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Hi, I have been dating this wonderful man for about 4 months. We both have children,
so
we are unable to spend a lot of time together. Over the last month I have been feeling closer to him and feel that I may be falling for him. I opened my big mouth and told him. Do you think that was to soon? I don't have a lot of experience in dating. I have been married most of my adult life.
So
sometimes I don't know what I'
m
doing, I just try to speak from my heart. Anyway last night we had a talk, most of it was good, but we decided to resume the conversation in a couple of days. How can I tell if he really cares?

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Hi, I have been dating this wonderful man for about 4 months. We both have children,
so
we are unable to spend a lot of time together. Over the last month I have been feeling closer to him and feel that I may be falling for him. I opened my big mouth and told him. Do you think that was to soon? I don't have a lot of experience in dating. I have been married most of my adult life.
So
sometimes I don't know what I'
m
doing, I just try to speak from my heart. Anyway last night we had a talk, most of it was good, but we decided to resume the conversation in a couple of days. How can I tell if he really cares?

Okay, well I'm sensing he didn't tell you he loved you back. Did he tell you anything about how he feels? Actually I don't think 4 months is too soon, I for one though don't have the guts to tell a guy how I feel first, so more power to you. Can you give us the gist of the convo that you had with him?

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In think it just depends on the people. I told my BF I'd fallen for him after about 3.5 months once we had had a chance to go through some stuff together so I knew how I really felt. I'd never been the first to say it before so it was scary but he said it right back and I immediately knew he meant it and had been thinking it himself.

It isn't necessarily a bad thing that he didn't say it back to you because he may just be in a different place than you or have a different definition of love... some people throw it around like spare change and for others it is only the sort of thing you would say to someone who you had been with for years. He may feel the same way about you that you feel about him but not be comfortable using that word to describe his feelings. Yes, I think it is important to be able to say that to each other and mean it, but if the feelings are there on both sides then it isn't important at this point as actually having the emotional connection that it represents, no matter what you call it. However, if you are developing the emotional connection and he isn't there could be a problem.

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Our conversation was about moving forward. We are also very different people which I don't think is a bad thing. I'
m
a get up and let's go kind of girl and he is more laid back. Yes, he did say that he has feelings for me but he says he feels like he has to be more careful in this relationship. When he is with me he is great. But it seems to me that when it was reconized that maybe this was a little more than just dating he has distanced himself a little. We both have been hurt by our ex-spouses,
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maybe time will just tell. I am a bit frustrated do to his "laid back" personality but at the same time I would love to learn how to slow down too. We have known each other for over a year before we started dating. I don't want to be pushy and I don't want this to end. Do you have any advice for me?

 

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