Princess Jasmine Posted May 3, 2007 Posted May 3, 2007 Someone told me that if a guy doesnt call you, then he probally is not interested. Especially if you already hung out with him. Is that true? I know he is busy, but I know he has time to call or invite me to lunch or coffee or something! or maby even send a text and say Hi. He asked me to lunch before, but I chickened out. ..but I ended up hanging out with him later and a few times with his friends.I was acting kinda shy with them. They even asked me why I was so quiet! I last said to him that I was sorry for acting weird, and that iv'e been kinda out of it. He said he hasnt notice, because he hasnt hung around me long enough. I wa embarrassed! He was still nice though.=) Now he hasnt called me in 6 days! Did he lose interest? Was he ever interested? What do you ALL think? What is the best thing I should do WITHOUT BEING ANNOYING, OR A STALKER? HELP!!! *Thanks*
annabelle75 Posted May 3, 2007 Posted May 3, 2007 Ask him out on a date. If he says he's not interested in you in "that way," then you will know. It may be embarrassing to have to resort to that, but I'm thinking it will be the only way you'll find out. Normally I would say that if he hasn't called he is not interested, but in my experience with "church boys" (i'm a minister's daughter) you can never be sure. Sometimes normal rules don't apply. I once spent a year listening to about 3 dozen different people tell me how much a guy wanted to date me but every time I approached him he froze up and would never ask me out. By the time he finally got up the guts to ask me on a date, I had already started seeing some one else and he was heart broken. I honestly took his refusal to talk to me as him being disinterested. I think most people would have. I'm not saying my situation applies to yours, but you'll never know if you don't just put yourself out there and ask. The worst that could happen is he says no and then you could move on and not be obsessing over why he doesn't call.
Author Princess Jasmine Posted May 3, 2007 Author Posted May 3, 2007 ok,...what do you think I should do? can I just send a text saying: "Hi, we need to hang out. =) I think I have the guts to do that. =) and then see what happens from there. Im so glad your a ministers daughter, so you know my situation better than most. ...so is that ok annabelle75? =)
directx Posted May 3, 2007 Posted May 3, 2007 Your text message plan sounds like a good one. Do that one
Davis Posted May 3, 2007 Posted May 3, 2007 Jas, everyone has time in their busy day to make a 2 min call, text or email. Sorry, but I don't think he's that into you. I would say move on and don't look like a fool and contact him. If he wanted to talk to you, he would call. You could, I suppose, follow Anna's advice and contact him. I would text and say "Hi. Wanted to see what day we can meet for coffee". (or dinner, whatever) Not, we "need" to hang out. If he doesn't respond or doesn't respond positively, MOVE ON and do not be a fool and contact him again.
trigger Posted May 3, 2007 Posted May 3, 2007 I think it's worth risking looking like a fool, but just this once. It's possible he may think you are not into it because you were acting all shy and stuff, or a he's a bit scared about your possible reason for being "out of it" - i.e. you weren't enjoying yourself around him and his friends. Send the text. You don't have to make it all corporate-sounding like Davis suggests (sorry, no offense). This isn't a conference call. What you have is fine. If you don't get a response, or get a lame one, then drop it.
annabelle75 Posted May 3, 2007 Posted May 3, 2007 ok,...what do you think I should do? can I just send a text saying: "Hi, we need to hang out. =) I think I have the guts to do that. =) and then see what happens from there. Im so glad your a ministers daughter, so you know my situation better than most. ...so is that ok annabelle75? =) I'd do it. You might want to even make it more direct like, "Hi. Available for dinner?" And as I said before, the worst that could happen is that he declines and you know for sure that he's not interested. That would be better than still sitting around wondering. These church guys are a whole other breed so ........ God luck and God Bless
Author Princess Jasmine Posted May 3, 2007 Author Posted May 3, 2007 *Thanks Davis* I probally shouldnt write in the text that we "Need" to hang out. lol ...or maby i shouldnt write him at all,..now that you made me think. because if he wanted to talk to me, then he will. =) Thanks Again. *Blessings*
Author Princess Jasmine Posted May 3, 2007 Author Posted May 3, 2007 Anna! Davis got me thinking, butI still wanna take a chance so i can know.=) Ima do it! =)
Author Princess Jasmine Posted May 3, 2007 Author Posted May 3, 2007 *Thanks trigger* Im going to do it! =)
trigger Posted May 3, 2007 Posted May 3, 2007 Actually I do agree with annabelle -- be more direct. Because if you say "we need to hang out" and he just responds with a "yes" then you will still be all like "???" and you will be forced to text him again with something more specific.
Author Princess Jasmine Posted May 3, 2007 Author Posted May 3, 2007 *Hey Trigger* Thats true, its so scary being direct though. But I guess I need to be. =) ok,........im going to do it right now, and get the hard part over with. =)
2ndIINone Posted May 4, 2007 Posted May 4, 2007 Nooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo!!!!! Is it too late????? Don't do it! Why would you NOT trust a guys opinion on this matter????? He KNOWS you're into him..... so if he wanted to call, then he will!!!! Don't go chasing him. Text from you to him after no phonecall from him = CHASING! DON'T! Davis got me thinking, butI still wanna take a chance so i can know.=) Ima do it! =) Cause' that's your heart thinking... at this 'stage' you have to think with your mind.
annabelle75 Posted May 4, 2007 Posted May 4, 2007 Nooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo!!!!! Is it too late????? Don't do it! Why would you NOT trust a guys opinion on this matter????? He KNOWS you're into him..... so if he wanted to call, then he will!!!! Don't go chasing him. Text from you to him after no phonecall from him = CHASING! DON'T! I would normally agree with you, honestly. But in this case he's either interested or he isn't. The only way she'll find out is if she takes the initiative and asks. If he declines she knows he isn't and can move on. And truly, youth pastors and church guys are different from regular guys. I've dated enough to know the difference. After dating so many, I finally swore off them. I got tired of always having to take the initiative in the relationship.
Mary3 Posted May 4, 2007 Posted May 4, 2007 He's just not that interested in you. If he were , he would be hanging on your doorstep. Don't chase . Just move on. He might enjoy the game he's playing but you sure shouldn't...
Author Princess Jasmine Posted May 4, 2007 Author Posted May 4, 2007 Its way too much pressure, so i decided to just stick it out and wait till he calls me, since i waited 6 days and all. Its not too late 2ndIINone! lol *Thanks* =) To annabelle75: thanks for your advice too, as soon as he calls me or text or something, then i'll ask him to go with me somewhere. He just gotta call! =) *Blessings*
trigger Posted May 4, 2007 Posted May 4, 2007 Gahhh... sometimes I think people take this "He's Just Not That Into You" stuff as gospel written in stone. It's not a science. All is fair in love and war.
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