wlminfla Posted May 1, 2007 Posted May 1, 2007 Hey All, I could certainly use some advice as I feel like I've tried everything to conquer this issue. My relationship of almost six years (ages 19 to 25) ended last October and, needless to say, it has not been a smoothe ride...at all. Before I ask the question, allow me to say that she was my first girlfriend and due to that inexperience, I was very ignorant in a lot of the so-called "norms" of relationships. In particular, I would hang out with friends who were girls when she wasn't around (even when I told her that I was doing so) because, in my mind, it was completely harmless and I had enough awareness that NOTHING would happen. Well, of course, I found that she was very very uncomfortable with things like that and I tried to right the wrong but never quite got over the guilt. Unfortunately, there were so many little stupid mistakes that I made simply from a lack of understanding. Now guilt has me bound in its chains in a cold dark mental prison! My question is this, How do I stop feeling so guilty about so many things like this? Looking back, I feel so embarrassed, young and stupid and I hate myself for letting my behaviors ruin our relationship. I never quite grasped the importance of these issues while we were together and now, I've lost the woman I cared the most about. I have no interest in picking up the phone and calling her to apologize being that she's dating my former roommate now but the guilt still consumes me. I feel like I won't be fully redeemed and resolved until I'm put in a similiar situation (with her or with someone else) and I don't make the same mistakes again. I seriously feel like I'm in a prison. How do I stop feeling so guilty after all this time and honestly, how can I let go of this short of talking to her and apologizing? Unfortunately, for yours truly, I haven't been in another relationship to get the satisfaction of not making the same mistakes again. Anyone? All help is appreciated. Thanks WLM
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