Ruby Tuesday Posted April 28, 2007 Posted April 28, 2007 I read all the time on the infidelity sites about the OW putting up myspace pages and I guess it was just a matter of time before I found my own FWS's xOW on myspace. LOL xOW should be arrested for impersonating a human being. She started a new page and invited herself to be myspace friends to a few people on my friends lists. What a coincidence. All on the same day. I noticed that even if the xOW set their profile to private you can still see their comments on others pages. She's also wearing her hair like mine now. It's creepy. (Note: It still doesn't make you me.) I'm pretty sure that she has been checking out my page, so I made mine a tribute to my FWS, with lots pictures of us, hearts and graphics, like, "Be safe, sleep with a marine" I'm pretty sure she's just crawling up the wall by now. Maybe later on I'll make up a fake journal "renewing our vows" or "having a baby" or "going to Italy for a second honeymoon". I know what words can kill with a poisoned pen. I am evil genius !!! Anyway, I told my myspace friends who the new person was. My friend wrote back and says her stalking-song is stained "right here" ... But you always find a way to keep me right here waiting You always find the words to say to keep me right here waiting And if I chose to walk away would you be right here waiting Searching for the things to say to keep me right here waiting.. YOU ALWAYS FIND THE WORDS TO SAY? you mean, words like... GO AWAY and NO CONTACT those words?
outofdarkness Posted April 29, 2007 Posted April 29, 2007 I just discovered that the OW often have myspace pages. I found one two OW's pages on it, but there were no friends, profile, etc..It pissed me off. What's the purpose..My H also has one w/ no info...Can they use it to communicate back and forth? I really don't know that much about it..Only what I hear from our two teenagers...If they did communicate back and forth, wouldn't you be able to see it on their page? That seems to be the way our kids' pages are...Or is it just something else to get under my skin? I know these weren't there before..They seem to be recent... I liked your post, but the way...
Author Ruby Tuesday Posted April 29, 2007 Author Posted April 29, 2007 In the cult of myspace, you can have as many different profiles as elvis prestley has rhinestone suits. Messages are private, not public like comments. Comments are just like signing someones guest book. Messages are out of the main public view. When you sign in, you start at myspace (home) page. Its seperate from the profile page. The home home page is where you can get messages or send them, edit/view photos, edit/view profile. It also has an instant messaging feature so it is private chat friendly. No messages to trace. It takes five seconds to sign up on myspace. Release the evil ~ Little Nicky ~ lol
outofdarkness Posted April 29, 2007 Posted April 29, 2007 In the cult of myspace, you can have as many different profiles as elvis prestley has rhinestone suits. Messages are private, not public like comments. Comments are just like signing someones guest book. Messages are out of the main public view. When you sign in, you start at myspace (home) page. Its seperate from the profile page. The home home page is where you can get messages or send them, edit/view photos, edit/view profile. It also has an instant messaging feature so it is private chat friendly. No messages to trace. It takes five seconds to sign up on myspace. Release the evil ~ Little Nicky ~ lol Thank you so much for the useful info! I appreciate it!
justice Posted April 30, 2007 Posted April 30, 2007 It used to make me sick when I found stuff my ex h's other woman wrote on the internet. I hate myspace because of crap like this, but I did find it informative.
outofdarkness Posted April 30, 2007 Posted April 30, 2007 It used to make me sick when I found stuff my ex h's other woman wrote on the internet. I hate myspace because of crap like this, but I did find it informative. Yeah, but i also think it can be a good way for the B/S to get HER message out there...
Author Ruby Tuesday Posted April 30, 2007 Author Posted April 30, 2007 Well, I have deleted my comments from pages she has commented on. I've also "hidden" all my friends & comments from view on my page, so she'll just have to wonder who I am with now, wont she. Apparently she is still on her crusade to have to comment on all my friends pages. There was yet a new one today. Shes absolutely psychotic. I'm toying with an evil plan to make a "fake" friend... Ruby Tuesday has (1) friend: FWS Hottie OMG click to view all of Ruby Tuesdays friends But... when you click on his link, his page wont come up, she'll just see a picture of a donkey's ass... Banjo music in the background... The headline goes, QUIT STARIN' AT MY ASS, BEYATCH! LOL
Guest Posted April 30, 2007 Posted April 30, 2007 why not just set your profile to private & that way she won't be able to see who your friends are or what's going on. trust me, as a recovering myspace stalker, this is a fate worse than death! lol
justice Posted April 30, 2007 Posted April 30, 2007 It is a good way to get the bs's message across, and that's a cute idea, Ruby, but I'd have to be way meaner than that...lol which is precisely why I don't do it. LOL would you like a little help with it??? *winks*
Trialbyfire Posted April 30, 2007 Posted April 30, 2007 Ladies, don't stoop to playing the OWs game. You've either restarted your marriage or you've walked away. If you really need revenge, do it with style and hit low and hard so she never comes back. Overall though, revenge tends to be victory that leaves a lingering bad taste in your mouth, because if you're honest, it takes two to tango so your ex or existing husbands are just as guilty. Myspace isn't the way to improve your life. Find someone worthwhile or start to focus those energies on being happy.
Author Ruby Tuesday Posted April 30, 2007 Author Posted April 30, 2007 I would like to be meaner, lol, a whole lot meaner! Grrrrr !!! Come on (I mean) I don't even need to make anything up. The truth is bad enough isnt it? However, harassment and obsenities will only get the page deleted. I know how it would all play out. I'm just psychic that way. I'm sure that anything I would post about her affair with my husband would violate all the myspace agreements ever written. So, if I write something ignorant about her and she complains to the management and my page gets deleted, she wins. Plus it would make her look like a victim and we certianly wouldn't want that to happen. Would we? That would be a trophy and she would have an upper hand over me. Trust me if the OW can fu*ck around with a MM and somehow make the BW look like the a real idiot, you better believe she'll do it. They'll grasp at any straws to make themselves look better than the BS, can't have MM find out she's cruel, she's obsessed, and she's wacked in the head. They need to maintain a stellar image while playing upon the BW's ignorance. So basicly, I figured out that I am dealing with someone with a childs mind ~ > so I need to get down on her level. She can take all the friends she wants, but, there is *one* friend I know she wants most of all, my FWS. Today is his birthday, so I made him his very own myspace page. Congratulations FWS! The xOW should recognize the photo in the profile, it's the one she helped herself to take out from my family albums when he would sneak her over here during the A.. Oh, I added myself as his friend and left him a bikini birthday comment. Gush! I love you honey! He's in my top ten. click click click How much you want to bet me that is going to smash her dead in her windows vista, without even saying a word... Also, another thing, I'm fishing here by baiting (chumming) my FWS, so I dunno what I will catch. I bet she will have the gall to try to message him. So I may have opened up that can of worms again. lol. oh sh*it... ready? here we go, shes online now. PS Trialbyfire, I am reclaiming myspace. It's in the BW manual.
IfWishesWereHorses Posted May 1, 2007 Posted May 1, 2007 Well????? Did she bite??? Do you have a tracking program on your myspace?
2sunny Posted May 1, 2007 Posted May 1, 2007 OOD - Why don't you set up a page with a sexy picture of a gal and ask your H to be your myspace friend? See if he bites... and see if he propositions you after flirting with him a bit... You will have your answer to your predicament in a flash...
IWalkAlone Posted May 1, 2007 Posted May 1, 2007 I'm pretty sure that she has been checking out my page, so I made mine a tribute to my FWS, with lots pictures of us, hearts and graphics, like, "Be safe, sleep with a marine" Sleeping with a guy who feels he has to prove his machismo by joining the marines or having affairs doesn't seem that safe.
Author Ruby Tuesday Posted May 1, 2007 Author Posted May 1, 2007 She didn't bite yet, but he did get some autobot females (fembots) telling him there is something special about him, and to visit their webpage. lmao! You cant really track people who visit your page. There are programs that claim to do that, but none of them will work and besides, it's not allowed on myspace. Patience! Remember, thats also in the BS manual. lol She's ignorant, but just give her time to think of a new scheme. This one still feels like she has a foot in the door. I'd bet money on it that she will attempt to contact him. And you know I'm gonna post it if she even dares to contact him, because then I really may need your help with the NC letter shes going to be getting if she even tries. Maybe "FWS" could help drive her away with his neglect and indifference, too, you know. I have a few options here. Ironicly though, the mere sight of him makes her back off. With me, shes all up in my face, unless he is around. Then she just disappears. It's weird! I was out in the garden yesterday thinking to myself, how long has she known about me? and has followed me? How many details of my life was she always dying to find out about? She's been trained, you know. I need help coming up with a FWS like comment (from him) to put on my page to me. I know she will read whatever I post on that page. I want to take that frosty illusion of love away from her. She feels like she was his best friend having been there for him and all. She feels she is something special, whatever keeps her hanging on. It should be something like a man would tell his betrayed wife... "I love you, everything will be alright..." something short, sweet and to the point. Whatever lines he might have used on her too, just to drive her up the wall a little, lol.
IfWishesWereHorses Posted May 1, 2007 Posted May 1, 2007 If she's truly nuts, I don't know that you aren't maybe fueling her fire. If I were going to add comments from him, I wouldn't make it sound like she was an issue in your life anymore. Think I'ld aim for something like, "can't stop thinking about last night! You rock my world! Can I expect an encore performance tonight??"
Author Ruby Tuesday Posted May 1, 2007 Author Posted May 1, 2007 Sleeping with a guy who feels he has to prove his machismo by joining the marines or having affairs doesn't seem that safe. He is my husband, and I have been with him since we were kids. People just shouldnt ever mess with the husband-and-wife thing. People who are fortunate enough to have that bond between them, no one could ever take that away. Either way, we grew up together and have been through worse things than this, and FYI, he is greatful to have me, as I am to have him back. Affairs are not so uncommon. It's nothing unique. But you know what, I got my happy ending. He came back to me. It's pretty simple. If he had any interests in being with her, he'd be there with her. We all live within a five mile radius of one another. However, she has an awful lot of interest in me and after x amount of years, I'm just sick to death of it and just fed up to here. I still have to look over my shoulder, sometimes she is there & keeping up with my schedule. Sometimes she isnt, but I vary my schedule to avoid common places. Now all of the sudden shes added herself to myspace friends. She's going on for something and I'm just going to give her a taste of her own medicine, the marine thing was just a sexual innuendo. She knows he's a marine. She knows who he is sleeping with. The point was made! lol!
Author Ruby Tuesday Posted May 1, 2007 Author Posted May 1, 2007 If she's truly nuts, I don't know that you aren't maybe fueling her fire. If I were going to add comments from him, I wouldn't make it sound like she was an issue in your life anymore. Think I'ld aim for something like, "can't stop thinking about last night! You rock my world! Can I expect an encore performance tonight??" lol to the z.
Author Ruby Tuesday Posted May 8, 2007 Author Posted May 8, 2007 Nothing new to update. I guess no news is good news, right? Over the past week my page views have gone from 577 to 595 and his new page already has 33 page views, even though its set to private and the only way to see it is from my page. We live in a very small town. If you browsed our zip code, it only has three search pages. Anyway, I think FWS was the first one who would make or break contact with her. That was how they set things up. You know I guess so she wouldnt want to look desperate or nothing! Still, you can never question what desperate and insane might do. Thats why I'm keeping both eyes open this time. I also know they had a secret way of communicating, that if he drove by her house that meant he would be calling her soon. How romantic is that.
Trialbyfire Posted May 8, 2007 Posted May 8, 2007 I hope you have full access (signon and password) to his myspace page and can view all messages or IMs. You don't need to be a "friend" to communicate so hit up his account at random times. If her account is not private, look to her list of friends. You may find that he has another account that you are unaware of. Also, from a reality check perspective, you can't live this way. It's not good for you.
Salicious Crumb Posted May 8, 2007 Posted May 8, 2007 I read all the time on the infidelity sites about the OW putting up myspace pages and I guess it was just a matter of time before I found my own FWS's xOW on myspace. LOL xOW should be arrested for impersonating a human being. LOL...I like it..."impersonating a human being". Hey...lets have some fun...post the address of this myspace page to the OW who likes to mess with other women's husbands.
Author Ruby Tuesday Posted May 8, 2007 Author Posted May 8, 2007 Nothing about this affair has ever been good for me, but after a three year LTA, whats a girl to do. I mean (its funny) everybody wants the BS to pretend like OW doesnt exist but how does one pretend it never happened? I live in a small town and every now and then she shows up. The evil looks are free. lol. I have to adjust my life to keep away from her.
Author Ruby Tuesday Posted May 16, 2007 Author Posted May 16, 2007 June will be one year since the karma bus hit OW (for the fourth time) but she is posting pics of herself wearing the leather harley davidson coat he gave her. (Here little Bunny You better hold on to that coat because it's the only part left of him that is gonna keep you warm at night.) She posted more stalker songs, Faith Hill & Tim McGraw, "Like We Never Loved At All" and Hinder's "Lips Of an Angel" Keith Urban "Memories Of Us" and "Be There" and lot's of graphics about love and breakups. (Drunken words are sober thoughts) This person has had it in for me for four years (+ counting!) and I consider this a threat to our reconcilliation. I would be stupid to turn my back on her. It makes me sick, like a carnival ride that wont stop. Anyway, here are the lyrics to the Faith Hill song. I'm going to write FAITH HILL a hate-mail letter (lol) and then I'm going to go puke my guts out. "Like We Never Loved At All" You never looked so good As you did last night Underneath the city lights There walking with your friend Laughing at the moon I swear you looked right through me But I'm still living with your goodbye And you're just going on with your life How can you just walk on by Without one tear in your eye? Don't you have the slightest feelings left for me? Maybe that's just your way Of dealing with the pain Forgetting everything between our rise and fall Like we never loved at all You, I hear you're doing fine Seems like you're doing well As far as I can tell Time is leaving us behind Another week has passed And still I haven't laughed yet So tell me what your secret is? To letting go, letting go like you did, like you did Did you forget the magic? Did you forget the passion? Did you ever miss me Ever long to kiss me? Maybe that's just your way Of dealing with the pain Forgetting everything between our rise and fall Like we never loved at all
IfWishesWereHorses Posted May 16, 2007 Posted May 16, 2007 She still pining away for him huh?? Good for her, let her pine! And you with front row tickets. Enjoy the show, sounds like she's pulling out all the stops for your entertainment!
Author Ruby Tuesday Posted May 16, 2007 Author Posted May 16, 2007 Just between LS and me, when he gave her that leather coat, we had promised not to buy each other gifts that year. HD leathers aren't cheap. Women's leathers start at 350. I'm especially not happy about it, not when I always get the breeze from FWS about spending money. I dont own a coat like that, nor could I wear (HD) now that I know about it... this gift.. and I strictly remember doing without a present that year, too. God, it's just insulting in so many ways, I cant even begin to explain. He was the kind of WS that would buy her a digital camera the year after that, and then he had the nerve to tell me he didnt have the money to get anything for the kids (so I had to make up for that) and it was hard on me. I didnt get anything that year either. Telling me we didnt have the money. I was struggling to pay the light bill because he started sleeping over there, if you know what I mean. Those were the two hardest christmas' I ever had, and the hardest years of my life. And even Keith Urban couldn't write a love song as heartbreaking as mine. The irony of reconcilliation is, the most valuable thing (my honor) could not be bought for a leather coat, or a camera. They're worthless things in comparison.
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