Journey1220 Posted April 28, 2007 Posted April 28, 2007 Hi everyone, Sorry to vent but I broke up with my on and off girlfriend of approximately three months. The relationship was doomed from the beginning and was resplendent with problems, trust issues, and a whole myriad of problems. This is fairly new and I want to stand my ground and not call and text her but I don't know what to do, I am numb and sort of just waiting by the phone. Where do I find the strength to move on ? Any advice can help.
2ndIINone Posted April 28, 2007 Posted April 28, 2007 I am numb and sort of just waiting by the phone waiting for what??? A relationship that was doomed from the start? Resplendent with problems? Trust issues?? You're ahead of 'most' that come to LS.... and since you obviously know your past with this girl... why are you waiting for more? Where do I find the strength to move on You're 75% there already... now you just need to NOT accept her calls when she comes around again.. focus on that first..... living FOR YOU! and only YOU... not her. She'll make you miserable.
Shandy Posted April 28, 2007 Posted April 28, 2007 Do something else. Read a book, curl up in bed and wallow until the feeling dies down, talk to a friend, post on LS, etc. Just don't contact her or you'll seem needy. I find that these feelings come in waves and you just need to ride them out. Like me, I was soooooo sad just a few hours ago but now I feel better and can function again. You need to work through them and trust me, after a couple of months you should be fine.
Author Journey1220 Posted April 28, 2007 Author Posted April 28, 2007 Thank you all for responding. I am waiting for more because that is what I am used to with her. I am used to her texting, calling, the whole nine yards. Tonite was different, something happened that triggered the im not looking back mentality, it hurts, it sucks, and I hope that i have the strength to stick to my decision of just moving on, but it is so hard. Easily said then done in my opinion.
johan Posted April 28, 2007 Posted April 28, 2007 Hey, man. Good move. Take heart from the fact that if it didn't happen now, then it would have happened eventually. Might as well give yourself the chance to be free from her issues. And let me point out the most impressive part of your whole post: ..resplendent.. If not for that one word, I wouldn't have responded. FYI, I made a relationship full of trust and insecurity issues last for 3-1/2 years. Hoping for change the whole time. And in the end I did just what you did. Snap, break it off, and try hard as hell to never look back. Sooner or later that's just what happens.
Author Journey1220 Posted April 28, 2007 Author Posted April 28, 2007 Johan, thank you for your words. They mean alot to me. The routine of hearing from her through texts and emails, phone calls is the hardest thing to get over, you know what i mean ?
johan Posted April 28, 2007 Posted April 28, 2007 Johan, thank you for your words. They mean alot to me. The routine of hearing from her through texts and emails, phone calls is the hardest thing to get over, you know what i mean ? I know what you mean. Trust me. Pretty much no matter how you break up, when it's someone you care about then that's how it feels. Having friends around makes it easier. Unless they are idiots and talk about her.
Author Journey1220 Posted April 28, 2007 Author Posted April 28, 2007 Im trying no contact but she texted me a few times today and me being the idiot responded. She is going out with her friends tonight when we were supposed to be together tonight. I am sick to my stomach, I can't eat and my whole being is consumed by grief. Everything rational under the sun tells me this girl was not for me but I can't stand not talking to her. Help!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2ndIINone Posted April 29, 2007 Posted April 29, 2007 well then you have to take a good hard look at yourself... and ask yourself... why is SHE goin' out with friends... having fun... living her life as YOU sit home sulking. Forget her... just for the night... call up some friends and get out of the house. It's Saturday night.... she out....so should you be out. Go enjoy youself, it'll get your mind off of things for a little while.
johan Posted April 29, 2007 Posted April 29, 2007 Don't think about what she's doing. You broke up, because you didn't want to be with her. So this is the start of not being with her. If you broke up because you thought it would teach her a lesson, you won't know whether it worked in one night. Chances are she won't learn, she'll just go on and screw up another relationship. Do your thing. That's what you need to do.
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