No goodbye.

May 2, 2007

My ex-fiance is moving to Florida!! Yes, the one that I vowed I would always love. His teenage son is graduating from high school in a couple weeks, and apparently he is going to support his son to become a professional motocross racer.

We dated on and off since he backed out of our engagement three years ago. He had as much trouble letting go of me, as I have of him. I just talked to him four months ago, and he seemed giggly and glad to see me.

I've worked VERY hard to let go of this man, I thought I had, but when I found out he was moving four states away (without even mentioning it to me), I cried like a baby.

I just feel very sad, but yet glad that he and his son are out making their dreams come true and going to be happy.

At least one of us is happy. *sigh*

May 2, 2007

Well look at it this way, I'm sure he would have a reason to say farewell to you but since he moved on with life. You were no longer involved with his private life, so he didn't tell you.

Somehow I think that your ex-fiance was unsure how to say his final farewells to you. He thought it would hurt you, also he cared a little about your feelings.

However even if he told you it might hurt you deep down except he was good enough to tell ya the honest truth in person or other means of contact with you.

I believe you had the right to know in a sense that if you two want to be good friends that is and continue the friendship with him. However as he clearly did not contact you, I think he is avoiding you and probably was unsure how to give his farewell to you.

May 3, 2007

My ex-fiance is moving to Florida!! Yes, the one that I vowed I would always love. His teenage son is graduating from high school in a couple weeks, and apparently he is going to support his son to become a professional motocross racer.

We dated on and off since he backed out of our engagement three years ago. He had as much trouble letting go of me, as I have of him. I just talked to him four months ago, and he seemed giggly and glad to see me.

I've worked VERY hard to let go of this man, I thought I had, but when I found out he was moving four states away (without even mentioning it to me), I cried like a baby.

I just feel very sad, but yet glad that he and his son are out making their dreams come true and going to be happy.

At least one of us is happy. *sigh*

I'm sorry to hear that your sad Luv. Its pretty hard to let go of someone you care about. I think that WN was on target when he said that he really didn't know how to tell you and avoided telling you because of it. He knows that it's a huge step in moving on and probably knew it would be painful for him as well for you to break the news.

I guess all that i can say is, just try to take a positive outlook with this. It is the beginning of a new chapter in your life, and is definitley time for you to move on. Move on to find someone that is right for you.

Take care Luvtoto.

May 3, 2007

Well look at it this way, I'm sure he would have a reason to say farewell to you but since he moved on with life. You were no longer involved with his private life, so he didn't tell you.

Somehow I think that your ex-fiance was unsure how to say his final farewells to you. He thought it would hurt you, also he cared a little about your feelings.

However even if he told you it might hurt you deep down except he was good enough to tell ya the honest truth in person or other means of contact with you.

I believe you had the right to know in a sense that if you two want to be good friends that is and continue the friendship with him. However as he clearly did not contact you, I think he is avoiding you and probably was unsure how to give his farewell to you.

I'm sorry to hear that your sad Luv. Its pretty hard to let go of someone you care about. I think that WN was on target when he said that he really didn't know how to tell you and avoided telling you because of it. He knows that it's a huge step in moving on and probably knew it would be painful for him as well for you to break the news.

I guess all that i can say is, just try to take a positive outlook with this. It is the beginning of a new chapter in your life, and is definitley time for you to move on. Move on to find someone that is right for you.

Take care Luvtoto.

Thanks Whitenight and Miss_Bee. Both of your explanations have helped take the sting off a little. Thank you!

May 3, 2007

Hang in there Luvtoto

You have good friends around here, both near and far.

Move on with your life and enjoy yourself, don't worry about the friendship or the past for now. I'm sure things will pull through in the end. In some ways only time can tell between your friendship with your ex would heal in the end.

Best advice, is to move on and get yourself feeling a lot more better. You will do fine in the end.

May 3, 2007

Hang in there Luvtoto

You have good friends around here, both near and far.

Move on with your life and enjoy yourself, don't worry about the friendship or the past for now. I'm sure things will pull through in the end. In some ways only time can tell between your friendship with your ex would heal in the end.

Best advice, is to move on and get yourself feeling a lot more better. You will do fine in the end.

Thank you, WhiteKnight. You are very understanding of my problem. I appreciate that.

One of my biggest fears is being abandoned. This situation is pushing that hot button a bit for me. But, that is soo irrational. He has NO ties to me.

I have waves of emotions right now. One, is what I have explained above already..the other is that I am glad for him. He's found his back bone. This isn't the guy I knew. I am proud of him for taking a risk. He's never been the "taking a risk" type of guy before, and has never liked change in his life.

I wish I had the chance to tell him that. But, at least I got it out on LS.

May 3, 2007

Thank you, WhiteKnight. You are very understanding of my problem. I appreciate that.

One of my biggest fears is being abandoned. This situation is pushing that hot button a bit for me. But, that is soo irrational. He has NO ties to me.

I have waves of emotions right now. One, is what I have explained above already..the other is that I am glad for him. He's found his back bone. This isn't the guy I knew. I am proud of him for taking a risk. He's never been the "taking a risk" type of guy before, and has never liked change in his life.

I wish I had the chance to tell him that. But, at least I got it out on LS.

Yea I can understand how you feel about it all. I'm sure you are really glad to hear that he has moved on, that's a good true sign of that you want to wish him all the best and congratulate him someday.

I know there are times we never get the chance to say "Farewell" but through the kindness of your heart... I'm sure in my own mind that a part of his heart would truly know and appreciate it. One day, he might be your friend again, who knows.

For now... Enjoy yourself Luvtoto. I hope to keep in contact with you somehow, but even so. You got a friend like me around

May 3, 2007

Yea I can understand how you feel about it all. I'm sure you are really glad to hear that he has moved on, that's a good true sign of that you want to wish him all the best and congratulate him someday.

I know there are times we never get the chance to say "Farewell" but through the kindness of your heart... I'm sure in my own mind that a part of his heart would truly know and appreciate it. One day, he might be your friend again, who knows.

For now... Enjoy yourself Luvtoto. I hope to keep in contact with you somehow, but even so. You got a friend like me around

Dang WhiteKnight, you are gonna make me cry. (fanning eyes vigorously!!)

I think in my heart-of-hearts, I have let go.

Sometimes breakups are caused from just not being that into person anymore.

But, our breakup was caused from an issue he had from his past.

When he was young, he was on the verge of becoming a professional racer, also. He was very good, and his trophies are still up in his garage. His mom and dad were divorced, and his dad was committed to helping him with his career. But, his dad remarried and all his dad's time went to his new family. His dad lost interest in his dream.

So, when he met me, he got caught up with me...next thing you know he is cancelling our engagement. With little to no explanation. Other than that he doesn't want to do to his son what his dad did to him. He saw me as a distraction.

Now, he is doing for his son what his dad couldn't do for him. I don't know if that is the healthiest thing to do, and it seems a bit odd to pack up and move for that reason. But, for some reason, I respect him.

He's a hell of a dad. There should be more father's out there like him.

He underestimated me, and how I feel about him moving on. That's what hurts the most about this.

Sorry to go on and on...but, I have no one in my life that I feel comfortable talking to about this. I just need to vent.

May 3, 2007

Dang WhiteKnight, you are gonna make me cry. (fanning eyes vigorously!!)

I think in my heart-of-hearts, I have let go.

Sometimes breakups are caused from just not being that into person anymore.

But, our breakup was caused from an issue he had from his past.

When he was young, he was on the verge of becoming a professional racer, also. He was very good, and his trophies are still up in his garage. His mom and dad were divorced, and his dad was committed to helping him with his career. But, his dad remarried and all his dad's time went to his new family. His dad lost interest in his dream.

So, when he met me, he got caught up with me...next thing you know he is cancelling our engagement. With little to no explanation. Other than that he doesn't want to do to his son what his dad did to him. He saw me as a distraction.

Now, he is doing for his son what his dad couldn't do for him. I don't know if that is the healthiest thing to do, and it seems a bit odd to pack up and move for that reason. But, for some reason, I respect him.

He's a hell of a dad. There should be more father's out there like him.

He underestimated me, and how I feel about him moving on. That's what hurts the most about this.

Sorry to go on and on...but, I have no one in my life that I feel comfortable talking to about this. I just need to vent.

Heh. That's fine Luvtoto, rant away Yet once again I can tell that you both really loved each other a lot and things didn't work out in the end.

To be honest, what happened with my past I used to be in love a lot with someone special.

It could have been dealt a lot better and also the friendship as well but ya know, I'm not really ready to make the friendshp with my latest EX work just yet, maybe in a few years I would.

She was very nice, a good friend yet... we fell in love but didn't realise it was so sudden at the time. However throughout all that I felt used, abused and perhaps insulted in a way when she broke up with me and went with another guy behind her partner's back (at the time I did not realise it but when I found out, that's another reason alone I felt betrayed there).

I will admit, I do miss her now and then because I think about the good times of her. Not the bad. However there was a part of me wanting not to see her again, and same with my EX to tell ya the truth. We both had caused too much pain on each other.

I have learnt one thing, was not to forgive her straight away... or to trust and believe her again. That all happened like 10months ago.

So much pain and grief, hence she only wanted an online friendship before hand in 2006 but I cut her off at the end of that year. Then in March 2007, I unblocked her to see why she was acting strange when she wanted to try and satisfy the friendship to her needs... including getting my contact details. She was unable to get my contact details (i.e cellular/mobile phone), when I ignored her request to give it to her.

I just left it alone and didn't give anything out ever since. I remained very firm and never stated that 'Online Friendship' is fine but at the same time, I miss her. Although I think she would get the final impression that I had reinforced that the 'Online Friendship' is acceptable but seeing each other, I know she misses me because of why she'd asked my contact details.

However through time I hope things would be better between her and I, except I've decided to cut her off for now and focus on getting my life better. Yet I knew one thing with all this, once a friendship that was destroyed could never be retrieved. That's is the truth though.

So from all of this Luvtoto, I thought I had no friends leftover to help me with my problems but when I came on here. I learnt a lot with a thing or two on how to solve my issues, most of which had helped me. Ever since now that I moved on from any of my EXs, I feel a bit better than I was before. You are not alone Luvtoto, you got a good friend around.

(Anyways I sent you a PM through here ~ if you didn't customise it yet, I think you should and send me one so I can talk to more through there...)

May 3, 2007

My ex-fiance is moving to Florida!! Yes, the one that I vowed I would always love. His teenage son is graduating from high school in a couple weeks, and apparently he is going to support his son to become a professional motocross racer.

What does Florida have to do with Motocross racing? I thought it was all older people down there...

May 3, 2007

What does Florida have to do with Motocross racing? I thought it was all older people down there...

His son will be attending MMI - Motorcycle Mechanics Institute in Orlando. I have no idea after that fact.

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