JaneInVegas Posted April 30, 2007 Posted April 30, 2007 I started communicating with a guy on eHarmony that really interested me. We talked a whole bunch of times on the phone, and we have almost everything in common, to the point where it started freaking me out a little bit. One night after work I called him, and we started a really deep intense conversation. I hate talking while I'm on the freeway, so I jumped into a parking lot. We talked for three and a half hours non-stop while I sat in my car staring at the stars. It was romantic. We clicked so beautifully together, and that was the most intense, beautiful conversation I've ever had in my life. I felt like I had finally found my soul mate, because I have never believed that I have one. The next day we decided to meet face to face. At first we were shy and cautious around each other, then for an hour or so we were totally into each other like on the phone. After that I noticed he was 'pulling away' from me. Less than 24 hours after that deep, meaningful conversation, he made it pretty clear he's not interested in me. I have no idea why. I sent him an email this evening, telling him I'm disappointed that we'd bonded so well, just for it to end so quickly. I wasn't sappy or pathetic, I just let him know in an intelligent, well thought out email that I'm sorry it worked out the way it did, and I even thanked him for not being a jerk about it. In case you're curious, I was completely upfront with him about my appearance, and everything about me. What he saw was exactly what he was expecting. I've believed for a long time that I have no soul mate, and now I believe it even more. Love sucks.
zilverenvlinder Posted May 1, 2007 Posted May 1, 2007 I'm sorry sweetie. What I'm thinking is it really doesn't have to do with your appearance, since you were upfront about it and you were having a good time for about an hour, right? I think you said something that set off a red alert... think about the conversation you were having. Maybe something you said or did reminded him of an ex? I mean, I know I personally have first date rules, and if they're broken, then i'm done. Maybe he does too? Anyway, if he's going to be a jerk, I'm sure there are plenty of other fine gentlemen on eharmony you can try to hook up with. ;- ) good luck sweetheart
Icantletgo Posted May 1, 2007 Posted May 1, 2007 i'm sorry but it could have been the appearance. Did he already see a pic of you? The thing is you can bond w/ someone emotionally 100% but the physical attraction, the sexual attraction has to be there for some people for them to continue to want you. Sorry if i'm blunt.
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