Guest Posted May 3, 2007 Posted May 3, 2007 I wanted to see if anyone else had a similiar experience and how they handled this. I am seperated from an emotionally and mentally abusive marriage. We have been together for 13 years, no children. I finally took a stand a little over 6 months ago and got my own apt. We are seeing a marriage counselor, but there is just so much that isn't working I don't see any way we can stay together. I have been postpoing the "final blow" of saying I want a divorce and filing because of guilt. As I am learning many abusive spouses are also very manipulative and know what "buttons" to push in order to keep you there. I was scared for myself because I know he has guns and even sane people do crazy things when under extreme stress. He has snooped around and I am always looking over my shoulder. This is now way to live. Some people say just file the papers and cut your ties, but I don't think paper will automatically cut my ties. I also have a male best friend that I am afraid for. My husband has thought that something was going on b/w us. He has mentioned on occasion confronting him or going to his work. I am afraid for both of us, but how long do I run? What do I do. I thought about distancing myself from him for a while, but how long is long enough? and this is a time in my life that I needs my friends especially now. Any advice?
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