smookie Posted April 29, 2007 Posted April 29, 2007 After taking your advice on the NC I really staarted to do it with great results, (once I slipped and called only to make myself feel really bad and worthless) So after that I started all over again. Then he started to call. I refused to answer the phone because It was about money (house bill was still in his name, he said he changed it but still went to his new address) he called wanting the money, However he knows that I pay them on the 15th of every month cuz the first of the month takes my money. He then started to call my work, my cell my house and would not stop. So my co-worker told him I was gone until tuesday. But he still did not stop. I thought calling him back after recieving a nasty message on y house phone would calm him down and get him to stop calling me. The fight then began. I told him that i did not have it right that second and that on the 15th I had no problem paying it at all. he wanted to know where I was so that he could bring me the bill. I said does not matter cuz I do not have the money and I am out of town. I know it is a lie (out of town) he then started to call me down and say that I was laughing all the way to the bank and that i was this and that. Th biggest fightsa with us have always been money. He knows how to push me to get me mad very fast, but the one thing hat he always says is well you did this for this long so now i am doing it. I do not know if it is payback time or what. He is just a very mean crule angry person, he can not tell the truth about anything. Because he is being so crule when I am trying to move on and do healthy things for myself ( angry managment, counceling, going to the gym, losing my weight that has always bugged me, dance lessons that I have always wanted to do, and just meeting new people) how can I keep him out of my life. You all were so right when you state "you will feel like crap after you talk to him" I feel like still a mess, I shake afterwards, M daughter thinks I will break down and lose it and worry's about me (she's 17) and i feel she should not have to motherwatch me. Yes I love him, Yes I care about him but I can not be with him or even his friend anymore. I have to cut all ties with him but I do not know how to do this. He gets persistant when he feels that i am doing better and do not need him anymore. PLs help you have all be wonderful in helping me and I would still be a mess if it was not for the support of this site. Thanks bunches !!!!!!!
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