selo Posted May 3, 2007 Posted May 3, 2007 I posted in the cheating/flirting/jealousy forum but haven't received any replies yet so, here I am... My GF and I have together going on almost a year. I knew she had a really good guy friend that she communicates via phone and text almost daily. I just found out (on my own) that they originally met on a dating website about 2 years ago. I also found out that they did some dating, how much and how serious, I don't know. He lives about 3 hours away from her so I don't have a clue how involved they got. I knew about him and didn't feel anything toward him until now, nearly a year after my GF and I have been together. She obviously felt that she didn't want to share this important info with me. I know their relationship started off on a possible romantic and possibly sexual beginning (another detail I found out. I know there was at least sexual topics discussed). Now, there relationship has a "sexual" precedent. Their communication via phone calls and text has sexual content eventhough they are just friends. I'm not sure what to feel exactly. I'm not worried about her cheating on me. I know he's one of her best friends and they now share a lot of personal information about eachother. I guess I feel a little threatened by their closeness given their past and the fact that she never told me about how their "relationship" began. Should I ask her about him? In detail that is. What if she plays down or is not honest about their beginnings? I think it's a possibility that she may make up a different story about how they met. If she does, what then? ty selo
2ndIINone Posted May 4, 2007 Posted May 4, 2007 I hope for your sake.... the phone friend is gay. I'd be a little weary too, with the some of the details you added... (sexual content)... that's not normal. In fact, a little disrespectful towards you. I don't believe in 'daily basis' opposite sex 'friendship' . But that's just me. Does she text and email right in front of you? Does she hide the texts? Maybe she's emotionally connected with him.... (not good either)... It's a flag.... but not quite a 'red flag'.
Author selo Posted May 4, 2007 Author Posted May 4, 2007 He's definitely not gay. They dated, they were sexual at one point. She texts him in front of me. Their interaction isn't always dirty but she's not dumb enough to show me her texts to him. She never talks to him in front of me, she justs mentions him from time to time and about how "dumb" he is to be ran all over by his current girlfriend. I wonder if my GF is jealous..hmmm. They did choose to originally "connect" with each other because they matched up on a dating site (I found this out on my own yesterday) so it stands to reason that they in fact to still have a "connection". Emotional connection, maybe.
2ndIINone Posted May 4, 2007 Posted May 4, 2007 Hmmmm.... well, I wouldn't be too happy either. Actually, I wouldn't settle for it at all. There's a fine line between a long term 'friend' and this guy. If she's 'sneaky' about it... then I'd worry. she's not dumb enough to show me her texts to him. as if, she's hiding them?
Author selo Posted May 4, 2007 Author Posted May 4, 2007 she's not hiding them from me, they're on her phone - her property. I don't have the right to ask to see her text messages. I just have concrete proof that their interaction still involves sexual topics.
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