Problem with a guy and a friend

[ShoeGirl]

A friend of mine, K, is stuck on the idea that I should date her bf's roommate, W. I have heard a lot about him and he sounded like a decent guy so I agreed to meet him. I went over to their house with K a few weekends ago to play pool and have a few drinks. I was having a good time but I just wasn't attracted to W and I found out a few things that I can't stand to be around (he smokes, does coke, drinks a lot, etc). I ended up having a few too many drinks and decided I shouldn't drive home so I was going to sleep on the couch. K and her bf went to bed and W got kinda aggressive in trying to make out with me and trying to take my clothes off, I got mad and told him to go to bed so I could go to sleep.

 

The a few days later W calls asking me out to dinner, I told him I didn't have time and got off the phone. Turns out K gave him my number (GRRR). Last Saturday I went shopping with K for the day and we decided that we were going to go get dinner when we were done shopping. When we got to the restaurant she asked if it would be ok if her bf and W came along. I told her I would rather W not come, but it was too late because they were already on their way. (side note: in the last few weeks I have been talking to my last ex again because he is wanting to get back together, which I want to as well but I haven't officially gotten back together with him) I had told K about my ex coming back and I made a point to mention it at dinner too.

 

After dinner K and her bf walked off leaving W and I there alone. He asked about my ex and I flat out told him that I was going to give that relationship another chance and I got up and found K and left.

 

Last night W called me (I didn't answer) and left me a message asking if I wanted to go to dinner on Friday night. Apparently he doesn't get that I am getting back together with my ex... I haven't called him back and I don't know what to say to him so I have no intention of doing so. He texted me earlier today asking what I was up to, and I didn't respond to that either. I am not sure if W is that determined to date me or if K is giving him hope (I asked her and she claims that she doesn't talk to him that much), either way I am not interested in him and I thought I made that pretty clear. I don't know what else to say to make him leave me alone. Have I not made it clear enough that I am not interested?

[pelagicsands]

I think you secretly want him. And so you're sending out these "hold your body close to mine" vibes - even if you're not aware of it. I hope you have been wearing underwear.

 

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[jcster]

You're under no obligation to call the guy back. I would talk to your friend K and make sure that she stops with the agressive matchmaking, though.