 5, 2007 what if i go to her and say "you were right we need our own space, we must go on with our lives.. "and then "goodbye" should i do this? to see her reaction?
Author LiPS Posted May 6, 2007 Author Posted May 6, 2007 today i went over her to try to reconciliate... she know that i was talking to another girl and admited to her friend that she still loves me and want to be my girlfriend for more time...it was the friend that told me.. but when i went to her.. she was very cold with me and didnt want to reconciliate.. what should i do... help me please
frd150 Posted May 6, 2007 Posted May 6, 2007 Oh dude.... I know this all to well. Read my posts and you will see. You see my ex does the same thing . I will give you an example. A few weeks ago her best freind told me that in a conversation about me me ex broke down crying about us. She said that she missed me and that she thought i had forgotten about us. she also said she loved me. There was more but you get the idea. Well, her best friend called me right away and said thati needed to take action and mee up with her right away. I agreed and did so. So that night we met up and guess what?? Yup, cold as ice. It was like she had already planned out what she was going to say. The whole friends song and dance. Once she was done with her speech i had my say. I did not argue or plead i just said what i felt.It seemd to melt thi ice a bit.She started to cry. There's a bit more but my point is this.... Your girl is young and confused. Do not rely on what this friend told you. like me it will send you in a tailspin if you do. I am still trying to pull out of it. Your young and you have alot ahead of you. Go out and have fun with friends. Talk to a few girls you dont have to date them it is just nice to talk to them. Who knows you may find one you like better. Your young right?? As far as your girl is concerned do not force her to admit what you heard she feels. At this point it is second hand info. If she really feels this way about you then she will have to tell you herself. It could be a while believe me. You need to decide if you want to wait. Go out and have fun! Good luck.
Author LiPS Posted May 6, 2007 Author Posted May 6, 2007 my exgirlfriend are very jealous of a new friend of mine... she asked me lots of things about her but i didnt said nothing... i only remebered her what she told me when we broke up. she said: "got out.. have fun with friends and make new friends" now she is very very jealous... she still loves me right? what should i do? =S
daisydo Posted May 9, 2007 Posted May 9, 2007 She probably just wants you to beg for her to come back to you. She is trying to get your attention by making a scene about a new friend of yours. All she wants is attention - she doesn't want to be with you - but she does want you to want to be with her. Does that make sense? The best thing you can do is just keep doing what you're doing. Stick with NO CONTACT and hang out with whomever you want - do whatever you want - just don't talk to her. It is time to start rebuilding your life - whether or not she comes back into it is beside the point.. either way you have to make sure you are going to be okay by yourself. The only way to do that is no contact and working on yourself - friends, family, working out, hobbies, whatever. Good luck.
New Hope Posted May 9, 2007 Posted May 9, 2007 Listen to Davis, he knows what the hell he is talking about!! he covered stuff I would of said...
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