cutegirl Posted May 2, 2007 Posted May 2, 2007 This is for men only. How would you feel if your gf or wife earned A LOT more than what you made, many, many times times more than you made? Would you be intimidated? Would you be able to handle the fact that your girlfriend/wife/partner earns more money than you? Would you feel threatened? Can you handle such a successful woman?
Enema Posted May 2, 2007 Posted May 2, 2007 I think most men will say that they don't care, that it'd be great. Perceptions would probably change somewhat when in the real situation though. I'm very competitive, so I believe it would push me to work harder until I was on top
Author cutegirl Posted May 2, 2007 Author Posted May 2, 2007 I think most men will say that they don't care, that it'd be great. Perceptions would probably change somewhat when in the real situation though. I'm very competitive, so I believe it would push me to work harder until I was on top Well, the woman in this case would also be EXTREMELY competitive and agressive (more than the average male) and her income would also be increasing so it would be kind of hard for you to catch up.
Enema Posted May 2, 2007 Posted May 2, 2007 See, now you've put yourself in the position where you assume the man is beneath you and could never be your equal in the business world. That's ludicrous.
alphamale Posted May 2, 2007 Posted May 2, 2007 This is for men only. How would you feel if your gf or wife earned A LOT more than what you made, many, many times times more than you made? Would you be intimidated? Would you be able to handle the fact that your girlfriend/wife/partner earns more money than you? Would you feel threatened? Can you handle such a successful woman? yes i would be intimadated. yes i would feel threatened. i wouldn't want a woman who makes a LOT more than me. well maybe if she was fat and ugly, then i could keep her in her place.....naaah, i'd rather have a cute secretary who makes $35k.
Enema Posted May 2, 2007 Posted May 2, 2007 I think I read the OP incorrectly. This isn't a hypothetical is it?
Author cutegirl Posted May 2, 2007 Author Posted May 2, 2007 yes i would be intimadated. yes i would feel threatened. i wouldn't want a woman who makes a LOT more than me. well maybe if she was fat and ugly, then i could keep her in her place.....naaah, i'd rather have a cute secretary who makes $35k. What if she is good looking and hot and young-looking (could pass for 20) and fit and extremely well-maintained and immaculately groomed but still makes A LOT more than you?
alphamale Posted May 2, 2007 Posted May 2, 2007 What if she is good looking and hot and young-looking (could pass for 20) and fit and extremely well-maintained and immaculately groomed but still makes A LOT more than you? No i wouldn't be interested. I need to have power & control over my woman.
Teacher's Pet Posted May 2, 2007 Posted May 2, 2007 What if she is good looking and hot and young-looking (could pass for 20) and fit and extremely well-maintained and immaculately groomed but still makes A LOT more than you? If she also had really good social skills, then I might be a little intimidated, because she could use all of the above to have almost anyone she wants. Being a VERY outgoing person who generally can dominate a conversation, and use his "skills" to quickly work a room, so to speak, I'd always come off with the "upper hand" in public, so no, I wouldn't be intimidated. Even if she makes 5x what I make, unless she walked around showing her income statements, you'd never know it. Proud? Perhaps? Jealous? Maybe a little, depending on the woman, but no, not really intimidated, since we live in a world where attitude is what really "makes" the person... -tp large, and in charge.
Author cutegirl Posted May 2, 2007 Author Posted May 2, 2007 If she also had really good social skills, then I might be a little intimidated, because she could use all of the above to have almost anyone she wants. Being a VERY outgoing person who generally can dominate a conversation, and use his "skills" to quickly work a room, so to speak, I'd always come off with the "upper hand" in public, so no, I wouldn't be intimidated. Even if she makes 5x what I make, unless she walked around showing her income statements, you'd never know it. Proud? Perhaps? Jealous? Maybe a little, depending on the woman, but no, not really intimidated, since we live in a world where attitude is what really "makes" the person... -tp large, and in charge. Trust me, people knows who makes the money. If you drive a Toyta and your gf drives a Mercedes people will know who is successful or not and who has the upper hand.
lonelybird Posted May 2, 2007 Posted May 2, 2007 What is *success* in life? money? lots of men? lots of women? power? a happy family? lots of money, but lonely? lots of sex, but still lonely? beautiful cars, yeah, all same:o
dropdeadlegs Posted May 2, 2007 Posted May 2, 2007 Will you, I mean she, pay his bills, give him a big allowance and still give him lots of free time? Can he be a starving artist type? In that case I don't think he would mind. While some men might be comfortable, I think most would feel inferior to be earning much less than their partner. If you both earn high figure salaries it might make a difference, but I'm not sure if that would make the inequity of earnings less or more of an issue.
Teacher's Pet Posted May 2, 2007 Posted May 2, 2007 Trust me, people knows who makes the money. If you drive a Toyta and your gf drives a Mercedes people will know who is successful or not and who has the upper hand. At a party, unless you tell everyone to look at your car, or you show them your bankbook, people judge you on YOU. I'd never date a woman who HAS to flash around money. Having a lot of money is GREAT, and I respect anyone who makes a lot of it. But, like I said, if I'm dating someone who makes a *LOT* more than me, and we went to a party/function/whatever together, there is NOTHING that can prove her income (again, except carrying around a bankbook)... she'd actually have to use PERSONALITY to impress people......as for me, I'm a professional entertainer with a lot of public speaking experience. There is NO way I'm being upstaged. Sure, my "hot, gorgeous woman" will get noticed for her physical beauty, but once she opens her mouth, she better have something intelligent to say. I'll go out on a limb and say that most people (and I'm NOT saying WOMEN) can out-talk me, when I'm at my best. I've headlined major clubs for an hour at a time, and more, and still have the energy to "chat it up" with the crowd at the bar afterwards. And frankly, if the woman I'm with can't at least maintain an intelligent conversation (regardless of the topic), she has no business being with me in the first place, rich OR poor. No one EVER remembers someone for their money, you are remembered for the PERSON you are. You can't take money with you when you die, but you can leave a legacy for your family and friends to take pride in. That's how I want to go. I certainly do NOT believe in "Whoever dies with the most toys WINS", because..well... you're still dead. -tp rocks da mic
Chrome Barracuda Posted May 2, 2007 Posted May 2, 2007 Doesnt matter to me, I like it that we can be equals in the relationship. So what her money is longer, mines is just as importnant. So as long as she respects me, treats me good, stays in love with me. Then I dont have a problem with it. But the minute she starts ego trippin about I brought this and that, and this is mine,mine, mine. I'd shut that ish down.
Author cutegirl Posted May 2, 2007 Author Posted May 2, 2007 What is *success* in life? money? lots of men? lots of women? power? a happy family? lots of money, but lonely? lots of sex, but still lonely? beautiful cars, yeah, all same:o For the sake of this thread, I am referring to purely money, and not just income but also assets. Not beautiful cars because those aren't really good assets. Good assets are like a good stock portfolio, real estate holdings, money from a business etc... I am just asking, how do most men feel about dating a woman who has a higher income and more substantial assets?
Chrome Barracuda Posted May 2, 2007 Posted May 2, 2007 Like I said personally I dont care, material goods doesnt make me, Yeah some things make life easier but it doesnt make who the core of I am. Nor should it make her, who she is. u feel me.
dropdeadlegs Posted May 2, 2007 Posted May 2, 2007 Okay, how much difference are we talking here? Not many men can compare to the earnings of Oprah, for example, so I would think that any man dating her would be quite comfortable with earning less than she does. But if we're talking about a woman earning $250k and a man who earns $18k at the local 7-11 I think that makes a BIG difference to him. Gee, what do you do for a living, with little education (sorry that's info from another thread for those wondering where I got that from,) that makes so much money? Maybe I should consider self employment. I like money, too. Who doesn't?
Shandy Posted May 2, 2007 Posted May 2, 2007 Actually I think most, but not all, guys mind. Guys want to protect the girl, not compete with her. Have you heard about the story on girls that go to Harvard? Or girls that are getting their PhDs from Harvard? If a girl drops the "H bomb" at a bar, she instantly becomes less attractive. I hate it. But on the bright side, you can also weed out guys this way. Those that mind whether their girl is more successful are usually the type that likes to dominate. Those guys usually don't make good husbands anyway.
Author cutegirl Posted May 2, 2007 Author Posted May 2, 2007 Okay, how much difference are we talking here? Not many men can compare to the earnings of Oprah, for example, so I would think that any man dating her would be quite comfortable with earning less than she does. But if we're talking about a woman earning $250k and a man who earns $18k at the local 7-11 I think that makes a BIG difference to him. Gee, what do you do for a living, with little education (sorry that's info from another thread for those wondering where I got that from,) that makes so much money? Maybe I should consider self employment. I like money, too. Who doesn't? Internet advertising. I would not ever give anyone tips on how to become financially independent though. The last thing I need is more competition. There's a book called "The Millionaire Mind", you can search for it in Amazon. They did studies that showed that the majority of millionaires in the U.S did NOT have very good scholastic grades and did NOT score exceptionally high on scholastic tests and many did not attend top universities. It is a mind-set.
Pyro Posted May 2, 2007 Posted May 2, 2007 This is for men only. How would you feel if your gf or wife earned A LOT more than what you made, many, many times times more than you made? Would you be intimidated? Would you be able to handle the fact that your girlfriend/wife/partner earns more money than you? Would you feel threatened? Can you handle such a successful woman? I would welcome a successful woman. It wouldn't bother me. I am comfortable enough with who I am and I honestly wouldn't be phased by it. I always wanted a sugar mama.
knaveman Posted May 2, 2007 Posted May 2, 2007 Money doesn't matter too much to me, if the woman loves her job and enjoys it then all is good. If she is competitive and all that then I probably wouldn't talk to her in the first place. I love my life and my job and am looking for the same or as close to it as I can get.
Author cutegirl Posted May 2, 2007 Author Posted May 2, 2007 Okay, how much difference are we talking here? Not many men can compare to the earnings of Oprah, for example, so I would think that any man dating her would be quite comfortable with earning less than she does. But if we're talking about a woman earning $250k and a man who earns $18k at the local 7-11 I think that makes a BIG difference to him. Gee, what do you do for a living, with little education (sorry that's info from another thread for those wondering where I got that from,) that makes so much money? Maybe I should consider self employment. I like money, too. Who doesn't? Also read "Rich Dad Poor Dad." It is a myth that you need education to be wealthy. College merely teaches you to work for someone else. To become wealthy you need to be financially literate, something they do not teach in school. They do not teach about "money" in school, which should be one of the most important subject in school. If you want to become wealthy you have to educate yourself and read tons of books, read finance at yahoo, cnn money, wall street journal etc. I think money is my new hobby, therefore I devote all my time studying and researching it, eating it, breathing it. Researching about it on-line, buying books. I'm talking about things like investing, etc
trigger Posted May 2, 2007 Posted May 2, 2007 If the guy you are dating has problems with your success, you are with the wrong guy. Judging from your posts on the cooking thread, I'd think you wouldn't want a guy like that, i.e. a "regular" guy, if you will. You seem like a strong, confident, gloriously feminist (in the good sense) woman, and you'll need a man who can handle that. lonely bird said it all, though: Love isn't pride, that's all I can say
konfuzd Posted May 2, 2007 Posted May 2, 2007 They do not teach about "money" in school, which should be one of the most important subject in school. That is because many people don't go to post secondary to become millionaires. A lot of people study what they are interested in. I went to school for something that I love, and a decent wage is just a fringe benifit. Don't tell my employers this, but I'd do it for a hell of a lot less. That said, I know for a fact most guys are intimidated by my success, which is really too bad. I've lost at least 2 guys who blatently told me they were intimidated by me, but I'm sure it was the cause of more of them backing off.
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