hope1975 Posted April 27, 2007 Posted April 27, 2007 This is kind of a long story, but I'll try & keep it short. About 2 years ago I met a man through my work. We immediately hit it off, and became good friends, he has helped me through alot of stuff in my life & is always there for me. I developed feelings for him & eventually did the right thing & told him..he didn't feel the same way, so we dropped it & moved on, but remained close friends. The problem is I can't seem to get over my feelings for him...everytime we talk, he's just so sweet & lovely that it makes me feel for him even more. I can't do the whole no contact thing because we have to talk for business reasons, and also he's my best friend & if I was to stop talking to him I know it would hurt him alot. I try to go out & meet new people, I date etc, but nothing changes how I feel...I'm terrified that this will ruin our relationship. I guess I'm hoping that his feelings may change..even though I know in my head that rarely happens. does anyone have any suggestions on how I can get over him completely? or any opinions on if feelings can change?
District Posted April 27, 2007 Posted April 27, 2007 i am/was dating a coworker, if you read my thread you'll see that we had a fall out. anyways, there is no easy way around it, you must keep personal and business separate. i learned it the hard way. i've been working at this company for over 2 years... i'm going to resign. if he doesnt feel the same way about you, then thats just that, you cant force someone to like you. to get over him completely... change your job. and he wont change his feelings...
Author hope1975 Posted April 27, 2007 Author Posted April 27, 2007 I agree district! I wish I could just change jobs but as we are partners in the company, I can't walk away, if i could, it would make it so much easier. I really wish I could just stop feeling this way. Maybe time will help, but as I said, everytime I talk to him it makes it harder.
District Posted April 27, 2007 Posted April 27, 2007 ouch! partners.... yea you cant just walk away. okay... PLAN B: accept the fact that he's not going to change. and move on because there are many other fishes in the sea. you'll find another guy like him... but better.
Trialbyfire Posted April 28, 2007 Posted April 28, 2007 Since you probably know others in the business, is there no way that you can find someone to take over your portion of the partnership and revamp your agreement? I know it seems extreme but if that's what it takes for you to step away from something that has the potential to affect your business relationship, it might be worthwhile to look into. Beyond that, only time and concerted effort on your part will help. Good luck.
Author hope1975 Posted April 28, 2007 Author Posted April 28, 2007 thanks for the replies As we've only just started the business I can't really get someone to buy me out or take over my share Maybe I just have to try & do what district suggested and accept he's not going to change & put him out of my head...it's just really hard to do. Sometimes he flirts & stuff which makes it even harder, but I think that is just who he is as a person, and I think even if I spoke to him about it, it wouldn't change anything. urrghh wish I could just get over him
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