Author MWC_LifeBeginsAt40 Posted April 29, 2007 Author Posted April 29, 2007 player talk, baby. So he didn't know if he really, really liked you and wasn't sure he wanted to really, really open up to you before he got his rocks off with you, huh? MWC, there is really, really no need to buy this swampland he's trying to sell you. Just because you think he's all full of values and whatnot, what proof do you have? How do you know who he was having a drink with the night of your booty call? How do you know he wasn't on a date with someone else he'd met online? You know, his first or second date with her before he texted her with a sad smiley about a booty call? You don't. So don't give him more credit than he's earned. We called each other that. I know he was with a friend cuz he text'd me a question about one of my friends who might have known one of his friends. Anyway, I think he is a wimp and if he really did have those feelings, he would have given me a chance. I had to be sure, so I emailed him today. I have met a couple other prospects on line, but I will not move on with anything until I straighten out my head, define my boundaries, re-visit my values and know exactly how i will conduct myself on a date. I'm going to be having those 'talks' with my kids in a few short years and I want to be able to say that I actually follow the rules I'll be instilling upon them.
Star Gazer Posted April 29, 2007 Posted April 29, 2007 OP - You should have held yourself with more respect than accept a late night text message booty call from some guy you barely know. Now that is all he sees you as. Lesson learned, right? Now you can move on and hopefully understand that YOU set the boundaries of behavior. If a guy can sleep with you, he will. And it doesn't have to mean anything. Women are the emotional creatures. When we have sex there is much more behind it from the very beginning. If you don't make sure he is right there with you -- the same mind set BY HIS ACTIONS -- then don't be surprised if it ends up with his ability to take a quick walk. Yup, yup. MWC - I'm sorry you're bummed. I've been there, sucks. But please just chalk this up to a lesson learned about YOUR behavior. Keep the panties on a little longer next time.
Author MWC_LifeBeginsAt40 Posted April 29, 2007 Author Posted April 29, 2007 I thought for a while that if I said no to the booty call, and would have said how much I'd been looking forward to the next day's date, he still would have cancelled for being sick, but, I think the next couple of days would have been much different.
norajane Posted April 29, 2007 Posted April 29, 2007 I've never heard a player say anything about getting "spooked." Oh, yeah, those players are out there. They're the ones who've had their 'heart broken' and need tiiiiime to get over it....tiiiiiiiiime they're using to get laid with a lot of tender-hearted women who buy into the poor-broken-hearted-guy routine. Those tender-hearted women are hoping that they'll be 'the one' to mend his broken heart...just like the women who think they'll be 'the one' who will get a bad boy to change his ways or to get a commitment phobe to finally commit.
Author MWC_LifeBeginsAt40 Posted April 29, 2007 Author Posted April 29, 2007 I'm going to bed now, tomorrow's a new day, thanks for listening. so really, that author is divorced? haha time to read the other library books I got....Dont Sweat The Small Stuff In Love is one of them maybe i'll strike up a conversation with a guy i see at church (i think he is interested) and if my panties are gonna stay on anywhere, it's at church!
Road Rage Posted April 29, 2007 Posted April 29, 2007 I think norajane is on the right track. This guy is as phony as a twelve dollar bill in my opinion. He really knows how to work on a woman`s mind. He is an excellent player. My hat is off to him. He played MWC_LifeBeginsAt40 to a tee. Got in, got the booty call, got out leaving her thinking she is responsible for the demise of the "relationship". This is when a player has done the ultimate. He has gone into someone`s mind, played with their emotions, manipulated them, and left them feeling responsible in full.
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