sb129 Posted May 2, 2007 Posted May 2, 2007 Hello there people I already feel a little bit better, since I have a pot of my favourite soup on the boil. Anyway here goes. My BF lives in London, I live 4 hours away. We both have good jobs which we are happy in, however we don't want to continue a LDR indefinitely. Since I have alot of friends in London (inc my best friend) and had been thinking about moving there last year anyway, we agreed a few months ago( that even tho it would be more inconvenient in the short term), it would be better for me to sell my house and move down there to live closer to him. I am a dentist, even though I had been warned the london job scene is very competitive, I thought it would be no problem to get a job down there, as the UK is so short of dentists. So.... I put my house on the market three months ago, started mailing out my CV, and waited for the offers to come rolling in. So far, none have. I have applied for nearly FORTY jobs. And have only heard back from a handful, with only one interview which I didn't get. The one I had really set my sights on has gone from being "oh we don't have a shortlist yet" on friday to a "sorry we have completed interviews and the post has been filled" today. In three days? This has never happened to me before. I have nearly walked into every job I have applied for, and this has shaken my confidence not to mention bruised my pride. I have also had no offers on my house....but you can't force the property market to go your way! So here I am, lonely and frustrated wondering what I am doing wrong! I am not the most patient person in the world, but so many knockbacks is demoralising right now. BF is being so supportive and great, and has even offered to support me while I look for a job if I move down to live with him, but it makes more financial sense to stay in my current job as long as I have a mortgage to pay. I like my current job (at least I have A job), I just don't like where I live anymore. It has too much bad history for me, I don't have many friends, and I feel need to move on cos I get so lonely here. I guess its not the end of the world, I just needed to vent, and need cheering up. I miss my BF and my friends. I do like my little house and my job tho and at least I still have an income. Sigh.
Storyrider Posted May 2, 2007 Posted May 2, 2007 Sorry you're having troubles, sb. In the US, submitting forty applications to find a job in the business world would not be unusual at all. (I don't know anything about the UK and dentistry), but I guess my point is that you're not alone in frustration about job hunting, and the same thing goes with selling a house. Three months would not be considered long. This doesn't take away the sting of your frustration, I'm sure. I hope you do have better luck, but maybe you also need to lower your expectations so you don't set yourself up for disappointment. Have you tried networking to help with the job thing? I've heard knowing somebody is a good way to find a job.
Author sb129 Posted May 2, 2007 Author Posted May 2, 2007 You are right. I am just really impatient and want it all to happen yesterday. And not getting the job I really wanted (and HAD done some networking for) was a bit of a "straw that broke the camels back" blow for me this afternoon. The forty applications for the job thing is just a really new thing for me, and I have a pretty good CV, so its a surprise- its good for my humble side tho!! Its difficult to get to know people in London cos its so BIG! If the house sells, I will move, it might be easier to look for a job when I am there cos as you say I will be able to network - I can't really right now from four hours away. I am working at a conference at the end of May, so maybe that will throw up some opportunities. I ate the soup and some chocolate, I feel much better now.
quankanne Posted May 2, 2007 Posted May 2, 2007 dumb question time: Is there an association of dentists in England you might be able to find a new position through? I found work through my state's newspaper association, which matches employees with available positions, and I always thought that was a great way to supply a demand. also, any former dental school alumni whose brain you can pick? that might lead to introductions that a blind query might not. good luck!
pelagicsands Posted May 2, 2007 Posted May 2, 2007 I guess its not the end of the world, Even if it is, it's only the end of your little microcosm. I doubt that you could suck the rest of us into your black hole. Or one glorious black whole. Anyway, I can't believe your boyfriend hasn't cheered you up. He sounds so wonderful. Maybe I will go to London to visit him whilst you're away. The thing to remember is that life can turn on a sixpence. Next month, next week, or even tomorrow, your circumstances could change. It only takes one job to accept you, or one buyer for your house. Then everything is looking up once again. But don't expect anything to happen today. Today sucks.
pelagicsands Posted May 2, 2007 Posted May 2, 2007 And don't mention zombies on your CV. Common mistake.
Author sb129 Posted May 2, 2007 Author Posted May 2, 2007 dumb question time: Is there an association of dentists in England you might be able to find a new position through? I found work through my state's newspaper association, which matches employees with available positions, and I always thought that was a great way to supply a demand. also, any former dental school alumni whose brain you can pick? that might lead to introductions that a blind query might not. Yes, I am using the Dental Associations classifieds to find vacancies. There are literally hundreds of people applying for each job, so the employers probably don't even need to look thru all the applications. I have a friend who had the same problem and she has a job now. Even if it is, it's only the end of your little microcosm. I doubt that you could suck the rest of us into your black hole. Or one glorious black whole. Anyway, I can't believe your boyfriend hasn't cheered you up. He sounds so wonderful. Maybe I will go to London to visit him whilst you're away. The thing to remember is that life can turn on a sixpence. Next month, next week, or even tomorrow, your circumstances could change. It only takes one job to accept you, or one buyer for your house. Then everything is looking up once again. But don't expect anything to happen today. Today sucks. You are right PS, and I am cheered up more now. Needed to rant, and eat some dinner, and some chocolate!!!. Wonderboy is being very supportive but he can't do or say much more than he is doing already over the phone. At least we didn't have a fight due to my high stress level earlier today. As you say, tomorrow is a new day, and you never know whats around the corner. I now feel bad for ranting when so many other people have much more on their plate.
Author sb129 Posted May 2, 2007 Author Posted May 2, 2007 And don't mention zombies on your CV. Common mistake. Damn! I knew I was doing SOMEthing wrong. Shall I get rid of my interests and hobbies that include satanism, S&M , and that I like to paint in blood too?
pelagicsands Posted May 2, 2007 Posted May 2, 2007 I now feel bad for ranting when so many other people have much more on their plate. You're right... I should be helping people more deserving. Shall I get rid of my interests and hobbies that include satanism, S&M , and that I like to paint in blood too? Don't be silly, now. A lot of dentists are into those things.
Author sb129 Posted May 2, 2007 Author Posted May 2, 2007 Thanks guys. Problem shared is a problem halved and all that. Off to bed soon, my eyes are getting so tired.
Author sb129 Posted May 10, 2007 Author Posted May 10, 2007 The thing to remember is that life can turn on a sixpence. Next month, next week, or even tomorrow, your circumstances could change. It only takes one job to accept you, or one buyer for your house. Then everything is looking up once again. Oh PS, you were so right! I went for another job on Saturday and I got it!!! Start beginning of July! So that means Wonderboy and I are going to get a flat together at the end of June. Excited!!!! And a little apprehensive as I have lived alone for the last three years- I think I have probably got very stuck in my ways! Thanks everyone for your kindness, just had a bad day last week!
a4a Posted May 10, 2007 Posted May 10, 2007 I am still praying for you! Well it ain't workin!!! did you sacrafice the rooster? did you put the newt in the pot? and for cripes sake I hope that virgin you are using is fresh.... otherwise it won't work. never use a stale virgin. how many times have I gotta tell you! NO STALE VIRGINS! *is there a market for dental work on zombies?
Author sb129 Posted May 10, 2007 Author Posted May 10, 2007 oops, sorry, I got one of those reconditioned virgins off ebay. Will rectify problem tomorrow. (did you know that lots of muslim women are paying thousands to have their virginity restored so they can marry "well??")) Doing zombies teeth is very risky, smelly, bloody and as you know a bite can turn you into a zombie yourself, so i tend to just dispense alot of mouthwash to them.
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