Answer Posted April 28, 2007 Posted April 28, 2007 Perhaps you have come across the book "Why men have no clue and why women need more shoes." I forget the names of the two people who worte that book. There's a chapter in that book that answers questions women most frequently ask about men. They authors provide answers. Now, it's time for me to give my own answers to those questions. --- Question: Why do men continually offer solutions and give advice? Answer: Being more rational than women, men are naturally oriented to problem solving. This is what reason dictates. If a problem is posed, the natural response of the reasoning mind is to find and propose a solution. The female mind, being more emotional, has less interest and inclination to resolve problems; it is far more inclined to bathe in the waters of the emotion involved. Also, men offer advice to women because that's what women want and respond to. This dynamic indicates to the woman that the woman is valued (or at least, she thinks it does) and also allows the woman to take action without the burden of personal responsibility - they can simply act on the basis of advice given. In this sense, men, through advice giving, present women with one of the greatest gifts that a woman could want - a means by which to absolve themselves from responsibility for their actions. The other, and perhaps less complicated reason for this behaviour in men is that men seek to dominate the world through mental action; women submit to the world and flow within its turbulence because they have no corresponding mental activity. Without the advice and problem solving of the males around them, most women would collapse into a pathetic heap. So, instead of asking why men continually offer solutions and give advice, women should ask themselves why they continually need it. Question: Why do men insist on leaving the toilet seat up? Answer: Why do women insist on leaving the toilet seat down? Why do women believe the world should be set up for their benefit? If men have to lift the seat up every time, why can't women put it down? If this is the sort of thing that women actually do most frequently ask about men, it is proof positive that women are hopelessly self-obsessed and mentally vacuous. Question: Why don't men know much about their friend's lives? Answer: Men know as much as they need to know. Men come together in friendship as a consequence of shared values or interests; women as a consequence of a need for relation itself. Men have no need of the details of a friend's life beyond the context of those shared values or interests. For a woman, knowing as much detail as possible about a friend's life is part of building an egotistically beneficial relationship. It also provides women with the ability to gossip, exploit, manipulate and express power. For women, the nitty gritty, mundane details of the everyday (i.e. the immediate) is predominantly what their lives are made of, so it is unsurprising that they would value this and what to have knowledge of it with respect to their friends. Men, on the other hand, meet each other on a far more abstract and conceptual plane and those nitty gritty details of their more general lives are simply irrelevant to this. Question: Why do men feel the need to be right about everything? Answer: Well, I'm more interested in why women don't! Could it have something to do with conscience and responsibility? Certainly a man's need to be right about things because he has a conscience about being wrong, is tainted by an egotistical need to dominate, but this is surely preferable to the egotistical need to be passive with respect to the meaningfulness of what one is expressing. Women don't like to be held accountable for anything, therefore they have no concern for being right about anything, for to claim rectitude is to place oneself squarely in a position of responsibility, possibly even blame. We perceive men as being arrogant in this respect and women as being reasonable and open-minded. The truth is far other than this, however. The need to feel that one is right about things is in fact an entirely noble feeling, so long as it is accompanied by a conscience and a willingness to concede error when it's pointed out. Women avoid the whole dynamic entirely. They blissfully spew out opinions on everything and everyone, yet never feel the touch of the burden of conscience or responsibility, because, well, they never feel that they are necessarily right in their opinions. This is part of the reason that hardly any woman in history has achieved anything of worth in areas such as philosophy and science. There must come, at some point, a willingness to say that one is right about something; a willingness to stand up and be counted and to be held to account. Only a woman would place a negative connotation on wanting to be right. Question: Why do men avoid commitment? Answer: Clearly, men do not avoid commitment. Men express commitment everyday across a whole spectrum of life matters. What women are really saying when they ask this question is: "Why do men avoid commitment to us?" Also, they are saying that commitment to them is really the only kind of commitment that matters. Men make a commitment to careers, politics, sports, principles an so forth all the time. It is surely a perfect expression of female vanity that seeming unwillingness to commit to them on the part of men, signifies a general avoidance of commitment. That in itself is good reason for men to be wary of commitment to a female. Who wants to commit themselves to a creature who apparently believes herself to be God's gift to the universe, something inherently valuable and utterly magnetic? Men resist commitment to women - to the degree that they even really do - because it represents the potential loss of their freedom; of their individuality which they value highly and which women don't even comprehend. In short, men know the difference between commitment and - capitulation!
Star Gazer Posted April 29, 2007 Posted April 29, 2007 I think I just identified the type of guy I've been trying to avoid! YAY for me!!! :sick: :sick:
Author Answer Posted May 4, 2007 Author Posted May 4, 2007 I think I just identified the type of guy I've been trying to avoid! YAY for me!!! :sick: :sick: YAY for YOU? Listen, sweetcakes ... at LEAST three out of every ten guys you will run into will agree with most of what I said. The sad part is that you won't know it because they are not going to say anything close to what I said in your presence. They will keep their mouth quiet for fear that the females will not like them. Chances are very likely that your boyfriend (or some guy you're interested in) will laugh and agree with me if he reads this. That's IF he's by himself or with a group of male buddies. If he's with you, and reads this, he will change his tune. His he's completely honest about this topic as I am, he will not be too popular in your eyes, and as a result, he won't get any. Guys who want to get in your pants will not tell you the whole truth about thier beliefs on this topic. Men know that it's easier to make women nod than to have to live in the dog house. Men cannot be too politically correct and always agree that feminine values ARE the values of westen civilization. At some point you have to put your foot down and say things from another point of view that make people stop and think for a bit. I can afford to be blunt because chances are very likely that I won't run into any of you ladies in real life. And if by some chance I did, I might play the high road, agree with feminine values, and get in your pants. By the time you find out that I praise what I preach, it would be too late. You've already made love to me. That doesn't go for just me, this goes for many guys who you deal with in your life everyday. Women here are mad because I'm right and know that they can't argue against the truth. OR they feel that the more they ignore me, the sooner I'll go away. Man, whatever...
KittenMoon Posted May 4, 2007 Posted May 4, 2007 Well, obviously a troll.... by one definition or another.
JackJack Posted May 4, 2007 Posted May 4, 2007 Well, obviously a troll.... by one definition or another. and a woman hater troll at that.
Trialbyfire Posted May 4, 2007 Posted May 4, 2007 I think I just identified the type of guy I've been trying to avoid! YAY for me!!! :sick: :sick: Agreed. There needs to be a few more of the smilies. :sick: :sick: :sick: :sick: Well, obviously a troll.... by one definition or another. :lmao: It's a small one after all.... (sing that to small world)
norajane Posted May 4, 2007 Posted May 4, 2007 Men resist commitment to women - to the degree that they even really do - because it represents the potential loss of their freedom; of their individuality which they value highly and which women don't even comprehend. In short, men know the difference between commitment and - capitulation! It's not capitulation if it is something you desire. Or is that what you're afraid of - that some day you might meet a woman and actually find yourself wanting to commit?
whichwayisup Posted May 4, 2007 Posted May 4, 2007 Answer: Why do women insist on leaving the toilet seat down? Why do women believe the world should be set up for their benefit? If men have to lift the seat up every time, why can't women put it down? LOL! Well, you'd have to put down the toilet seat eventually, unless you sh.it standing up???? hehehe...Just being a smart ass. Interesting read..
norajane Posted May 4, 2007 Posted May 4, 2007 LOL! Well, you'd have to put down the toilet seat eventually, unless you sh.it standing up???? hehehe...Just being a smart ass. Interesting read.. Many people fail to grasp the concept that it's not just the seat that needs to go down, but the lid as well. The lid is to be put down before flushing...it's a cover for the toilet so the bacteria isn't sprayed out around the bathroom when you flush. Therefore, both men and women should be putting the lid down, which means the toilet seat also has to come down with it. I never understand why people don't ever put the lid down!
Trialbyfire Posted May 4, 2007 Posted May 4, 2007 Question: Why do men continually offer solutions and give advice? Answer: It's much easier to offer a quick, knee-jerk solution, so they don't need to do any big picture thinking. The sooner they're out of the equation, the sooner they can use the remote control. Question: Why do men insist on leaving the toilet seat up? Answer: They know that their woman will put the toilet seat down before they need to sit down. Question: Why don't men know much about their friend's lives? Answer: They simply don't care. The more you know, the more thinking you have to do when a friend asks you for advice. It goes hand-in-hand with the response to the first question. Question: Why do men feel the need to be right about everything? Answer: Men are competitive by nature and have substantial egos that need to be affirmed on a constant basis. Question: Why do men avoid commitment? Answer: I'll agree that men don't necessarily avoid commitment. Many will commit to a primary relationship and then commit to one or more secondary relationships. It's the secret to successful compartmentalization. Okay, I couldn't resist adding fuel to the gender divide. I responded in like manner as the OP. These are not necessarily my views on men.
whichwayisup Posted May 4, 2007 Posted May 4, 2007 Many people fail to grasp the concept that it's not just the seat that needs to go down, but the lid as well. The lid is to be put down before flushing...it's a cover for the toilet so the bacteria isn't sprayed out around the bathroom when you flush. Therefore, both men and women should be putting the lid down, which means the toilet seat also has to come down with it. I never understand why people don't ever put the lid down! Yup exactly!!!!!!!
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