Cardinal64 Posted April 28, 2007 Posted April 28, 2007 Hi again all. Well today was the day that we started the the divorce process btw my "loving wife" and I. Just want to get this all over with asap. I've had enough stress to last me a lifetime . Still. it does hurt realizing that now its for real . The months of separation and estrangement from my wife - all that - has lead to where we are now. My wife was "so kind" to let me know today that since our 6 year-old son - our only child - has been asking her repeatedly for a little brother or sister - she thinks she would like to have a second child now. Which is all well and nice - considering that she kept nagging me after our son was born - how she would have loved to have a second child but due to our finances we couldn't. Of course the blame fell entirely on me. Now - after we have separated and are in the process of divorcing - she decides that she wants another child. Wonderful. Of course she also advised me that she wants to choose a guy and then get pregnant. So apparently - all this time - it wasn't that it was our financial circumstances that was preventing her from having another child - which I would have been all for by the way - it was that she didn't want me to be the father. To say it felt like a slap in the face would be an understatement. Guess her cheating was not enough to hurt me in such a profound way that I eventually had to move out of the house. All I can say is the sooner I'm free of this bitch the better. My only concern now is the well-being of my son. He means everything to me. Anyway thanks for reading my post.
whichwayisup Posted April 28, 2007 Posted April 28, 2007 My stomach just churned as I read your post. Yes, the sooner you are away from her and out of her life, you can focus on you and your son. I hope she doesn't get in the way of your relationship with him. Don't be afraid to talk to your lawyer to make sure that she doesn't screw you over when it comes to your son. Anyway, one day she may realize she messed up big time and be full of regret. That will be the time she'll feel remorse, saddness and shame for hurting you and ruining your family unit. Hang in there and stay strong!
LakesideDream Posted April 28, 2007 Posted April 28, 2007 Reading your post made my head throb. The woman is a thankless, heartless bitch. No doubt about it. Keep your temper, and make sure your lawyer makes it as difficult for her as possible. Expect the worse from her..... soon she will drop the "you were just a sperm doner" card, that will empty her cupboard. Good luck and gods speed.
Darth Vader Posted April 28, 2007 Posted April 28, 2007 Make sure she doesn't mess you over, by finances, or child custody, you shouldn't have to pay anything for her mistakes.
Chrome Barracuda Posted April 28, 2007 Posted April 28, 2007 Trust me who she lay down with might just giver fleas. She may not even know. But you know what? So what she wants to have another kid, what if the man she sleeps with abandons her and that child, which could always be a posibility. She's gonna find it hard to be a single mother but it makes it even harder to raise two children without adequate support. You just live your life, and live for you. The best things are yet to come. Alot of times even in marraiges things dont always work out the way we want them to.
Trialbyfire Posted April 28, 2007 Posted April 28, 2007 What a whack-job. You're lucky to be free of her. Get those divorce papers drafted up and get her to sign them before she goes off the deep-end. If she shows further signs of being imbalanced, even better for your odds of getting more custody rights for your son.
Author Cardinal64 Posted April 28, 2007 Author Posted April 28, 2007 Thanks for your support everyone. I just have to shake my head when I think of how this woman - my soon to be ex-wife - has totally messed up my life and our son's. Bad enough that she screwed around on me with other men and eventually decided that she wanted "her freedom", but to let me know with a smile that she hoped to get pregnant so she can have the second child she always wanted. Seems like she can't wait for the divorce to be final. I can think of at least 3 to 4 men who must be extremely happy that we are calling it quits. Sort of like vultures circling above eagerly awaiting for me to be out of the picture for good. Well they need't worry. I won't be an obstacle for them anymore - they can have their fill of my "wife". Good ridance. But you know what? My conscience is clear. Yes, my heart really got ripped apart by her words and actions. But I'll survive. I deserve better. When walking through the "valley of shadows," remember, a shadow is cast by a Light Reading that gives me hope. Thanks again everyone. Cardinal64
4whatItsWorth Posted April 28, 2007 Posted April 28, 2007 At least she didn't get pregnant by another man and tricked you into believing it was your child...women can go that way too.
ckman Posted April 28, 2007 Posted April 28, 2007 I can only say that understand what you're going thru because I've been thru it and am going thru it again. Take comfort in knowing that she has issues not you. She will do the same thing to the next guy that she has done to you.
mrmaximum Posted April 29, 2007 Posted April 29, 2007 Reading your post made my head throb. The woman is a thankless, heartless bitch. No doubt about it. Keep your temper, and make sure your lawyer makes it as difficult for her as possible. Expect the worse from her..... soon she will drop the "you were just a sperm doner" card, that will empty her cupboard. Good luck and gods speed. Do what you have to do Card, but I agree with Lakeside Dream. For her to say this means she is either unbalanced, or she hasn't any mercy inside her whatsoever. Underestimate this woman at your peril. Do you best to get as much leverage as you can and be the best example for your son that you can, looks like he is going to need it. She'll get hers in the end, what goes around always comes around. Good Luck and God Bless
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