chachachica_8001 Posted April 30, 2007 Posted April 30, 2007 Hi, I have an interesting question to ask you. My ex boyfriend and I were very happy. We got along, hardly ever fought, and he told me all the time how much he loved me and would do anything for me, I mean, he even wanted to marry me. He was going to get me a promise ring next year, and he was going to apply to the same college I was going to. We were really good together, and we had made long term future goals to one day be married. A few times I doubted the relationship and everytime I talked about breaking up he would CRY!!! So I never did, and also because I grew to love him very much. He even cried over me a week before he broke up with me. One time he didn't sleep at all one night because of me. He couldn't stop thinking about me and what he had done wrong. He is 17 and I am 18. We went out for 2 and a half months, and every day he told me how much he loved me and he fell in love with me before we went out, when we were just friends. I mean, you just have no idea how perfect everything was until the very day he broke up with me. I still to this day even believe that he was more in love with me every single day of that relationship then I was with him. Then he randomly broke up with me, when everything was going fine. He told me I did nothing wrong, that it wasn't my fault. It's been 2months now that we have been broken up for. Exactly one week after he dumped me, he tried to get back together with me. He explained that he wasn't sure he wanted a girlfriend right now, and that he still loved me but wasn't sure if he could commit to a relationship, and that his grades had been slipping because we talked on the phone so much. But the next day he told a mutual friend of ours that he really wanted to get back together the day before, but that he wasn't sure what he wanted anymore. Then he went through a period where he avoided me and didn't talk to me unless he had to. Then I invited him to a party of mine because we agreed to stay friends. The whole night he tried to put his arm around me and hug me and sat next to me and flirted with me and touched me any chance he could. He would MAKE it that way. Because I moved around a lot that night and he followed me when I would move and he cuddled with me during the whole movie. I wasn't sure what to do, so I tensed up but he didn't even notice. Then a few days later at school he randomly gave me a neck massage because I told him my neck was sore. Then about a month ago I called him and told him that it was obvious to me he still liked me and he didn't deny it at first. He tried to change the subject. But I kept hounding him and he told me he didn't like me. But I kept saying "you need to get over it, you need to move on." and ever since then he has been mean to me! I've never been mean to him a day in his life, so it's not like he was retaliating or anything. So now we don't really talk much, unless we have to. But the other day he left me a myspace comment saying his sister needed back a book I borrowed from her, and asked how my spring break was. Now I'm so confused, and his mom even still calls me a lot and wants to stay in contact with me, and constantly tells me she honestly thinks it has something to do with her ex-husband (my ex boyfriend's dad, who is a power hungry jerk) and that my ex wants to make his dad proud that all it would take was his dad to say he didnt like me to break up with me. Now I don't know if he broke up with me for the reasons he gave me, or because of his dad, or because he doesn't like me anymore. I just don't know what to do. What does all of this mean? About 2 weeks ago he randomly started talking to me in a study hall we have together. He came over to talk to me about baseball, something I could care less about. Then, he proceeded to flirt with me and asked about my birthday. I told him about how it didn't have much meaning because I was gone in Arizona for it. He then told me that I should have a party with my friends this weekend. Then I was like nah I was going to have one next weekend because this weekend I'm busy. And he was like with what? And I said stuff. Then, this is where it gets ridiculous. He kept on asking me what I was doing this weekend. I then proceeded to tell him none of his business, but he wouldn't let it go. Then he goes, jokingly, "do you have a big date or something?" and I was like omg stop. I then told him I didn't have a cake, which was sad. Then you know what he did? He OFFERED to make me a cake. He goes "I'll make you a cake this weekend." at first I thought he was kidding, but then he was like "what kind of cake do you like?" and I told him no chocolate and he goes "oh I know isn't chocolate cake gross?" and I was like uhh yeah. And he goes "I'll make you a cake under one condition...you are nice to me for the rest of the week." and like, ughh. It's really hard to move on if he keeps flirting with me and acting like he likes me. Then after school I was walking to my locker, and he waited for me by my locker when he saw me coming. Then he goes "no cake!" and I was like "you are so mean to me" (both of us were talking in a joking matter) and he starts walking back towards me, extends his arms, and comes to hug me and says "you know I'm kidding, I love you." and OMG WHO SAYS THAT TO AN EX?!??! Not even I am that stupid. Then he walked back up stairs with me (even though he was originally headed in the opposite direction before he saw me coming). He just keeps being super flirtatious and talking to me every chance he gets. I don't know though, I don't have a lot of self-confidence to begin with. I had tons when we were dating, because he would tell me all the time how beautiful and amazing I was. He seriously treated me like a princess every day. That's why the break up was so sudden! He seriously was really in love with me like he said, or he was extremely whipped. Oh by the way, I'm not that outgoing or confident, like I said, so every single sweet thing he said (including the marriage bit) was brought up by him. I would reciprocate it, but not at first because I was so shy around him. But then I got so comfortable, and everything was fine. I just don't understand what happened, he was so attentive all the time. It was SO out of the blue. He was so into the relationship even the day before he broke up with me. I swear to you, I'm pretty good at seeing bad things coming. I didn't see that one. when he broke up with his last girlfriend, he told her everything that he didn't like about her...mean, I know. But when he broke up with me he told me it wasn't my fault and that I didn't do anything wrong. And also she asked him if they could stay friends, and he told her no, but when I asked the same thing, he said of course and that he agreed. Tonight was my birthday dinner (even though my birthday was a few weeks ago) and he wasn't as flirtatious as he was that night at my house about a month ago, when he was all over me, but when my good friend Ben put his arm around me to "cuddle" and whatnot, my ex kept looking over at us and the look on his face was one of complete jealousy. He still does flirt with me quite a bit and for us being friends, he doesn't flirt with any of his other friends that are girls. I just want to know what is going on, because it seems like he almost doesn't know what he wants. Does he still like me as more than just a friend?
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