Guest Posted April 30, 2007 Posted April 30, 2007 hello all, i am posting on LS for the first time. It would be really nice to hear from you. I am a 26 year old working girl, tall and decent looking. I have had 2 relationships in the past with 2 boys of my age-group.. but both the time we broke up because i used to start feeling "emotionally trapped"...and stuck in the relationship. but then again when i used to be single i used to start craving for companionship and sex ... now i have recently met a married man, he is about 41 years old and is very charming, intelligent and well settled in life.. we gradually became friends as we had a lot in common and then started exchanging sms, phone calls on a daily basis. we also ended up having sex a couple of times.. its amazing really.. if we see this setup, we both are quite comfortable with this kindof relationship. I am comfortable bcoz i dont have to deal with the emotions and all the baggage that comes with a regular boyfriend (especially after my past experiances), all my needs are being fulfilled - i talk with him, share things, we have great sex. and i also get my space whenever i want it as i am not socially, financially or personally dependent on him in any way. i say its perfect for me.. and he is comfortable bcoz well i dont think i need to say why as its obvious from life and all the posts on this forum.. i never asked him about his wife or children, infact once he invited me to a theatre show where his wife was also present, but frankly it didnt bother me one bit..i noticed that they both didnt exchange a word with each other at any point and even left from there in separate cars. but i never talked about this or anything else to him as this is truly his/their business and not mine. also if tomorrow i want to get married, he wouldnt interfere with that.. i want to know from you all, that as an other woman in my kindof situation, someone who is quite fine with the whole scenario, why should it be labelled as something wrong? i have read the post titled 'self esteem of an other woman' on this forum ... and i admit that i can identify little bit with that.. but then life is too short right, if one is attracted to someone and wants to spend time with, be friends with them..then one should go ahead... why bother about anything else in this world.... follow your instinct.. i feel that if its convenient for both sides..then why cant 2 adults have a consenting relationship like this?......
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