heynowwww Posted April 28, 2007 Posted April 28, 2007 My ex who cheated on me and is now in an 8th month old relationship & seems to be happier then ever. It makes me extremely depressed. I always believed that one goes around comes around but at this point I am the one still lonely and upset and she is off having fun w/ someone new. How do I cope with this? Has anyone seen there ex screw them over then end up marrying the man of their dreams....how depressing.
AriaIncognito Posted April 28, 2007 Posted April 28, 2007 I dated a man for 4 years. Lived together, etc. Never got a ring. We broke up in June of 2000 I think. In July, he met his now wife. In December, he proposed marriage. 5 months into it, he proposed. I was with him for 4 years and never got that. So yeah, I can empathize. Looking back though, I know he and I weren't right for eachother. We had a great foundation of friendship, but the romanctic side wasn't really there. Gotta have both. It will get easier. It does suck to see people around you getting the one thing you feel you want/deserve. Lord knows I get jealous daily of all the happily married people. But then again, I never give any thought to all the unhappily married people. Grass is always greener. My best advice to you is to try to be happy for your ex, and to move on to look for that happiness for yourself. Someday, it will come for us all.
funkify Posted April 28, 2007 Posted April 28, 2007 I can definately understand what you're feeling, how about a man I was with for nearly 6 years! My circumstances were different though, I never know what I had until it was gone. Now he told me to forget it because he's in love with a beautiful woman...what a way to rub salt in the wound. Just as you found love with your ex, you will find it again. It always looks hopeless when we have no-one, then before you know it, it just happens. If you two were meant to be...it WILL happen. You've made it clear you want her, if she ever realises you are the one she loves than she will give it a go again. There are no obstacles to love when you really want it. Good Luck, I really feel for you and wish you all the best.
CaliGuy Posted April 29, 2007 Posted April 29, 2007 My ex who cheated on me and is now in an 8th month old relationship & seems to be happier then ever. It makes me extremely depressed. I always believed that one goes around comes around but at this point I am the one still lonely and upset and she is off having fun w/ someone new. How do I cope with this? Has anyone seen there ex screw them over then end up marrying the man of their dreams....how depressing. Yep. Happened to me. All that means is you will meet someone BETTER for you in due time. Never give up. Never feel that no one will want you, because that is a self-defeating attitude that in and of itself is a self-fulfilling prophecy. You will find the RIGHT one when you are ready to meet them. Don't spend any time wondering about your ex and if they are happy are not. They don't matter anymore in your life.
Icantletgo Posted April 29, 2007 Posted April 29, 2007 In time you won't care anymore. And I truely still believe what goes around comes around. Be patient. and if it doesn't you move on. you be happy.
panzer6 Posted April 29, 2007 Posted April 29, 2007 My ex keeps coming back every three months and acts like she still loves and misses me, this goes on for about a month usually and then bam !! She gives me the silent treatment. I hope and pray that she meets someone and just leaves me alone. I couldn't care less if she is with someone else. She is toxic and she will do the same thing to the new guy that she did to me and all the other guys before me. I actually feel sorry for any guy that she ends up with. The poor bastard wont know what hit him LOL !! I still care about her and I don't wish her any ill will but, I have the sneaky suspicion that she will be one of those toxic people who ends up alone or worse, in a really bad relationship. Either way I will not be have any part of it. This thing between us is done, time to stick a fork in it. We shouldn't mourn someone who treats us like garbage, we should throw a party when they finally decide to get lost and leave us alone forever !!!!
underpants Posted April 29, 2007 Posted April 29, 2007 Hi, I can only add my coin, or two into the fountain, but here it goes. Being cheated on...physically or (even emotionally...to the point where it effects your relationship...pathway to destruction is what I like to call it)... It is fear and patterns that lead ...I think weak/immature souls there. Hey, I have been there. Cheated on, treated badly, yadda yadda. I try to learn from my mistakes, but human nature and this quirky universe can be a biotch. What I do know is that you cannont analyse you reactions based on someone else's dysfunction...yes, cheating (emtionally/physically) is a deception to the current relationship. It really is all about communication, compromise and upmostly respect. Sorry to say by the time cheating is involved, respect is out the window...thus a deal breaker for me at least. Walking the line of respecting yourself without becoming some other (imho...weaker person's doormat) is a fine line, and perfecting this ...boundary is maybe one of all of our's greatest lesson. What is it that we want? What is it that we do not want? What would we tolerate? Sometimes pain, brings growth in some way. This can be a postive, just wrap your head around it the right way and you will be okay. ps...stay out of those cute little bunny holes...nothing there.... Take good care ...of you. Unders
pelagicsands Posted April 29, 2007 Posted April 29, 2007 How do I cope with this? Has anyone seen there ex screw them over then end up marrying the man of their dreams....how depressing. It's not depressing. It just means that it could happen to you, too.
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