BriLeigh Posted April 27, 2007 Posted April 27, 2007 I've known this guy for three years, and I've had a crush on him for two, but I've never told him. In the past few months we've become great friends and have spent a lot of time together. I really love that time we get to spend together, and I don't want to ruin a great friendship, but I feel like I spend too much time thinking about what certain things mean or why he does this or whatever. So, my question is: Do I tell him how I feel about him? Or do I just keep being his friend and see where things go? Details, if you want 'em: -Everytime we're in a big group of friends, we flirt a LOT. It also seems as though we end up spending most of the "group time" with each other-- either sitting next to each other during a dinner or automatically gravitating towards each other at a party. (even if I don't initiate it) When we spend time together one-on-one, we don't really flirt. We talk about all kinds of things like work, family, pet peeves, etc. Lot's of the "getting to know you" stuff. -He's asked me if we could spend one night a week getting together to work on my music- I write and he's a sound guy. So we spend a few hours a week at his place recording music. -Aside from our music night, we get together for coffee or lunch about once a week as well. (Evenly proposed) -He's 29 and I'm 21. Friends (who are probably just telling me what I want to hear) have said he's interested but probably put off by the age difference. Is it really a big deal? -He talks to me about other women-- I picked him up at the airport once and when I asked him about the flight he said that he'd met a cute girl that lives in the area and he'd almost given her his number. Another time when we were out with a group of friends, he mentioned how the waitress was good-looking and he wrote his number down for her on the paper tablecloth right in front of me. Basically, I think that we're just friends that flirt. I think that if he was really interested in me in that way, he would do something about it-- he's clearly not shy with asking women out. I don't want to be just another woman that has a crush on him-- I want to be a friend to him, and I'm worried about screwing it up by telling him how I feel if he doesn't feel the same way. I don't know if this is a big deal, but another issue is that I'm pretty insecure about how I look-- I'm overweight, and all the women that he's mentioned or who have been interested in him before have been really skinny. I think that is probably another reason that I'm afraid to tell him how I feel. Is he interested? Or no? what should I do? Thanks for reading.
Star Gazer Posted April 27, 2007 Posted April 27, 2007 -He talks to me about other women-- I picked him up at the airport once and when I asked him about the flight he said that he'd met a cute girl that lives in the area and he'd almost given her his number. Another time when we were out with a group of friends, he mentioned how the waitress was good-looking and he wrote his number down for her on the paper tablecloth right in front of me. This alone tells me you're just friends. I agree that because he doesn't have a problem asking women out, if he was interested in you in a romantic sense he would have done something about it by now. Sorry.
Aloros Posted April 27, 2007 Posted April 27, 2007 This alone tells me you're just friends. I agree that because he doesn't have a problem asking women out, if he was interested in you in a romantic sense he would have done something about it by now. Sorry. Agreed. Sorry.
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