sweetbutcheeky Posted April 30, 2007 Posted April 30, 2007 I have read some threads that are pro and others against. What do most people think? When to have sex when dating? How many dates in? Or is it better to wait until you have committed to each other? (so no one assumes just because you have had sex your committed, you worry that maybe the other is having sex with other people or one person doesn't worry that it's all the other wants)
IpAncA Posted April 30, 2007 Posted April 30, 2007 This is going to vary from relationship to relationship. Some wait and some don't.
Author sweetbutcheeky Posted April 30, 2007 Author Posted April 30, 2007 This is going to vary from relationship to relationship. Some wait and some don't. Obviously, but I was asking for what personal opinion was. What you feel works best.
dropdeadlegs Posted April 30, 2007 Posted April 30, 2007 In all honesty, when I really like a guy and see some real potential as a partner, I put off sex for as long as I can. I think I could get away with it for longer, but I like sex, too, so I generally cave after 2-3 weeks. There is always exclusivity implied, although I don't have the "talk" very often. I read people well and spend a lot of hours in one on one conversation in those 2-3 weeks and I can tell a player from a possible partner. Each has value to me. Sometimes a man doesn't interest me in a "long term" kinda way, and I'll boink him right away. As I said, I like sex, and even if I don't see real potential, if there is a strong physical attraction (and I know it's pretty much just physical for him too) I have had sex and moved on to the next candidate. There is no general answer for me. IpAncA said it will vary from relationship to relationship, and for me thats true. Some "relationships" are sexual for me, without much expectation for anything else.
Author sweetbutcheeky Posted May 1, 2007 Author Posted May 1, 2007 Some "relationships" are sexual for me, without much expectation for anything else. That I understand and can relate too, that's a different thread all together! lol I should have been more specific, meaning when you want it to be a long term. I agree, I try and hold out as long as I can. But you can only do you best sometimes and hope the timing works out in the long run.
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