Icantletgo Posted April 27, 2007 Posted April 27, 2007 i am on day 8 of nc with my ex who cheated on me and is official with his new girl. HE JUST CALLED ME 6 TIMES IN A ROW. I didn't answer at all. Should I call him back!! Why would he call me so many times!! What if it was an emergency??? OMG HE'S CALLING ME AGAIN RIGHT NOW.
Shandy Posted April 27, 2007 Posted April 27, 2007 Do not call him back!!! He is probably wondering what's going on since you didn't pick up his phone and you are not reacting to the news that he and his gf are now official. If you pick up then you will give the power back to him. If it's an emergency he will leave a voice mail. THEN unless it is a true emergency (like someone in his family died, knock knock knock on wood) just delete the voice mail and be on your merry way!!!
SweetOlive Posted April 27, 2007 Posted April 27, 2007 i am on day 8 of nc with my ex who cheated on me and is official with his new girl. HE JUST CALLED ME 6 TIMES IN A ROW. I didn't answer at all. Should I call him back!! Why would he call me so many times!! What if it was an emergency??? OMG HE'S CALLING ME AGAIN RIGHT NOW. Dont answer... Sweetie he cheated on you!! Do you really want to go back into NC 1 and feel that pain all over again... Do whats best for you not whats best for him... You deserve better!
agnf666 Posted April 27, 2007 Posted April 27, 2007 First off, calm down. If you have an answering machine, he can leave you a message. Maybe he doesn't have a new girlfriend, Like I said in your last thread... he maybe doing this to make you jealous. I'm surprised you didn't answer the phone. I wouldn't call him back I would answer the damn phone so he will stop calling and just talk to him. Don't get back together with him.
District Posted April 27, 2007 Posted April 27, 2007 go somewhere with out your cellphone. whatever emergency it is... its not your problem. if he's in some kind of bind... its HIS bind. *f this guy. he's only calling you because he needs your help... he's just using you. dont let him use you.
Author Icantletgo Posted April 27, 2007 Author Posted April 27, 2007 CRAP. He called me 3 more times in a row. Then he left me a text message saying "please call me back. I need to talk to you". DAMN IT AND I BROKE NC. I wrote back "what's up. tell me via text" I'm just scared it's something important!! DAMN IT!
agnf666 Posted April 27, 2007 Posted April 27, 2007 Just let it play out like that. He is probably flipping out because your best friend told you that he broke his arm fighting over another girl and he still loves you or what not and he wants you back. I can see exactly where this is going. Well, looks like your going to fall for the trap... I hope not.. be strong. Just Say no! Once a cheater most likely always a cheater!
Trialbyfire Posted April 27, 2007 Posted April 27, 2007 Let's see what he has to say. After all, didn't he just break his hand having a fight about his new g/f? So...what could be so important?
Shandy Posted April 27, 2007 Posted April 27, 2007 It's okay. There's breaking nc slightly without too much hurt and confusion and then there's totally breaking nc which makes you go back to square one. Don't let him lean on you he has a gf now. Just be polite, see what he has to say, and then go back to NC.
District Posted April 27, 2007 Posted April 27, 2007 i hate to sound nosy but i cant help but wonder what happened.... icantletgo's story is like a soap opera
AriaIncognito Posted April 27, 2007 Posted April 27, 2007 Seems like a big mistake to me. Not only did you fall for his trap, but you also let him know you were sitting around with nothing better to do on a friday night than tend to his needs... You really need to think about it from that perspective before rushing to his aid. If it had been an actual emergency, a voicemail would have been left after call 1. He just wants to make sure you're still there for him should he decide he wants attention. Harsh, but true. Do you really want someone who just wants you around because he's got nothing else going at that moment? Or do you want someone who will make you the most important person in his life?
Trialbyfire Posted April 27, 2007 Posted April 27, 2007 Please post what he wants, if you feel comfortable doing this.
dr strangelove Posted April 28, 2007 Posted April 28, 2007 Wow "Icantletgo" you are like every insecure quirky ex I ever dated piled into one and some that my friends dated included... Its frigging hilarious.. An emergency? What like a MIDNIGHT MADNESS sale at JC pennys?
CaliGuy Posted April 28, 2007 Posted April 28, 2007 Why would you even bother giving this guy the time of day? He cheated on you. That's the most disrespectful and heartless thing anyone could do in a relationship. Drop this guy like yesterday's news. Because he is.
allina Posted April 28, 2007 Posted April 28, 2007 He just wants to make sure you're still there for him should he decide he wants attention. Harsh, but true. Do you really want someone who just wants you around because he's got nothing else going at that moment? Or do you want someone who will make you the most important person in his life? This is probably true, and it should ring quite a bell Aria. Like others I want to know what happened!
2ndIINone Posted April 28, 2007 Posted April 28, 2007 Seems like a big mistake to me. Not only did you fall for his trap, but you also let him know you were sitting around with nothing better to do on a friday night than tend to his needs... Bingo!!! 8 days NC.... what a waste.
AriaIncognito Posted April 28, 2007 Posted April 28, 2007 This is probably true, and it should ring quite a bell Aria. Like others I want to know what happened! Why do you think i'm on day 19 of NC, allina ;-) He no longer has me to fall back on. Heck, I even have a tiny crush on someone else. Take that, ex.
Author Icantletgo Posted April 28, 2007 Author Posted April 28, 2007 Okay guys. I know you guys are mad at me but I'm actually strong. He said he realizes that maybe he made a mistake. Begging me to call him. I refused. I just got home right now from my best friend's and I am so damn curious to see what he has to say. So he may come over tonight. But I told him to bring all my stuff from his house (cause I want my stuff back FINALLY). I'm actually strong. I want him to tell me these lies and I'm going to say "good bye. you had your chance, you lost". All he is is LIES LIES LIES LIES. I'm not second best so why am I second choice. YOU ARE THE WEAKEST LINK, GOODBYE. I'll post what happens tomorrow. and guess what I'm going to tell him I met someone!
Author Icantletgo Posted April 28, 2007 Author Posted April 28, 2007 Yea. Seriously like a couple of days ago. NOTHING serious at all. Just getting to know each other. NOTHING serious at all. Friends right now actually. But why ruin potential future for a broken past.
District Posted April 28, 2007 Posted April 28, 2007 and that was his emergency? it took him 8+ days to realize that he messed up AFTER he hooked up with someone else and after he broke his stupid hand defending her?? this guy is sooo playing you. dont buy into his crap
Author Icantletgo Posted April 28, 2007 Author Posted April 28, 2007 I'm not going to lie. If he tells me tonight that he still wants me, I would have jumped at the chance weeks ago. But tonight. When and if i look at him, I won't see the man I fell in love with. I'll see a deceitful, lying, cheating bastard. I want my stuff and I want him out of my house/life.
CaliGuy Posted April 28, 2007 Posted April 28, 2007 I'm not going to lie. If he tells me tonight that he still wants me, I would have jumped at the chance weeks ago. But tonight. When and if i look at him, I won't see the man I fell in love with. I'll see a deceitful, lying, cheating bastard. I want my stuff and I want him out of my house/life. You say that now, can you hold tight to that thought? Even when he is saying all the things you want to hear?
Author Icantletgo Posted April 28, 2007 Author Posted April 28, 2007 He's told me stuff I've wanted to hear for the past 8 months. 8 long months. 8 months I could have met someone else, moved on with my life. I realize now that words mean nothing. Actions mean everything. He was always sweet talking me, never ever showing me that he does care. Enough is enough. I really sincerely want to close this chapter of my life. Why waste another minute with something so negative.
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