Journey1220 Posted April 30, 2007 Posted April 30, 2007 Friday my 3 month girlfriend and i broke up. Saturday night she went to barhopping one day after we broke up and danced and grinded with another guy. She was honest enough to tell me about it Sunday even though we were broken up. We are trying to work things out but I think its very disrespectful what she did even though we werent together for 24 hours. She said she loves and cares about me but she did something like this. She swears up and down she did not hook up with him but I do not believe her. I need some help coping with this because Im sad.
Davis Posted April 30, 2007 Posted April 30, 2007 Not to overstate the obvious, but you are broken up. Sucks when they do things like that, but they do and worse. It was dumb of her to tell you. Was she trying to get a reaction? Make you jealous? You're trying to work it out?? I would bail out, bro. Once the "break up" stuff starts, it never gets any better. Not what you want to hear, but I would move on if I were you. You sound young ... and there are lots of other, great fish out there.
Author Journey1220 Posted April 30, 2007 Author Posted April 30, 2007 Thanks for your reply. I am not young. I am 29. I am just shocked that someone can do this when they say they have feelings for you. The next day she had the audacity to text me with, I know you hate me what i want to make sure you are ok ? I mean come on. Where are the female advice givers ?
Teddy and Jane Posted April 30, 2007 Posted April 30, 2007 As a female, the best advice I can give is no contact at all, especially since when she does contact you she's just going to rub it in your face that's she's been out with other guys. I don't find it shocking or disrespectful that she did this, as you are broken up and she may do as she wishes with anyone she wishes. However...it is disrespectful of her to tell you who she's been spending time with, just to make you feel badly. If she texts, delete it before reading it, don't answer her calls, and have her email set to go into trash or block altogether. she sounds like a b**ch who just wants to rub in that other guys want to be with her, even though she's the one who broke up.
AFarAwayPlace Posted May 1, 2007 Posted May 1, 2007 Even though you're broken up, she's being very hurtful and sure moves on fast, don't you think? She doesn't deserve your time nor attention, we're on the same journey, time to move on and try to put it behind you. She sounds like she's not worth it.
Author Journey1220 Posted May 1, 2007 Author Posted May 1, 2007 We had the breakup on a Friday night. We talk and said that I would be home to start the healing process because she was upset also. I had plants to go out but ****canned them. She also had plans to go out to drink with her friends and she did. They went to a few bars and she got tipsy. She told me about a guy she danced with on the dancefloor who kinda grinded on her but not really and that it, she denies kissing and said thats what it was, a dance. So the next day I was livid cause I knew she went out I asked her what happened and told me in detail what transpired, how she felt, and she was sorry. Am i blowing this out of proportion? Can she love and clalim to have feelings of me by going barhopping and dancing with another guy, then when asked she told me what had happened.
Trialbyfire Posted May 1, 2007 Posted May 1, 2007 While you want to believe your ex still cares even after a break up, someone who is this quick to turn things around isn't worth the wasted emotion. If anything, it's affirmation that she wasn't the right person for you and that she lacked respect for your feelings.
AFarAwayPlace Posted May 1, 2007 Posted May 1, 2007 We had the breakup on a Friday night. We talk and said that I would be home to start the healing process because she was upset also. I had plants to go out but ****canned them. She also had plans to go out to drink with her friends and she did. They went to a few bars and she got tipsy. She told me about a guy she danced with on the dancefloor who kinda grinded on her but not really and that it, she denies kissing and said thats what it was, a dance. So the next day I was livid cause I knew she went out I asked her what happened and told me in detail what transpired, how she felt, and she was sorry. Am i blowing this out of proportion? Can she love and clalim to have feelings of me by going barhopping and dancing with another guy, then when asked she told me what had happened. Didn't you just repeat what you said in the opening post basically? Did you read the feedback here? She's having her fun and rubbing it in and loving the reaction, you need to rid yourself of her, seriously.
Author Journey1220 Posted May 2, 2007 Author Posted May 2, 2007 So I have tried my best to iniate no contact with this girl I just broke up and boy is she not making it easy for me. We had about 24 hours when she text messaged me. Every time I make an attempt to start the healing process and move on she has to text message me. I finally spoke to her tonight and told her very nicely that I have no desire to be with her and it wouldn't be healthy for both of us to have any sort of communication, she said she understood but I guarantee she will send me a text tomorrow. She is the one who disrespected me but why can't she let go ?
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