Guest Posted May 2, 2007 Posted May 2, 2007 He started off so loving, deeply devoted... the connection undeniable, and right now it's way to complicated to get into, but it's now this big blur to me. He will just ignore me, questions, or demands.. Making me feel helpless..hopeless and appear crazy? I tried ending it so many times, but he plays on my love for him. At 50 he's acting like 12.. I'm over 10 years younger and expected more from someone his age. He says he loves me but has this way of putting me on a shelf when the mood strikes. He left the country 3 weeks ago, on this trip he planned, and begged me to go on months ago, before he revealed his committment issues and started treating me like a yo yo. We were suppose to spend lots of time together,and concieving in this beautiful place maybe........ Well I said we should break up and just be done before he goes, but no he wanted to work things out. Did not/ has not shared eXactly were he is staying, informed me that calls are pricey so there will be none, and he'll email often (3) in the last 3 weeks. 1st one blah blah, sorry I've been such a failure,and I apologize for being this boyfriend that you now feel needs to be done with, can we love again all over, forget about my/your faults and enjoy eachother blah blah. No mention of it again, no affection, passion.. love displayed in the following 2 emails, just very basic stuff... and nothing since the 22nd of April it's very early and I'm devastated.. so fed up. I can't just turn myself off , it hurts so much......
daisydo Posted May 3, 2007 Posted May 3, 2007 It sounds like he is just manipulating you. Do yourself a favor and get our of this relationship. Unless he puts forth a serious commitment into addressing your concerns - I would say that he has checked out of the relationship. I have heard this story many times on here.. and if you stay around for a bit you will read it too. Man has a girlfriend. Man manipulates girlfriend to control her and keep her in the relationship. Man does whatever he wants without regard to girlfriend. Woman starts to feel bad and wants to leave. Man manipulates. Woman stays. (This of course can also be turned around - I am just using the man manipulating as an example for this particular situation) It's a vicious pattern. Break it now while you have the opportunity and just straight up leave. Why would you want to be with someone who constantly drags you down? Think of this OBJECTIVELY if possible. What if you best friend or boyfriend were dating him? What would you tell them? Think about it.. Think about what is best for you and your well-being right now.
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