dierks Posted May 2, 2007 Posted May 2, 2007 I meet this new female. I met her at a local pub hanging out with my friends. She came over and asked me my name? We talked. THen we exchanged phone numbers later (everything went well). I saw her at a club the next night. She was staring me down as soon as I walked in and looked at me all night while see was dancing and sitting around. She never came to talk to me so I never talked to her. The next day I call her she answers and we talk. Have a really great conversation for about 1 1/2 hour. (Laughing, joking, had a good time) I text her that night. She responds immediately. Next day she texts me. I was busy. I text her back a couple of hours later. She texts me back immedialtely. I call her. We have another great conversation. Tells me she doesn't have a boy friend and what she is looking for, laugh, and joke. I told her we will need to get together sometime. She says anytime. I told her to call me but she hasn't (2days). She never iniates a phone call but when her she has picked up. Her phone will cut out about 5 or 6 times and she will call me back immediately. I puzzled! Is she interested or should I back off?
melodymatters Posted May 2, 2007 Posted May 2, 2007 It sounds like she's interested, but she wants YOU to do the pursuing ! I'm like that in the beginning because I only want to start a relationship with somone who is REALLY into me. Once we've established a relationship I will call more frequently, maybe not half the time but 33% or so.
tanbark813 Posted May 2, 2007 Posted May 2, 2007 1. You should have walked over to her and talked to her the second night you saw her. 2. Did you ask her out when you called her? If not, then she's not playing hard-to-get, you're playing not-taking-the-initiative (or something to that effect).
Author dierks Posted May 2, 2007 Author Posted May 2, 2007 O.K how many times do I call her if she is never calling me. How long do I wait between calls.
sunshinegirl Posted May 2, 2007 Posted May 2, 2007 Guy, pick up the phone and ask her out! Get together in real life, and take it from there. As the others have said, she sounds like she's definitely interested but wants you to initiate. So do it!!
tanbark813 Posted May 2, 2007 Posted May 2, 2007 Call her today and ask her out for the weekend (never "sometime"). If she's interested she'll take you up on it or suggest an alternate day. Don't badger her with calls just to talk.
Princess Jasmine Posted May 2, 2007 Posted May 2, 2007 oh my goodness! Im going through the same thing sorta! I think you should definantly call her, and make plans with her to do something. Anything. Go out to lunch with her, or go get coffee, or see a movie, or whatever. Girls likes it when the guy leads everything. ...and you definantly should have talked to her the second night you saw her at the club! She probally was waiting for you to go talk to her, because she wasnt sure if you were interested. Good Luck. and please answer my post! Im princess Jasmine!
Roadster Man Posted May 4, 2007 Posted May 4, 2007 Be assertive and call her with definite plans. "I saw that there's a new sushi bar on main street right by the movie theater. I wanted to try it out and I'd like you to go with me." Don't forget, she may be doing the same thing... trying to see if YOU are really interested in HER! I hate games and I refuse to play them. Generally on the first date I will (in a humorous way) explain to my date that I don't believe in those rules like I'm not allowed to call you by a time designated by the model number of your lawnmower dividied by how many bits of sausage were on the last pizza you ate, and if she wants to call me, call, and I'll do the same. but on the same token she should cut me a little slack if I "break a rule" Things generally work out fine from that point on.
Author dierks Posted May 8, 2007 Author Posted May 8, 2007 O.K. so we went out this weekend. We went to a club and both got plastered. We were all over each other. Then we went back to my house and played around. No, sex just played around. Then went to sleep. We woke up and laid around being affectionate to each other. She said she had a great time and kissed me. Then she got in her vehicle. I called her last night, she answered, but it was like she was brushing me off. What the he!!?
monkey00 Posted May 8, 2007 Posted May 8, 2007 O.K. so we went out this weekend. We went to a club and both got plastered. We were all over each other. Then we went back to my house and played around. No, sex just played around. Then went to sleep. We woke up and laid around being affectionate to each other. She said she had a great time and kissed me. Then she got in her vehicle. I called her last night, she answered, but it was like she was brushing me off. What the he!!? Give her the benefit of the doubt. Usually if a girl says they had a great time, they mean it. Is it possible she was expecting you to say it back to her? Anyway try laying off calling so often. try calling 2x or 1x a week and use it to set up dates...anymore you'll come off desperate and boring.
JCD Posted May 12, 2007 Posted May 12, 2007 I would try a little test ie. don't call her until she calls you. That way she shows you that she is interested. If she doesn't call then it wasn't meant to be. Trust me on this, a girl that is into you will definitely call you if you don't call back. You have nothing to lose by not calling her. There is also the thing about how fast each one wants to go. It might be that she wants to slow down and you don't and it looks to you like she isn't interested as much as you are. Maybe a good idea if you two talk about how fast you want to go so you stay in synch and not create stress by one wondering about the other.
gfto Posted May 12, 2007 Posted May 12, 2007 Be assertive and call her with definite plans. "I saw that there's a new sushi bar on main street right by the movie theater. I wanted to try it out and I'd like you to go with me." Excellent suggestion. Dierks, you forgot a critical step in this whole process. ASK HER FOR A DATE!
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