intensity Posted May 4, 2007 Posted May 4, 2007 My bf and I were together for a year and then we broke up for 4 months and now we've been back together for about 4 months and I am soooo happy we are back together!! We have the best time together and he really listens to me and understands me and we're both always willing to work on stuff if we have problems in our relationship and I can absolutely see myself spending forever with him. I have never been with anyone like him before, he's amazing. He's just awesome and I love him like crazy. The problem is that lately the time I spend without him just absolutely SUCKS. Like...I get to see him 2 days a week because he recently moved an hour and 40 minutes away and I can't stop thinking about him all week while I am working and stuff because I'm thinking of all the fun things we get to do next time we are together. I used to be able to get through the 5 days without him by occupying myself but lately NOTHING is working. I just love him soooo much!! And we laugh so much when we're together and it's just so intense and perfect!! As much as I know if feels great to be in love.....a part of me wishes I didn't love him this intensely. Yes, it feels great and I know he loves me too and we do plan to have an awesome future together but the time when I am not with him is pure agony!! I feel so down right now cuz I know I won't see him for another 3 days...when the last time I saw him was only 2 days ago. It's kinda scary to love someone this much too because it makes me so vulnerable but I can't help it, I love him! I know he misses me a lot too and always says he can't wait til the days we get together each week but he manages to do stuff and keep himself occupied during the week so it goes by quicker. But for me, I just can't do it lately!! It's kind of awful that I don't want to feel this way but it just hurts.......I don't want to feel this way anymore. Am I loving him too much? What's going on here? I used to be ok with not seeing him for a few days.....can someone explain this to me and help? God...I wish we were getting a place together like tomorrow but unfortuneately we're not doing that for a few more months. I'm 27 and he's 22 by the way
whichwayisup Posted May 4, 2007 Posted May 4, 2007 Yes and no...It's okay to love him - Alot - But you can't rely on him for your complete happiness. You need to do things on your own without him. Go out with your girlfriends, have fun, see your family, have "you" time. ENJOY the time you do spend with him, but when you're apart it's okay to miss him, but not pine and be miserable. Be happy that you have a wonderful guy in your life! He is living his own life while not with you. Trust me, if you keep abit busier and enjoy those times without him, the times you DO spend with him will be even better.
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