stillafool Posted May 4, 2007 Posted May 4, 2007 Well I told him that I wasn't happy, why and I needed to talk to him (left him a phone message because I couldn't get a hold of him). And this is what he sent in an email: "So good of you to call with that info that's nice. I'm sorry that I disappoint you with not having a lot of time with you... Maybe it is better this way I start a new job tomorrow. well I felt it only proper to leave this note well I have to get up for work tomorrow have a good night and best of luck." It sounds like this guy was just waiting for you to complain so he could break up without being the one to actually "break up. That makes it easier on his sorry ass. He can now say "oh well she wasn't happy with me so its over". He didn't even want to talk to you about your problems. You called him on the phone to talk and yet he sends you an email with the "best of luck" line so he doesn't have to face you again - not even by telephone. Lots of guys (people) are great on dates. Attentive, affectionate and fun but it doesn't necessarilly mean they are in love. They are just fun loving people who are great dates. This guy probably dates around a lot. I think you should be glad it's over with him. He obviously doesn't care and I wouldn't contact him again if I were you or you'd look foolish. In the future I wouldn't sit around waiting on a guy, but always have your own thing going on so as not to be "needy" for them.
Author sweetbutcheeky Posted May 4, 2007 Author Posted May 4, 2007 It sounds like this guy was just waiting for you to complain so he could break up without being the one to actually "break up. That makes it easier on his sorry ass. He can now say "oh well she wasn't happy with me so its over". He didn't even want to talk to you about your problems. You called him on the phone to talk and yet he sends you an email with the "best of luck" line so he doesn't have to face you again - not even by telephone. Lots of guys (people) are great on dates. Attentive, affectionate and fun but it doesn't necessarilly mean they are in love. They are just fun loving people who are great dates. This guy probably dates around a lot. I think you should be glad it's over with him. He obviously doesn't care and I wouldn't contact him again if I were you or you'd look foolish. In the future I wouldn't sit around waiting on a guy, but always have your own thing going on so as not to be "needy" for them. Thing is that, that message isn't accurate anymore. Well not they way though it was sent anyway. I thought it was a response to my voice mail saying I wasn't happy and why. Though in between my voice mail and his email me saw a song on my msn "Why do all good things come to an end" and thought that was a message that I was ending it. So his email wasn't ending things he was saying goodbye after he thought I was already saying goodbye.
Author sweetbutcheeky Posted May 4, 2007 Author Posted May 4, 2007 Sooo SBC- has your guy actually apologized for his lateness and for making you unhappy? Yes when he called me after he left the email, we talked about everything and the first thing he did was apologize. For assuming the song on msn was a heading I typed as a message to him (he said he should have asked me first), for the lateness, not calling and disappointing me.
Author sweetbutcheeky Posted May 4, 2007 Author Posted May 4, 2007 I can bet you don't have sex. Gotcha. You want him to shower you with love and attention but your relationship hangs in dead spot. When he sees no progress he is probably worried it will end up with him frustrated and broken-hearted....so he switched his priorities elsewhere. And he is busy man. He is smart enough not to make you center of the universe. You have to offer much more for him to bet on you. Not sure where your inspiration comes from for the post but it doesn't relate to us. When we are together he showers me with love and attention and sex is not lacking nor will it be. I haven't seen him since the ordeal, we both take transit (his car is broken and I live downtown so don't use one) so it takes a while to get to his place or mine. Point being he can't drop over after work, need a weekend or day off.
stillafool Posted May 4, 2007 Posted May 4, 2007 Well it sounds like you two have worked things out and you're okay now. Good Luck to you both!!!!!!!!!!!!
Author sweetbutcheeky Posted May 4, 2007 Author Posted May 4, 2007 Well it sounds like you two have worked things out and you're okay now. Good Luck to you both!!!!!!!!!!!! Thank you very much. Time will tell for sure but I feel so too.
Author sweetbutcheeky Posted May 5, 2007 Author Posted May 5, 2007 A little update and correcting myself. I said earlier that since we don't live that close and take transit that we can't drop by during the week to see each other. Well he proved me wrong tonight. He called me after he got off work (day job) and said that he was coming to my area and was asking if I was free. Since I was just relaxing with the TV he called me when he was downstairs and we hung out for a little while before he had to leave and get back home to get ready for his weekend night job. (kinda sucks he works night on the weeks - "date nights") Was a nice surprise and even though it was short, it was sweet and something I needed (hugs and kisses hee hee). Also since I had put off the exclusive/being a couple conversation I was still wondering though how he felt about me. So I asked him that tonight too (wanted to ask while we were face to face, didn't want to ask on the phone). He said "Aww you know I like you, don't you?" and gave me a big hug and kiss. Told me again that he liked me and asked if that was the response that I was looking for. I told him I knew that but wanted to ask after the ups, downs and confusion lately. Then more kisses and hugs! lol
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