Mustang1984 Posted May 2, 2007 Posted May 2, 2007 I'm a guy in my mid twenties and recently started dating a girl about a month ago. We started out as friends, but we started to grow closer. Finally one day I told her how I felt about her and I was extremly happy to find that she felt the same way. Things started out great the first week, but soon after things havent ben what I thought they would be. She doesnt really show any affection towards me at all. She did the first week, but that ended fast. The lack of intimacy really bothers me, becuase I really like her a lot. When we hang out together at each others places she wont sit close to me or hug or kiss me that much at all. Plus she usually just falls asleep right away. I'm really confused, becuase se tells me how happy I make her, but she doesnt show any affection hardly. We are initmate maybe 1 day a week now at the most. I dont want it to seem like sex is all I care about, becuase its not. However I would like more intimacy than that. I guess I'm just really confused. I'm not sure if its work or depression or what thats making her be really distant. She wants a lot of alone time which I respect, but at the same time I feel really unwanted when thats all she seems to want. If anyone has any advice I would really appreciate it. Thanks.
TheRealBigOMan Posted May 3, 2007 Posted May 3, 2007 It takes time to transition from being friends to being a couple. Maybe you moved too fast and she is not comfortable yet in the relationship. Also, some people just have trouble in general showing affection. Let her know that you feel neglected and see if that helps. You could also try giving her more space. It is possible that she is feeling crowded. When you give her more space, she should be more excited to see you when she does because she will be less used to seeing you. Keep me posted on whats going on.
roxy_1980 Posted May 3, 2007 Posted May 3, 2007 Alot of people have trouble making the transition between friends and lovers. As a result they seem standoff-ish or even shy compared to how they were before. She not sure how to proceed and is pulling away as a result. It either that or she has settle into this pull away routine in other relationships and believes that this behaviour is normal. Either way, I'd just talk to her about it. Tell her that you feel somewhat rejected because she is not showing her feelings.
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